red flags? (1 Viewer)

[Wingfrost]

When people want to get close to you WAY too soon and cross boundaries while doing so. Especially when they do it in a way that puts you in a position where if you are direct and say no, I'm uncomfortable, you are painted as "the bad person". So you feel bad, despite having no reason to think that way.
This makes it clear that that person is using you as means to validate themselves and stay on top. Very toxic.

This exactly ^
Had that happen to me before, a guy who kept pursuing me after I already let him know I wasn’t interested said that he’s “going to kiss me when you least expect it”. I told him no and he got upset with me To top it off when I told those around me they thought I was lying because they didn’t believe he would treat a woman like that.

 

[MK3AM]

anyone whos from here

 

[StrayMixx]

anyone whos from here

I resent that remark!

 

[StrayMixx]

anyone who's prejudiced against Americans, apparently @MK3AM

But anyway, my personal ones are (and #1 is a trigger warning, so it's in a spoiler):

-"it'll be our little secret" - I had that happen to me after I was sexually assaulted by the night manager at the home for the blind I used to live at. He was actually the reason I eventually moved.
-fetishes
-people who have a low tolerance for my obsessions or beliefs and jump down my throat about it

 

[MK3AM]

anyone who's prejudiced against Americans, apparently @MK3AM

But anyway, my personal ones are (and #1 is a trigger warning, so it's in a spoiler):

-"it'll be our little secret" - I had that happen to me after I was sexually assaulted by the night manager at the home for the blind I used to live at. He was actually the reason I eventually moved.
-fetishes
-people who have a low tolerance for my obsessions or beliefs and jump down my throat about it

yea FORK AMERICANS

 

[hxney_jun]

anyone who's prejudiced against Americans, apparently @MK3AM

But anyway, my personal ones are (and #1 is a trigger warning, so it's in a spoiler):

-"it'll be our little secret" - I had that happen to me after I was sexually assaulted by the night manager at the home for the blind I used to live at. He was actually the reason I eventually moved.
-fetishes
-people who have a low tolerance for my obsessions or beliefs and jump down my throat about it

same.
to all of it.
and im sorry it happened to you. mine wasn't as nearly as serious as your's but my heart goes out to you. even with so much distance it brought me heartache and struggle. i can't even imagine how hard it must've been for you