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[Nina]

What are some things you can't stand about having a period (other than cramps and o.o uncontrollably bleeding out of a hole).

Something I grew up with was shame. This seems so stupid because periods are a natural biological thing.
I grew up practicing two religions. One particular religion, I was heavily surrounded by because my dad's extended family lived with us and they were heavily religious.
I literally went to Sunday Temple School >.> hated it...that's a rant on its own.

But what I hated the most was how women were made to feel on their period. We are considered dirty. We cannot touch anything that's used for prayers or any religious ceremony. If I touched anyone while on my period, they would have to shower if they wanted to perform a prayer.

The first time I got my period, I didnt know any of this and I went to Sunday school as I was told and I told my friend that I got my period.
She then told an auntie who put me in a secluded room and I had to stay there the whole day until my fam were ready to leave.
So growing up, I basically associated being on my period as it being a week of shame on top of the cramps.

I grew up and learned it's not shameful. But subconsciously, I stay away from any religious shit whenever I'm on my period.​

 

[seungfloral]

Me with PCOS

 

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I hate having to go to school, im just so full of fear and anytime i stand up its worse. And with my huge cramps, i want to vomit, its so bad bc then i cant even eat bc itll just come out. I hate when my mom tells just to go to school when i want to stay home.

 

[Nina]

I hate having to go to school, im just so full of fear and anytime i stand up its worse. And with my huge cramps, i want to vomit, its so bad bc then i cant even eat bc itll just come out. I hate when my mom tells just to go to school when i want to stay home.

This, we dont talk enough pretending to be fine with the invisible fear and anxiety.
It's like we're so used to hearing 'women everywhere deal with period and go about their day-to-day live.'
Yeah, because society told us to suck it up and deal with it. >.>

This reminds me of that video of someone ranting about a tampon commercial.

 

[Nina]

I hate having to go to school, im just so full of fear and anytime i stand up its worse. And with my huge cramps, i want to vomit, its so bad bc then i cant even eat bc itll just come out. I hate when my mom tells just to go to school when i want to stay home.

I found it

 

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This, we dont talk enough pretending to be fine with the invisible fear and anxiety.
It's like we're so used to hearing 'women everywhere deal with period and go about their day-to-day live.'
Yeah, because society told us to suck it up and deal with it. >.>

This reminds me of that video of someone ranting about a tampon commercial.

Yes omg!! Its so annoying getting told to deal with it

 

[alo]

while i've personally never faced it myself, the stigma associated with menstruation is one thing i hate. speaking as an indian who was born into a hindu family, the way people justify not allowing menstruating people into temples by saying "oh well our culture worships the goddess so so much and you'll find more temples out here devoted to goddesses to gods here..." oh literally just stfu, respecting and worshipping an abstract concept of a goddess is VERY different from treating the menstruators around you with fucking respect.

another thing i hate is the lack of resources available for people to learn about it??? sure i lucked out, i was handed out a book on puberty, was pointed to many kids' health websites that explained everything. our school conducted sessions on like puberty + the physical and mental changes that come about with it, so i learnt from there too. but these things are not available to everyone. besides, some things remained a mystery for me - tampons for example. i knew what they were, i knew there was nothing wrong with using them, but none of the adults around me knew how to use them cause pads are so much more common around here. i had to learn from a friend 😭

also speaking of this friend (who is non-binary)... i hate how periods are seen as a feminine thing. um no. it's not really, non-women who happen to have a uterus can and do get periods. it's not a girl problem, it's a biological process that happens to some people. also, even people without a uterus should know about it, so that they can support menstruators around them.

cramps are one thing, but dealing with them is another... my mom often side-eyes me if a pop a painkiller for them, telling me "look you're gonna get overly reliant on these pills and they'll mess your body up" like mom that's LITERALLY MEFTAL i'm not doing cocaine to ease the pain please. sometimes i just. genuinely feel ill, with zero appetite, zero ability to sleep, zero will to do anything but lie on bed. i hate how that isn't always an option...

yeah this is my rant there's definitely more i hate about it, i'll add on

 

[Nina]

another thing i hate is the lack of resources available for people to learn about it???

XD I learned about menstruation from the education system when I was in high school which was already 5 years too late

My mom didnt even tell me what the meaning of it was and why it happens.
The internet was much resourceful about that.

 

[alo]

XD I learned about menstruation from the education system when I was in high school which was already 5 years too late

My mom didnt even tell me what the meaning of it was and why it happens.
The internet was much resourceful about that.

at least things are different here. we had those sessions right from 4th grade onwards (which was a bit late even for a friend who was a very early bloomer). then in 8th grade we studied a bit about reproduction in bio class, we had a chapter devoted to that. but people were still immature ofc. in 10th grade bio we covered it again but in more detail + the course covered topics like the stigma surrounding menstruation, the various methods and benefits of contraception, and then also a bit on female foeticide. but like, parents should explain these things to their kids, and not cover it up. it shouldn't be left to the fucking education system to teach

 

[Tickita]

Those non-menstruating peeps who think they know best, or their reactions to it.
I had one guy say that if he knew he was about to start his cycle, he'd start wearing pads two weeks prior. First of all, that's a waste of money. And why would you be so disgusted with yourself that you think you have to be on high alert, before the symptoms even hit?
The disgust another guy had on his face when his wife asked him to buy more pads.
Their belief that cramps automatically make us crazy. Their amusement when they see us in pain.

 

[Nina]

Their amusement when they see us in pain.

Kick em' where the sun don't shine

 

[Ahsoka]

I’ve heard of that religious stigma before from another religion too iirc, it’s honestly pretty fucked up. There’s really no way to justify it except “eww woman stuff is worse and gross than us pure dudes. Be ashamed of having a body that functions as it should (assuming you have a uterus)”. Though they have the small benefit of being able to wear nail polish during their period I suppose, such an amazing trade off

 

[The_LastRomeo]

What religion made those rules, that’s very odd?
Well for me it’s the fact that my family didn’t even help me… I was accused of lying by my dad, mom ridiculed me for being in pain and telling me to “suck it up”, older brother telling me it’s “not as bad as moms because she has blood clots” like that makes me feel any better. I literally couldn’t even eat, I threw up dry, I literally wanted to cry but kept it to myself. My dad treated my older sister like a princess even tho I got mine first, saying stupid shit like “She’s on her period she can’t do that”, like I had to make dinner MULTIPLE times while on my period.

 

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What religion made those rules, that’s very odd?
Well for me it’s the fact that my family didn’t even help me… I was accused of lying by my dad, mom ridiculed me for being in pain and telling me to “suck it up”, older brother telling me it’s “not as bad as moms because she has blood clots” like that makes me feel any better. I literally couldn’t even eat, I threw up dry, I literally wanted to cry but kept it to myself. My dad treated my older sister like a princess even tho I got mine first, saying stupid shit like “She’s on her period she can’t do that”, like I had to make dinner MULTIPLE times while on my period.

How can your own mom tell you to suck it up?! Your parents are so disrespectful!

 

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Those non-menstruating peeps who think they know best, or their reactions to it.
I had one guy say that if he knew he was about to start his cycle, he'd start wearing pads two weeks prior. First of all, that's a waste of money. And why would you be so disgusted with yourself that you think you have to be on high alert, before the symptoms even hit?
The disgust another guy had on his face when his wife asked him to buy more pads.
Their belief that cramps automatically make us crazy. Their amusement when they see us in pain.

The good thing about when my mom gets hers when were out of state, my dad gladly goes and gets her pads if she doesnt have any, he actually understands bc he doesnt know what its like and obviously wouldnt know anything about it. Those two guys are just ew, thinking they know everything and how can that guy be disgusted with something normal? Its literally showing that our body is working the way it should be working.

 

[The_LastRomeo]

How can your own mom tell you to suck it up?! Your parents are so disrespectful!

She was mad because my dad (Pretending to care) asked if there was anything I can take to alleviate my pain, and she said “Idk take ibuprofen, or just suck it up?!” And I got mad and said “I am “sucking it up”” and my dad told me to watch my tone 🙄

 

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She was mad because my dad (Pretending to care) asked if there was anything I can take to alleviate my pain, and she said “Idk take ibuprofen, or just suck it up?!” And I got mad and said “I am “sucking it up”” and my dad told me to watch my tone 🙄

Watch your tone? No, shes literally acting like she doesnt get them as well, she honestly seems rude tbh

 

[seungfloral]

I grew up religious too. However i never got taught that it was dirty or ppl had to wash themselves after us. I know in the Bible in the old days they had to sacrifice animals for sins , and in those days amongst Jews it was considered as "impure" during that time, and women couldnt do some chores. But we were then thought that all these changed after Jesus came to earth.

Thankfully i maybe grew up in a pretty accepting society and even men were very kind to me during that time. Advising me to lay down during work, drink smth warm etc. On the other hand i had a female friend who never wanted to talk about the topic, even among only us girls. Which was crazy to me, cause YOU ARE A WOMAN TOO?

WHAT i hate most are my mood swings. I dont realize it right away, cause i usually am cranky, but i get so snappy too during that time. Which i usually try not to be

 

[hxney_jun]

CRYING SO MUCH
THE MOOD SWINGS

 

[The_LastRomeo]

Watch your tone? No, shes literally acting like she doesnt get them as well, she honestly seems rude tbh

Yeah sometimes, but it’s mostly my dads fault