(Trigger Warning) Hello Counselor: Abusive father (1 Viewer)

[Yili]

Here is the original video with a lot more context involved



Here is the Twitter post that brought it to my attention



Now I don't know what you guys get from this, but what I got the whole time is that this boy is being sexually abused by his father, and so do the other thousands of people who found this video.
If you want to bring attention to this and get it out to people that can do something more
1. Report the video to YouTube for content violation
2. Retweet this Tweet and share it with your own followers, share it also with influencers (YouTubers) that you think might be able to point out this BS and give it more of an audience
3. Share it on social media platforms you feel comfortable doing so on.

Sorry for the downer thread guys but I wanted people to find this

 

[lexus]

I only watched the Twitter video, but I might watch the full episode soon. However, just from watching the Twitter video, I am completely disgusted by this man. I can’t believe that he said it’s only okay when he touches his sons private parts, but it’s not okay if others do it. He even pulls his pants down to to show his private to everyone and tells him that his privates are “important”. I’m truly disgusted. This guy is completely sick and twisted.

 

[Yili]

I only watched the Twitter video, but I might watch the full episode soon. However, just from watching the Twitter video, I am completely disgusted by this man. I can’t believe that he said it’s only okay when he touches his sons private parts, but it’s not okay if others do it. He even pulls his pants down to to show his private to everyone and tells him that his privates are “important”. I’m truly disgusted. This guy is completely sick and twisted.

I admit I haven't even seen the whole episode yet because it made me sick just from the brief clip that I saw. Don't know if I can stomach the whole episode of this father being so nonchalant about abusing his child and his wife clearly being not ok with it

 

[Skinnny]

This is messed up on multiple levels.

 

[yeji]

wow this really is sick and messed up. I definitely won’t watch the full episode

 

[Administrator2]

This is disgusting. He is touching his privates, KISSES him on it, brags about it by stripping his kid down in public. He admitted it on national TV. Why is nobody doing anything about it? More importantly, all guests and idols are laughing it off saying kid might not like it. The kid said clearly he doesn't like it. This is child abuse.

 

[Discipline]

This is such a violation of humans rights for the boy, it's morbid. I hate the fact that some of the hosts tried to lighten the mood by laughing and not taking the issue at face value, which is that the boy is being sexually abused. The child is clearly embarrassed when he's given the chance to speak and even tries to hide into his father's arm, someone who is meant to PROTECT, CARE FOR, and EDUCATE the child. This father has failed his son on multiple levels and the fact that no action is being taken is disgusting tbh.

 

[Administrator2]

I just saw the entire thing. The man is in his 40s, he still has a habit of touching his mother's breasts and gropes his wife in the supermarket and the ZOO. He also rubs his worn underwear on his children. Again, how is this broadcast allowed in the first place and why is this man not treated for whatever disorder he's having?

 

[baekk]

I was going to watch that this weekend

 

[blueberries]

Reported it. Quite crazy stuff.

 

[Suzy]

From everything I have read, I can't even stomach watching it. I watch Hello Counselor once in a while whenever I have nothing else to do and there are so many serious issues that they turn into a joke that I'm not even surprised that they're turning sexual abuse into a joke too. It's just so disgusting. From what I read, the dad plays and kisses his son's privates and they think that's fine? I'm honestly disgusted. There's a time and place to joke and this most definitely isn't one of them. He also apparently abuses his wife too. They should be reporting that guy not encouraging him and laughing about it on tv. So many young people watch these shows, what type of example do they think they're setting? I really hope this issue goes to the police and someone saves that poor boy from that person that claims to be his father. Truly disgusting.

As for the show, they need to learn to differentiate between topics to joke about and topics to take seriously. They also need a real counselor on the show. If they can't get one then they should just take it off air already.

 

[jjvsrjj]

I went to watch the full episode, thinking that the worst would have already been shown in those few highlight clips, I was very wrong.
For people who can’t find or view the whole episode I made a summary:

The wife starts off with listing the ‘pranks’ her husband pulls on their children:
He puts his own worn underwear on their faces, he slaps his worn socks in their daughters face, he throws them in deep water and watches them trying not to drown, he trips them while they’re running and he scolds them for no reason other than that he likes to see them cry.
According to the wife, the worst thing he does is: he holds both of their hands above their head, lays them on the ground, presses his knee in their belly to keep the child there and then starts kissing them all over, including their private parts. She says that her son really hates that and that when his father tries to touch his private parts, he runs away and hides in his closet. She adds to this that her son also does not like to sleep next to his father.

The father says that his son has very pale skin and that his private parts are even paler. He thinks this is cute, so he started touching his sons private parts when he was baby, and it became a habit. (the son is now five)
During the whole episode the son is either slapping his father or trying to bite or hurt him in any other way. At one time he comments that his father should stop.

The father says that at first he son likes it and laughs with him, but after 5 to 10 minutes, he doesn’t like it anymore. He wonders if maybe it’s just because he does it for too long.
They try to talk to the kid, but he sees his own face on the big screen and tries to hide his face. They do say that they called the kid before the show. He told them over the phone that he really didn’t like it what his father did to him.
The wife goes on that he doesn’t only do this at home, he also does it in public. He pulls his son’s pants down to show his grandparents his penis.

The showhosts ask if he also ‘jokes’ around with his wife and she says it’s even WORSE when it comes to her? How?
He for example tells her she is a big and they should ‘wrestle’. She says he is extreme when it comes to physical ‘affection’. When she is doing the dishes, he comes up behind her, starts grabbing her breasts and puts his hand in her pants till he gets ‘excited’ and asks her to come to the bedroom with him. He does this all in front of the kids.

He does the same thing when they are in public, at the market or the zoo, he slaps her breasts and says: ‘’There is not much there, why are they so small? ’’ When she is embarressed and asks him to stop, he refuses to because she is his wife and he can do with her what he wants.
The wife wants to tell another story but stops herself.. ‘’ I am not sure I can talk about this..’’ She tells how he also touches his mom’s breasts, even in front of her. He says that touching his mom’s breasts

Then the craziest thing happens… how is this real I can’t even understand..
Apparantly a senior minister of Singapore, a big fan of the show, is in the audience? So they cut to him. He thanks them for having him and has the decency to say that he thinks there are boundaries when it comes to parents touching their children and that in Singapore they encourage parents to raise their children in an Appropriate way. Still he is all smiles.

They cut back to the wife, we hear about that fact that he also does nothing around the house, not even when she or the children are sick or in the period when she was pregnant. The wife is still very hurt when she asked him to help one time and he responded with: You should go out and make money than, I am tired, what’s so hard about watching the kids.

The wife says she is so stressed that she went to a psychiatric hospital, she can’t finish her sentence and she starts crying…breaks down on stage. She says her depression is getting worse, and her stress has developed in a panic disorder. When she told her husband he said: Really? I geuss you need treatment than. She is now taking medicine.

The wife says she doesn’t feel like a women but just like a tool to birth babies for him. When they show hosts ask her why, she says that one time, while she was pregnant, they slept over at her husbands parents house. At night, she was really cold, so she asked him to turn up the heater, he refused to do so and told her she would be okay. The next day her water broke way too early in her pregnancy. Because the baby would not have survived being born, she had to get shots for a whole month to close up her cervix and she had to wear a cathether. She starts crying again.

The show did consult a specialist, which i’ve never seen them do before, maybe they do see the seriousness of the situation at least partly. They tell the father that the specialist said that if he keeps doing the things he is donig, his child might lose trust in him and lose his self esteem.
They end with the father making promises that he will help more, even though he also adds things he wants from his wife, like her responding more to his affection. He does not seem to understand at all that what he is doing is wrong.

To me it did seem like most people in the audience were very shocked at what they were hearing. Also the hosts weren’t as nice or playful to ‘the person in the wrong’ as they usually are. At several occasion they did try to hold him accountable for what he did. Still they weren’t nearly as outraged or concerned as I thought anyone would be. I think what is very difficult for a Western audience to understand is that, in our society, we would not only be shocked, we would take (legal) action. Perhaps their ‘lack of reaction’, in the eyes of many western people, comes from the fact that they (probably rightly so) assumed that there was nothing concrete they could really do to change the situation. Like abuse by authority figures, is just something people have to deal with. I really hope this will start to change.
I was shocked to see that only 151 of 200 people in the audience thought it was a concern. Almost 50 out of 200 people thought it wasn’t even something the wife should be concerned about.

Well this was a very long post, hopefully it’s helpful to understand the whole situation.

God i’m still mad.

 

[JoanaIsHere]

Get him arrested immediately.

 

[Administrator2]

I thought it was a culture shock of a sort and that those things seem to be normal in Korea. It's really worrying that almost 50 people consider his actions normal.