do you give people a chance? (1 Viewer)

[kodoku]

do you tend to give people a chance, even if they maybe seem like someone who isn't your style? or is your heart too closed after receiving too many wounds, perhaps?

for me, past bullying and getting mistreated even by family at a young age really changed me, not gonna lie.. and for example, every time I've given a guy a chance, I got burned.. however, I've managed to gather some strength to try again even while still being hurt.. so I asked for some numbers, talked to some people, said yes to some walks....... the reason I'm thinking this is that just yesterday I meet with this guy who used to like me and made me uncomfortable back then, but we still keps some kind of not so honest friendship and my true opinion of him wasn't the most positive one.... still, I'm glad I went because after telling him some truths about how I truly feel, he did the same and now I'm able to see him more as a human being, someone who is also in a lot of pain, and it's just nice to connect and realize you are not that alone and not such a huge failure becasue others feel in similar ways sometimes.......

 

[Willow]

I always do but I always regret it at the end

 

[dark_tranquility]

Usually only one chance and that's it. I gave a guy three chances, but then I got rid of him for good.
It's mostly from how they hurt my trust and wellbeing and other factors.

I don't care if they don't want to be my friend, just say it. Don't pretend to be my friend.
that is all.

 

[DrowningFishy]

I'm a gullible little f---er and I give people a chance I probably shouldn't have. Especially when there was questionable behavior.

 

[blueberries]

I try to, but i can sometimes be bit paranoid and careful. It isn't good to be too naive either.

 

[RainbowDevil]

I usually judge people after a few sentences, so it's essentially I like you or I don't. It might be a middle ground where the person is fun but an ass too but those types I usually just endure in a sense, I don't mind them but I don't wanna be around em too much.

 

[Mew]

Yeah it's easy to do, cause I'm quite indifferent and neutral in general, however when given a chance majority of the time my indifference is unlikely to change, but I don't dislike or like them either (this period of time can be months to even years, I've tried to engage with someone and still feel nothing) . But I feel its a bit of a waste of time if I continue trying to build something that isn't there for me friendship or otherwise.
I try as much as required to engage but alot of time it just doesn't click for me.
Its a random me problem to be honest.

 

[jasque]

If asked for help, usually yes.

Some people aren't worth to keep in our lives though, so yeah, doesn't mean I'll give most of my time to said person.

 

[yeji]

I usually give people way too many chances. I care too much and always see the good in people.It's like I am a big dumb dumb in that regard.

 

[Abeamus]

I'm always willing to give someone a chance but I'm not someone to open up immediately and getting to know me takes a lot of time so I usually can judge people pretty well by the time I'd open up and if I think they could be toxic then I'll be cautious and cut them off if proven right

 

[Tickita]

Friend-wise to more, not really, as I'm really observant. I did once, but I dropped them once I found out their true intentions and their stand on certain topics.