I am officially friendless (1 Viewer)

[DaisySkies]

my "friends" hate me now for trying to help fix our failing friendship and now they won't even acknowledge my existence. They've moved down to the bus loop at dismissal even though they don't ride the bus opposed to where we were originally and they've essentially kicked me out of their group. they've never told me why meanwhile i've been pouring my heart out to them. well anyways, yesterday i came up to them at lunch and just started making conversation. they said i was an outcast and were making those silent gestures to each other that i'm crazy. at dismissal, i came up to them and followed them and just yelled "HIIIIII" constantly and idek how they ignored that bc if somebody did that to me, i'd punch them.
my mom told me to kill them with kindness and so i invited one of them to sit with me at lunch today. i told them i wouldn't look or even speak to them if that's what they want but i gave them the option to not have to sit alone bc i know from experience that sitting alone in high school is very bad on your mental health with people making fun of you in the lines. and it's just not right for somebody to sit alone.

 

[Pirioca]

First of all: You don't need that type of 'friends'. The good thing is: there is always the opportunity to make new friends. I remember my days at high school. There were always 'outsiders' that felt alone. But if those outsiders would stay together, they wouldn't be alone anymore. It's that simple: You have the chance to meet so many people at school. And I'm sure you can find your community. Maybe you just searched at the wrong places in the past?

"I am officially friendless" is a problematic statement because your thoughts create your reality. It's no Law Of Attraction Woo-Woo stuff, it's psychology. If you think that way, you express yourself (often sending subtle signals) corresponding to that thoughts: for example your body language signals 'No one likes me', 'I'm alone', 'I'm not confident'. Other people receive those signals, often on an unconscious level.

You should improve your self-esteem. The first step: learn to value yourself. Don't overestimate your weaknesses, instead stay focused on your strengths.

 

[dark_tranquility]

I am friendless also irl

everyone besides one who I called friends abandoned me
getting new friends is key

the ones you have are toxic

 

[Abeamus]

You're young but don't keep friends who play games as it's a terrible way to handle things and when people are upset with you and not telling you why then that is what they are doing. Do not let them push their issues onto you because they are the ones being difficult as you've shown a willingness to fix things but they haven't shown a willingness to accept that people make mistakes.

You shouldn't keep a friendship you feel you have to walk on eggshells in as small disputes should be talked through and worked out that way if the friendship is valued as worth keeping or just agree to move on if it's something talking can't smooth over due to strong beliefs. Do not go out of your way for people who won't do the bare minimum for you so just be nice in your interactions just to be nice as maybe with time apart they might calm down and come around but if they don't you're focusing on yourself and they did you a favour.

 

[DaisySkies]

You're young but don't keep friends who play games as it's a terrible way to handle things and when people are upset with you and not telling you why then that is what they are doing. Do not let them push their issues onto you because they are the ones being difficult as you've shown a willingness to fix things but they haven't shown a willingness to accept that people make mistakes.

You shouldn't keep a friendship you feel you have to walk on eggshells in as small disputes should be talked through and worked out that way if the friendship is valued as worth keeping or just agree to move on if it's something talking can't smooth over due to strong beliefs. Do not go out of your way for people who won't do the bare minimum for you so just be nice in your interactions just to be nice as maybe with time apart they might calm down and come around but if they don't you're focusing on yourself and they did you a favour.

I've been friends with them for six years which is why I'm struggling to accept it...

 

[DaisySkies]

I am friendless also irl

everyone besides one who I called friends abandoned me
getting new friends is key

the ones you have are toxic

I do have one person who's offered to be there for me already

 

[DaisySkies]

First of all: You don't need that type of 'friends'. The good thing is: there is always the opportunity to make new friends. I remember my days at high school. There were always 'outsiders' that felt alone. But if those outsiders would stay together, they wouldn't be alone anymore. It's that simple: You have the chance to meet so many people at school. And I'm sure you can find your community. Maybe you just searched at the wrong places in the past?

"I am officially friendless" is a problematic statement because your thoughts create your reality. It's no Law Of Attraction Woo-Woo stuff, it's psychology. If you think that way, you express yourself (often sending subtle signals) corresponding to that thoughts: for example your body language signals 'No one likes me', 'I'm alone', 'I'm not confident'. Other people receive those signals, often on an unconscious level.

You should improve your self-esteem. The first step: learn to value yourself. Don't overestimate your weaknesses, instead stay focused on your strengths.

My community is rather small... It's really hard to find people with the same interests as me...

 

[Pirioca]

My community is rather small... It's really hard to find people with the same interests as me...

You're at high school? A good option to meet new people would be joining a sports team. Or maybe you could join a theater, music or creative writing/art project? Something that fits your interests.

 

[DaisySkies]

You're at high school? A good option to meet new people would be joining a sports team. Or maybe you could join a theater, music or creative writing/art project? Something that fits your interests.

I'm not a sports person lol
We don't have many clubs but I'll see what i can find

 

[Pirioca]

I'm not a sports person lol

Like so many others (me included) before they started training.

We don't have many clubs but I'll see what i can find

Cool!

 

[DaisySkies]

Like so many others (me included) before they started training.



Cool!

I've been in sports before... Just don't like it 🥲

 

[Pirioca]

I've been in sports before... Just don't like it 🥲

No problem, to each their own. But I'm sure you'll find another project that you like. What about art?

 

[dark_tranquility]

I do have one person who's offered to be there for me already

that's good then/nice to hear

 

[DaisySkies]

No problem, to each their own. But I'm sure you'll find another project that you like. What about art?

Ehhhh a lot if the srt kids are made fun of so i keep it secret