Confidence tips please :( (1 Viewer)

[taehyungie]

Could you guys please give me some tips on how to regain lost confidence? I used to be confident back in my school days but after joining college, seems staffs didn't like my confident personality and hence, started targeting me which dragged me down and now I can neither look at anyone's face and talk nor can I talk to anyone openly including my own family members

 

[Deleted member 74]

Umm as someone who had/has? the lowest self esteem, and I mean low to the point where I really believed everyone found me ugly/dumb and that I would never in my life get into a relationship, I wouldn't dare allow myself to think of anything regarding people because I was always an exception due to how not good enough I felt, and to this day I'm still kind of like that, the reason why I can maintain a strong eye contact and strong opinions, and stand my ground with confidence always, is mostly faking it, practice and being the one to compliment myself instead. Take a long time to meet your own eyes in a mirror and think of your good qualities, whether it's personality, looks or other.

This might not be the best advice but I find that being spiteful works to have confidence against those who target you. Think of how annoyed they'll be if you don't lose yourself to their criticism, take that thought with you to college and keep your head held high. Remember you're an invisible face in the crowd of college, everyone is so occupied with their own stuff, eventually even those people who target you have to get on with it and move on, and you'll be left behind permanently stuck in those past memories if you don't take care of yourself. No one can pull you down without your consent, sure you might still feel terrible but even if it's your pride, one small thing about yourself that you're proud of or wanting to win against them, you'll be able to look at people again. Think of yourself as the only one who can protect your own self.

I'm talking from a decade of experience with this, there are literally so many ways you can build up your confidence, fake it or maintain it through time. Good luck op, don't listen to those staffs, they're probably envious you had confidence in the first place. <3

 

[taehyungie]

Umm as someone who had/has? the lowest self esteem, and I mean low to the point where I really believed everyone found me ugly/dumb and that I would never in my life get into a relationship, I wouldn't dare allow myself to think of anything regarding people because I was always an exception due to how not good enough I felt, and to this day I'm still kind of like that, the reason why I can maintain a strong eye contact and strong opinions, and stand my ground with confidence always, is mostly faking it, practice and being the one to compliment myself instead. Take a long time to meet your own eyes in a mirror and think of your good qualities, whether it's personality, looks or other.

This might not be the best advice but I find that being spiteful works to have confidence against those who target you. Think of how annoyed they'll be if you don't lose yourself to their criticism, take that thought with you to college and keep your head held high. Remember you're an invisible face in the crowd of college, everyone is so occupied with their own stuff, eventually even those people who target you have to get on with it and move on, and you'll be left behind permanently stuck in those past memories if you don't take care of yourself. No one can pull you down without your consent, sure you might still feel terrible but even if it's your pride, one small thing about yourself that you're proud of or wanting to win against them, you'll be able to look at people again. Think of yourself as the only one who can protect your own self.

I'm talking from a decade of experience with this, there are literally so many ways you can build up your confidence, fake it or maintain it through time. Good luck op, don't listen to those staffs, they're probably envious you had confidence in the first place. <3

Thank you so much sweetheart for taking time to write so much just to help me out that was very thoughtful of you and the advice is really good. I'm going to keep that in mind and just stay deaf to all the criticism and be who i am ❤

 

[Deleted member 74]

Thank you so much sweetheart for taking time to write so much just to help me out that was very thoughtful of you and the advice is really good. I'm going to keep that in mind and just stay deaf to all the criticism and be who i am ❤

You're welcome, I really know how it feels so I tried to give you as much advice I learnt from my own progress!
You can do it, remember you're great the way you are

 

[Ahsoka]

I lack confidence myself so I can’t really help but I hope things get better for you

 

[Tickita]

Wow, that's upsetting to hear that people who should help you are tearing you down.

It might be because there's something great in you, and that's annoying them. But that's not your problem -- it's their own personal problem.

That's just a guess though. Have you ever tried asking them why they act that way towards you?

Other than that, all I can say is make a decision to be bold regardless of how others feel.

 

[SHlNEE]

Could you guys please give me some tips on how to regain lost confidence? I used to be confident back in my school days but after joining college, seems staffs didn't like my confident personality and hence, started targeting me which dragged me down and now I can neither look at anyone's face and talk nor can I talk to anyone openly including my own family members

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[Abeamus]

Try and avoid putting yourself down unfairly and complimenting yourself when you feel you did well

 

[Areum]

Live your life as such:

You'll see a difference

 

[taehyungie]

I lack confidence myself so I can’t really help but I hope things get better for you

aww hope you're doing well sweetheart

 

[taehyungie]

Wow, that's upsetting to hear that people who should help you are tearing you down.

It might be because there's something great in you, and that's annoying them. But that's not your problem -- it's their own personal problem.

That's just a guess though. Have you ever tried asking them why they act that way towards you?

Other than that, all I can say is make a decision to be bold regardless of how others feel.

I don't have the guts to ask my teachers that because they're the kind who would easily get offended by whatever we say or ask and then take revenge via test marks and stuff

 

[taehyungie]

Try and avoid putting yourself down unfairly and complimenting yourself when you feel you did well

Yeahhh, I've been working on self-love lately because more than others, it's I, myself dragging me down by thinking that I'm worthless and don't deserve to live