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[burnenemy]

Do u have to forgive someone to move on?

I usually release all my anger like crazy and revenge till i feel happy

Then few months later,i will forget about those bustards .i mean bustards outside my house

Well,i still hate them abit.but no longer obsessively thinking about them

 

[burnenemy]

I already deleted all pic of that freaking scammer

 

[athenaaa]

No, you can not care about a person anymore but not forgive them. Forgiving implies that I've made peace with them and what they did to me.

 

[burnenemy]

No, you can not care about a person anymore but not forgive them. Forgiving implies that I've made peace with them and what they did to me.

How to make peace if it is extremely terrible lmao

 

[athenaaa]

How to make peace if it is extremely terrible lmao

Just realize you're better off without them, you don't have to forgive their actions

 

[burnenemy]

Just realize you're better off without them, you don't have to forgive their actions

Then it takes long time too...

emotional attachment is stupid anyway

 

[Bopper]

You can move on, but not forget.

For instance my sister gets on well with our dad, but I don’t. I remember stuff that happened when I’d go to his house (not abuse or anything physical, just him being a complete d!ck along with his partner who he also had children with) but my sister doesn’t. I stopped the contact with him when I was about six, I’m not on speaking terms with him, I now just wish him well and leave it at that.

 

[burnenemy]

You can move on, but not forget.

For instance my sister gets on well with our dad, but I don’t. I remember stuff that happened when I’d go to his house (not abuse or anything physical, just him being a complete d!ck along with his partner who he also had children with) but my sister doesn’t. I stopped the contact with him when I was about six, I’m not on speaking terms with him, I now just wish him well and leave it at that.

What about not wishing him well?

 

[Bopper]

What about not wishing him well?

That’s just wasting energy that would be better spent on the people and other things I love.

 

[burnenemy]

That’s just wasting energy that would be better spent on the people and other things I love.

It doesn't take even more than 1 min

 

[Bopper]

It doesn't take even more than 1 min

True, but this all happened when I was 6, and I’m 31 next month. Even if it was a minute a day, that’s a whole lot of minutes.

 

[burnenemy]

True, but this all happened when I was 6, and I’m 31 next month. Even if it was a minute a day, that’s a whole lot of minutes.

Maybe because i think alot usually

hmm

 

[Bopper]

Maybe because i think alot usually

hmm

Maybe when you feel like you’re thinking about the person you’re having trouble forgiving, do something else that you’d enjoy more.

 

[burnenemy]

Maybe when you feel like you’re thinking about the person you’re having trouble forgiving, do something else that you’d enjoy more.

Life is too boring

Keep doing same thing only and i cant fpcus when too Emotional

 

[athenaaa]

Then it takes long time too...

emotional attachment is stupid anyway

I don’t get emotionally attached easily so maybe it’s different

 

[burnenemy]

I don’t get emotionally attached easily so maybe it’s different

what makes u attached then

 

[burnenemy]

I don’t get emotionally attached easily so maybe it’s different

i dont have much friend either so...

 

[Deleted member 74]

no, honestly there are so many situations and people where I came to learn that I might not be able to find it in my heart to forgive them because they don't deserve it, and you can't force closure, but I can walk away without looking back and someday those memories will become a source of strength. I carry on but don't think I've ever really properly moved on from the serious things that have made me angry or upset because they shaped me as a person, and it's a process I have to work on every day.

 

[Shy]

No, to be honest there are situation where you can never forgive someone but you can always move on from it. Forcing yourself to forgive, or pretending to forgive when you really haven't, can actually be counterproductive to healing.

 

[burnenemy]

No, to be honest there are situation where you can never forgive someone but you can always move on from it. Forcing yourself to forgive, or pretending to forgive when you really haven't, can actually be counterproductive to healing.

Force is bad😂🤣