For a s.o .. dating first or friends first? (1 Viewer)

[ripiasuju]

So for your significant other would you rather, show interest or get interest shown and get to know each other through a steady process like dating.. bg/gf, divorce that kinda stuff.

Or would you rather be friends with them get to know them first be close and comfortable and then proceed to more than friends.

For me, for some reason if im truly interested in a girl, i cant get myself to flirt or ask them out first, i just desire their friendship get to know them well enough and this also helps whether I feel they are right for me or not, and then i would confess.

I can flirt with girls and ask them out but only if im not serious or im joking around if im intrested then id only want to be friends to get to know them.

What about you?

 

[Juniverse]

flirt with girls and ask them out but only if im not serious or im joking around

Don't do that man what if they like you and think you're serious owo

Anyway, it depends. My girlfriend and I have been friends since around November and we started dating on the 31st of January, and I've been way happier than I was with my ex-girlfriend, who I wasn't friends with at first.

 

[ripiasuju]

Don't do that man what if they like you and think you're serious owo

Anyway, it depends. My girlfriend and I have been friends since around November and we started dating on the 31st of January, and I've been way happier than I was with my ex-girlfriend, who I wasn't friends with at first.

I know ofc not to lead people on i don't really do that but i can do it as a joke or something.


And as for November-December thats a very short time to be friends xD for me i would think at least a solid 4 months.

Good to know youre happier than being with that bitch from before

 

[Juniverse]

And as for November-December thats a very short time to be friends xD for me i would think at least a solid 4 months.

Good to know youre happier than being with that bitch from before

Lmao we kind of hit it off because she was wearing a k-pop sweatshirt and we have the same name plus a bunch of other similarities

And yeah lolol definitely happier

Our only problem is that she doesn't like Stray Kids as much as I do

 

[JoanaIsHere]

I’d probably prefer dating first since I don’t want it awkward around my friend group lol

 

[Sory]

I’m not good at flirting either so I’d say be friends to start. Also I would probably reject the advances of a man asking me to go out without me being confortable around him first. Like you said, I wouldn’t think he was really serious.

 

[Suzy]

In my opinion, friends first. If you can't be friends with them then there's no way you can spend the rest of your life with them. I'd rather be friends with someone and get to know them first rather than start dating from the get go and wasting time. There's no guarantee that either of them will work out but at least I'll have an idea of their personality from the start.

 

[lostinwvnderland]

I prefer to be friend with them first. My bf and I just started dating back in Sept 2019 and we were friend with each other for about 8 year prior to us dating. We were just friend though and didn't have any interest in each other romantically when we became friend, but overtime we just gradually start flirting with each other a little bit and being a bit touchy like hand holding.

 

[Drew_B]

I prefer to know Seolhyun first as an idol that way I can fantasize about her before dating her in real life cause it will be a dream come true.

 

[yeji]

I think a friendship first would be ideal. I am a shy person actually so getting comfortable is what I need before I could even think of something more.

 

[Willow]

I think a friendship first would be ideal. I am a shy person actually so getting comfortable is what I need before I could even think of something more.

dating first could be an option too, I don't want to be stuck in a friendzone

 

[yeji]

dating first could be an option too, I don't want to be stuck in a friendzone

depends on the person tho. some people bring themself to the friendzone due to things

 

[Mew]

Friendship first.. Is my desired way, but also because I can't even be friends with anyone without getting to truly know them, let alone have a relationship with them without being a friend first.
Its been sufficient as my relationships have been very long term and the fall out from the relationships, has kept us close as when I'm friends with someone I stay friends with them for a really long time, that person doesn't becoming dislikable just cause we broke up it's just apparent we can't function on a romantic level that's all but I still like them as a person and seems vice versa for them to(also helps that I date people that communicate and are logical)

Altjough I tend to read and know more about a person quite quickly in person, so I already have a filter option for friendship, usually which is just me taking interest and actually wanting to speak with someone after this assessment. This assessment varies from person to person, it can take 3 meetings to 2 months...i Get to know alot about someone without them realising... Expert stalking! Lol no I'm just able to pick up alot more things in one sitting hence the reason why I was studying to be a psychiatrist but then realising I retained too much information about people is tiring and I don't like being around people generally.

 

[Abeamus]

Friendship as i'd need to know them first to really be interested in them.

 

[Willow]

depends on the person tho. some people bring themself to the friendzone due to things

you might be right, but it is my own experience that is speaking

 

[jasque]

Currently, I wouldn't have the patience to go beyond the friends part.

Too much stress for little benefits tbh.

 

[SnowWhite]

Personally feel it will be creepy if I will suddenly get asked out. Friendship atw.

 

[ripiasuju]

Personally feel it will be creepy if I will suddenly get asked out. Friendship atw.

What if it was a co worker or something?

 

[ripiasuju]

I think a friendship first would be ideal. I am a shy person actually so getting comfortable is what I need before I could even think of something more.

Why are you so adorable Jen

 

[ripiasuju]

damn i missed you! remember me?



as for me my boyfriend and i were friends first. well sort of? we had an those cringy kdrama oppa/dongsang relationships. he was someone i comepetly trusted. and we've been dating for almost 10 years now

Ummmmm.....

The dp rings a bell haha