I feel like a hypocrite (1 Viewer)

[kisshuhua09baby]

I promised myself i wouldnt talk to her ever again after what she did. But only a w3ek orso later i did. I don't wanna seem like im making a new problem for every solution, but I somehow feel like I owe being kind to her after I lashed out even though I lashed out at her that day for a good reason (being belittled a treated like a child). I don't know what I'm doing but now I feel worse than when we still weren't talking. Every time I speak to her it feels so stale and fake. Like I'm almost 100% sure she's pretending to be kind and only had apologized to me for her own internal validation and be8ng perceived as good. I'm so confused andi feel like somewhere down the line this is gonna turn bad

 

[MK3AM]

honestly if youre feeling worse then maybe its time to take a step back and be selfish and think about you sure maybe lashing out wasnt the right choice but u shouldnt feel like you owe her for something she did wrong when you do come up with what you want to do sit her down and talk to her about how you feel

 

[Faerie]

Clearly, you haven’t had the closure you wanted and she’s probably being gentle in order to avoid another conflict. Whatever had happened you too need to actually talk it out...

I suggest writing either a text or letter and have her come to you when she feels the time is right. remember both your feelings are valid.

 

[kisshuhua09baby]

Clearly, you haven’t had the closure you wanted and she’s probably being gentle in order to avoid another conflict. Whatever had happened you too need to actually talk it out...

I suggest writing either a text or letter and have her come to you when she feels the time is right. remember both your feelings are valid.

I see that being a possibility, but I don't want it to come off like im randomly switching my stance and being bitchy out of the blue. Should I go about it assertively or more calmly?

 

[Faerie]

That’s what the letter/ text is for, it gives you a chance for you to have your feelings and thoughts together and more organized. You have more time to think and process your emotions on what you wanna say. It is your choice when you want to send it. You may not even send it at all, sometimes writing it out, helps a person feel better.