18+ I'm sick of having to deal with this each day (1 Viewer)

[Harmony_Starz]

This is rated 18 cuz it contains talk of topics above 18. Also trigger warning because this contains talk of pedophilic stuff.

Spoiler: What happened

So I am copy pasting stuff I had written before when this began, its from september 9th.


I am thinking that my uncle is a p3do, here is why I am thinking this:

1. even though I've been bathing by myself for over a year, he still asked twice recently if I needed 'help' with it and it was worded kinda weirdly.

2. he told me yesterday about how in his childhood people used flour to scrub their skin clean (thats so strange) and said I should try it, I said no and he said "its something you should experience", I said no again and he said "why? I could scrub your back" and just what the hell is with that? I've been bathing by myself for like 2-3 years already and im almost 15, its just weird to ask this.

3. recently he's been trying to sleep in the same bed as me saying that he just wants to spend more time with me and wants to talk, I didnt like it and said the bed was cramped (it was but my issue was with him not the bed) so I started making the bed on the floor and we've been sleeping there for 3 times now and this is fine with me except that he's annoyingly touchy. he says families should show affection and that others do a lot of kissing, hugging and cuddling so now at night he wraps his arm around my waist which is fine but last night his hand kept going over my breasts and near my private areas, I had a blanket tho but still i disliked it and his hand would not stay still, i hated it, i dont feel comfortable at all with that.

4. My uncle began telling me about 'birds and bees' and I said I knew that since 9 (it was like 7 actually but whatever, I lied) and he was surprised and we talked about it and afterwards he asked if I was comfortable with him touching me and I asked 'in what way?', he replied with 'what do you think?' And I said 'in general?', he said 's3xual' and i was like 'no' immediately. What 50+ year old thinks its okay to touch a 14 year old like that? I dont give a flying f/ck if we're related or close (we're barely close), that just makes it worse.

5. after that, He said that at night he watched porn (i knew that too, he was surprised) and that he j3rked off and asked if I watched and I said no and he asked if it interested me which again i said no to.

He then said I should m@st@rubate as 'its good' and I said that i just didnt want to and that i would rather wait till some more years and he kept being like 'life is short, you shouldn't waste time' like, who cares and why even are YOU talking to me about this??? This sh1t isnt that important nor even necessary but he kept asking. He did accept my decision tho. 😭😭😭😭 Hated this conversation to pieces.



On september 15th: (again copy pasted)

I talked to him soon 1 night and he said that inc3st between family members is okay as long as they consent, then he suggested us doing 'things' and I said no and thankfully he said it was fine but it made me so uncomfortable that he thought of doing such things with me

Then last night, we had a fun conversation and we decided to go to sleep and he was laying on his back and i was on my side facing him and I could see that he was j3rking off. Who the fuck does that? Like 1. He knew i wasnt asleep, it had only been like 3 minutes since we stopped talking, 2. I was literally facing him. 3. He wasn't even facing away while doing it. What bothers me is that since it was just a few minutes after talking with me, he could have been thinking of me while doing that 😭



Now:


This is now a daily goddamn occurence, every night, while we talk, he keeps on putting his arm around me and that hand goes lower than the waist and its just very sus and I have to keep changing positions and constantly think of it. Then after enough talking, I decide i wanna sleep and then like a minute after, he'll start j3rking off and often he watches p0rn on thr laptop, its on the table and thr chair is right next to the bed. He j3rks off during that and I hate it. Often he's also touching me at night, I keep waking up to his hands on my butt or somewhere they shouldnt be but if I said anything, he could say that he was simply putting his arm around me or some other completely stupid excuse.

I used to feel alone before and wished he would pay more attention to me but now I wish it was like before, it was far better than this. I wanna tell my cousin or my brother but I don't want to mess up the way life is. My brother is in college still and needs to get a job soon, its a very important time for him and I don't want to tell somebody because my uncle helps my brother with a lot of the stuff he is doing and I want my brother to have this help because he doesn't interact much with the other students or teachers and is kinda naive about the world. I don't want him to have to deal with everything by himself or be distracted by this.

 

[Villains]

you absolutely need to talk to someone. this is not safe, he is a disgusting man. please try to talk to someone
i'm so sorry you're dealing with this but you need to talk to someone as soon as possible. please try to get away from him

 

[Harmony_Starz]

you absolutely need to talk to someone. this is not safe, he is a disgusting man. please try to talk to someone
i'm so sorry you're dealing with this but you need to talk to someone as soon as possible. please try to get away from him

I could, I could tell my cousin, her parents really nice and would definitely never let this continue but its not like its TOO bad, I can deal with it, atleast till my brother gets a good job or I'm older

 

[uran]

That is fucking disgusting. Not that he was ever not over the line of inappropriate and disgusting but him saying straight up that incest is ok is alarming. I would tell to my schools curator and basically have him reported to child protection services which is what the curator would have to do even if you didnt ask for it to be reported (at least in finland)

 

[Pirioca]

If you are 15 and he would be interested in you sexually, he wouldn't be pedophile in a legal sense. Generally pedophiles lose interest in their victims when they reaches puberty. You are no child anymore. But because you are no child anymore, you need to draw a clear line. If your uncle don't understand the meaning of 'No!', you should take further action.

 

[Villains]

I could, I could tell my cousin, her parents really nice and would definitely never let this continue but its not like its TOO bad, I can deal with it, atleast till my brother gets a good job or I'm older

i'm sorry but this IS BAD. you shouldn't have to deal with such a disgusting man every single day. since you're so young too, this is not the environment you should be in.

 

[Harmony_Starz]

That is fucking disgusting. Not that he was ever not over the line of inappropriate and disgusting but him saying straight up that incest is ok is alarming. I would tell to my schools curator and basically have him reported to child protection services which is what the curator would have to do even if you didnt ask for it to be reported (at least in finland)

I'm homeschooled and this is India where the police are complete sh1ts at what they do :D

 

[Harmony_Starz]

If you are 15 and he would be interested in you sexually, he wouldn't be pedophile in a legal sense. Generally pedophiles lose interest in their victims when they reaches puberty. You are no child anymore. But because you are no child anymore, you need to draw a clear line. If your uncle don't understand the meaning of 'No!' you should take further action.

I have no idea what to do :')

 

[uran]

I'm homeschooled and this is India where the police are complete sh1ts at what they do :D

i truly hope you get some help in any way possible or he finally gets some common sense and stop doing what he is doing

 

[Pirioca]

I have no idea what to do :')

Your uncle lives in the same house?

 

[Harmony_Starz]

i'm sorry but this IS BAD. you shouldn't have to deal with such a disgusting man every single day. since you're so young too, this is not the environment you should be in.

It is and I would definitely would hate for any other person to have to deal with this but I'll be fine, I don't want life to change because if it does, it isnt going to turn out any better

 

[Harmony_Starz]

i truly hope you get some help in any way possible or he finally gets some common sense and stop doing what he is doing

I doubt the latter would happen

 

[Harmony_Starz]

Your uncle lives in the same house?

Obviously, I live with him, my brother stays at college year long

 

[Pirioca]

Obviously, I live with him, my brother stays at college year long

I don't know if there is some sort of youth welfare office in India.

But here's a list of helpline numbers.

A Complete List Of Emergency Helpline Numbers All Over India

Positions of physical and mental danger can be extremely overwhelming –– the need for help in such situations is of utmost importance. Prompt reactions by anyon

homegrown.co.in

'Women’s Helpline (Domestic Abuse)' or 'Children In Difficult Situation' could work for you. 'Kiran Mental Health Helpline' would be an option too.

Maybe you can find help there. Obviously you shouldn't call such helpline when your uncle is present.

Do you have other family members where you could live?

 

[Harmony_Starz]

I don't know if there is some sort of youth welfare office in India.

But here's a list of helpline numbers.

A Complete List Of Emergency Helpline Numbers All Over India

Positions of physical and mental danger can be extremely overwhelming –– the need for help in such situations is of utmost importance. Prompt reactions by anyon

homegrown.co.in

'Women’s Helpline (Domestic Abuse)' or 'Children In Difficult Situation' could work. ' Kiran Mental Health Helpline' would be an option too.

Maybe you can find help there. Obviously you shouldn't call such helpline when your uncle is present.

Do you have other family members where could move to?

Yeahhh not gonna go there anyway.

I do have my cousins family but Idk if they could take care of me or not because they already got 2 kids and live in US, my other uncle has a bad family, they just care for money, are lazy and yeah, they are not good people for raising somebody. I would have been able to stay with my grandma but she broke her leg 2 years ago and now she's bedridden, she needs somebody 24/7

 

[Pirioca]

I do have my cousins family but Idk if they could take care of me or not because they already got 2 kids and live in US.

Tell your cousin's family about the situation and ask them. If they have younger kids, you could help caring about them.

 

[Horizonshard]

None of his behavior is acceptable by any definition. You need to tell someone in authority.

Hopefully your parents (if they're in the picture) would help you. If not, you need to tell someone else in authority, and keep telling people until something gets done.

The situation you're in is not safe, emotionally or physically. I hope everything improves for you, and please be careful and safe!

 

[Harmony_Starz]

Tell your cousin's family about the situation and ask them. If they have younger kids, you could help caring about them.

The older one is a year and 1/2 younger than my brother and the younger one is a year and 1/2 younger than me.

But if i tell them, what about my brother, despite the fact that my cousins father works in a similiar job and is smart and could help my brother with his college work and getting a job and all, I dont wanna change everything now

 

[MK3AM]

Oh hun im so sorry i think you should talk with an adult about this and to make sure that you both arent in a room together alone...

 

[Pirioca]

The older one is a year and 1/2 younger than my brother and the younger one is a year and 1/2 younger than me.

But if i tell them, what about my brother, despite the fact that my cousins father works in a similiar job and is smart and could help my brother with his college work and getting a job and all, I dont wanna change everything now

But then the situation will probably not change. Don't think about the things that could be. Ask and see what happens. After your brother graduated college and got a job, he'll have a life on his own anyway. Maybe you can move somewhere else with your brother then. But how long will it take until the time has come?

Always explore all your options before making decisions. One option should be finding professional help now.