What's your New Year's Resolution? (1 Viewer)

TrinityJade · 12 January 2026

I've seen people talking about theirs, but I'm wondering what they are

I honestly didn't have one for this year... and I'm not great at them, so I think I've given up on setting resolutions.
Oh well, maybe next year

sooya_ · 12 January 2026

Well to not stan more groups...
Also to not waste my pennies on gum at the store. I have this thing where I need to distract my mouth otherwise I bite my nails, and chew on my

hair

, so I take the opportunity.
But I'm supposed to be saving for when I'm 18 and able to flee.
I am gonna add another one: I know I drink SO much water, but DRINK MORE :| Like more, more, more

And don't always wash my hair everyday, I heard it's bad. I also gotta remind my mother for a haircut, my ends are REALLY bad, no matter the conditioner I put

gone4good · 12 January 2026

Put up with @Selfmate for another year

cauz he's worth it and we go wayyyy back

centen · 12 January 2026

TrinityJade said:
I honestly didn't have one for this year... and I'm not great at them, so I think I've given up on setting resolutions.
Oh well, maybe next year

If you're wanting to maybe try a resolution (which is really just a goal you want to accomplish or a change you want to make), then there is a principle called the fresh start effect. Here's the research paper if you want to get into it, but at a very high level: people tend to do better with a clear starting point. Motivation is higher, you have a designated start date to work your plans toward, you can make plans in the meantime without feeling badly about yourself, etc.

The new year makes an obvious starting point, but it's not the only one. Mondays, your birthday, the first of any month, the day after a long weekend or holiday... Heck, you could create a fresh start for yourself in the middle of the day "starting at noon, I will..."

I see this at the gym all the time that class attendance tends to skyrocket on Mondays and dwindle over the week.

It's also why I think and tell people: like, it's fine if your resolution has "failed" already. You can try again. You can try again tomorrow or this afternoon or decide that you want to rethink your strategy or hell, decide if this is even a thing you actually care about, or just something you think you're supposed to care about, in which case, maybe stop putting your effort into it? But if you do want to do it for real, then you haven't failed until you have committed that you failed. You can just look for the next fresh start, dust yourself off, and try again.

If you don't actually want to have a resolution, then ignore all that, lol.

TrinityJade · 12 January 2026

sooya_ said:
Well to not stan more groups...
Also to not waste my pennies on gum at the store. I have this thing where I need to distract my mouth otherwise I bite my nails, and chew on my

hair

, so I take the opportunity.
But I'm supposed to be saving for when I'm 18 and able to flee.
I am gonna add another one: I know I drink SO much water, but DRINK MORE :| Like more, more, more And don't always wash my hair everyday, I heard it's bad. I also gotta remind my mother for a haircut, my ends are REALLY bad, no matter the conditioner I put

I heard about the hair washing, I usually wash my hair every day and I've also heard it's bad but idk why

TrinityJade · 12 January 2026

centen said:
If you're wanting to maybe try a resolution (which is really just a goal you want to accomplish or a change you want to make), then there is a principle called the fresh start effect. Here's the research paper if you want to get into it, but at a very high level: people tend to do better with a clear starting point. Motivation is higher, you have a designated start date to work your plans toward, you can make plans in the meantime without feeling badly about yourself, etc.

The new year makes an obvious starting point, but it's not the only one. Mondays, your birthday, the first of any month, the day after a long weekend or holiday... Heck, you could create a fresh start for yourself in the middle of the day "starting at noon, I will..."

I see this at the gym all the time that class attendance tends to skyrocket on Mondays and dwindle over the week.

It's also why I think and tell people: like, it's fine if your resolution has "failed" already. You can try again. You can try again tomorrow or this afternoon or decide that you want to rethink your strategy or hell, decide if this is even a thing you actually care about, or just something you think you're supposed to care about, in which case, maybe stop putting your effort into it? But if you do want to do it for real, then you haven't failed until you have committed that you failed. You can just look for the next fresh start, dust yourself off, and try again.

If you don't actually want to have a resolution, then ignore all that, lol.

Aw thanks that's very helpful!