I hate that I have to feel nervous about this (1 Viewer)

[Ahsoka]

As many may have realized I'm going on a trip to visit my grandma. There's lot's to do in the city, I have days full of activities (not that full imo, but according to others really full). I'm getting kind of nervous though that she'll view them as "too full" also and start complaining that I'm not wanting to spend time with her This is also a grandma who pushes her views on others, including thinking that lgbt people are terrible (this is my version of being nice about what she said. It was worse), she's casually discriminatory towards Arabs, and she's asked me on more than one occasion if I would just consider becoming a Christian (she knows I'm very much not a believer of religion). So yeah, it's very possible that I don't want to spend time with her, which in my mind is justified. But even so I have good reasons for going to the places I put down. I truly want to visit them and there's just only so much time in a day. I just hate I might have to give that up because she gets insecure about how I feel about her. I'm also trying to change sleeping arrangements so I can be on my own and I came up with a plausible excuse but I'm scared of proposing it in case she starts chewing me out. This is the one part of the trip I'm not happy about, the nerves towards proposing things to her.

 

[StirFriedPanda]

1. We love you so no matter what even if everything goes to crap with grandma we're rooting for you and are here! It also sounds like you have got family around you who's rooting for you too!

2. Deep down, in a convoluted way, even though its hurtful, she's trying to convince you to become "Christian" because she loves you. Most Christians don't really understand being christian or the gospel beyond what the pastor tells them and it's mind blowing how many pastors are only retelling what was told to them. Most don't understand that deciding or agreeing to be come Christian doesn't make it so... Even baptism doesn't make it so. I'll be the first to admit I'm a terrible Christian because I'm a horrid example... but I'm trying. Be it Christian, Buddhist, Islam, etc the truth of the gospel mostly comes from a lot of searching, pondering, and praying. She truly believes she's trying to "save" you but doesn't understand it's not up to her to "save" you.

Or...

She's scared and doesn't know how to relate to you because your so different from her and her generation! Even I suffer from this and I'm only 20 years older!

Or... and as a last resort.... it's the least Christian option...

Tell your grandma it's a good thing your not a Christian because if you were you'd have to start pointing out all of the gospel she's not following. This really quiets people down quickly...

 

[Ahsoka]

1. We love you so no matter what even if everything goes to crap with grandma we're rooting for you and are here! It also sounds like you have got family around you who's rooting for you too!

2. Deep down, in a convoluted way, even though its hurtful, she's trying to convince you to become "Christian" because she loves you. Most Christians don't really understand being christian or the gospel beyond what the pastor tells them and it's mind blowing how many pastors are only retelling what was told to them. Most don't understand that deciding or agreeing to be come Christian doesn't make it so... Even baptism doesn't make it so. I'll be the first to admit I'm a terrible Christian because I'm a horrid example... but I'm trying. Be it Christian, Buddhist, Islam, etc the truth of the gospel mostly comes from a lot of searching, pondering, and praying. She truly believes she's trying to "save" you but doesn't understand it's not up to her to "save" you.

Or...

She's scared and doesn't know how to relate to you because your so different from her and her generation! Even I suffer from this and I'm only 20 years older!

Or... and as a last resort.... it's the least Christian option...

Tell your grandma it's a good thing your not a Christian because if you were you'd have to start pointing out all of the gospel she's not following. This really quiets people down quickly...

Thank you

She wants me to be Christian because she thinks it's the answer to "curing" my depression. Imo it makes me confused because while I don't know much about Christianity, I think being all "hey god I converted so you could cure me real quick even though I don't believe in you can you do that real quick thanks bro" isn't the actual way to get help? Like I may not be an omnipotent being but even I wouldn't agree to that if I had the powers, that would be stupid. She always tells me about how she prays for me specially and all and it's really rather tiring tbh.

 

[StirFriedPanda]

Thank you

She wants me to be Christian because she thinks it's the answer to "curing" my depression. Imo it makes me confused because while I don't know much about Christianity, I think being all "hey god I converted so you could cure me real quick even though I don't believe in you can you do that real quick thanks bro" isn't the actual way to get help? Like I may not be an omnipotent being but even I wouldn't agree to that if I had the powers, that would be stupid. She always tells me about how she prays for me specially and all and it's really rather tiring tbh.

Even the most converted people in the world have troubles, no matter what religion they believe in. The most converted "Christian" there ever was (Jesus Christ) had a life tougher life than my brain is capable of imagining. So being converted won't cure anything, for anyone. Miracles happen, but those have more to do with faith, it being the right thing, and god agreeing it's what's actually needed. Key words being "Faith", "God agreeing" and "needed". What being Christian provides is answers and a knowledge that all the troubles in this life add up to something. We're not here just to suffer, die, and fade back in to oblivion. We came from something before this life and return to something when this life is over. Sorry, I know I'm being preachy... I guess this is the long version of me agreeing with you.

 

[Ahsoka]

Even the most converted people in the world have troubles, no matter what religion they believe in. The most converted "Christian" there ever was (Jesus Christ) had a life tougher life than my brain is capable of imagining. So being converted won't cure anything, for anyone. Miracles happen, but those have more to do with faith, it being the right thing, and god agreeing it's what's actually needed. Key words being "Faith", "God agreeing" and "needed". What being Christian provides is answers and a knowledge that all the troubles in this life add up to something. We're not here just to suffer, die, and fade back in to oblivion. We came from something before this life and return to something when this life is over. Sorry, I know I'm being preachy... I guess this is the long version of me agreeing with you.

Yeah, and each to their own sure. I don't believe that, but if someone believes it who am I to tell them they're wrong? It's just annoying when someone's telling you to consider something you would never consider and you want to say that but know the "correct" reply is to nod your head and agree At least that "ditch atheism become Muslim" pamphlet I saw was amusing (to me) and it wasn't hounding me about it, it just existed, more than I can say about my grandma.

 

[StirFriedPanda]

Yeah, and each to their own sure. I don't believe that, but if someone believes it who am I to tell them they're wrong? It's just annoying when someone's telling you to consider something you would never consider and you want to say that but know the "correct" reply is to nod your head and agree At least that "ditch atheism become Muslim" pamphlet I saw was amusing (to me) and it wasn't hounding me about it, it just existed, more than I can say about my grandma.

Be you, thats why we love you. And what gives me comfort might not be the same for others! There is no correct or perfect path through this life! The only constant is we share the journey with others.