i hope i don't offend anyonee (1 Viewer)

[IGURO]

but i honestly feel very uncomfortable with the idea of eating at a dinner table with a vegan. I just feel that if I, as a person who loves eating meat/seafood, is ordering something at a restaurant and then i just think the said vegan would just glare at me across the table like I'm the worst person on the planet for eating meat in front of their face. i have no problem with veganism but i just feel like having a vegan for a friend would just easily break apart just because our opinions on food are completely different. but honestly, what would you do in the situation like if it was your friend/gf/bf and you were out on a date and your friend/gf/bf is vegan??

 

[Day]

In my trio, both my best friends were vegans. We never had any issues with me getting food (both their boyfriends were meat lovers) and they actually stopped being vegans after years because they really wanted wings one night

 

[Tickita]

My sister's vegan, that didn't change our relationship. She's had me taste some of her food too, it wasn't bad.

 

[snsd2beg]

It hasn't been uncomfortable for me. My sister's a pescatarian and she doesn't care about what I eat and I knew some vegan people in college who didn't seem to mind, either.

 

[lexus]

I’m vegan and it honestly doesn’t bother me what you eat. Just respect the way I eat and I’ll respect the way you eat

 

[Magician]

i don't care what people eat and don’t know why anyone would make a big deal out of it

 

[Faerie]

I never had an issue with it since my vegan friends don’t have an problem with it.

but if it does arise I suggest this seating arrangement

 

[Nina]

So long as you arent pressuring them to try eat meat/animal product and they aren't pressuring you the quit it, it shouldn't be an issue.
If one of the other is negatively judging or can't respect one another because of dietary choices for any reason, then you shouldn't be friends.

I was a vegan and vegetarian at different points in my life. Currently, I have family and friends that are vegan or vegetarian.
Food has never gotten in the way. If we want to eat together, we look at options that can cater to both and if we're cooking at home we cook in harmony or have sections in the kitchen where the meat is prepared and cooked.

 

[Ahsoka]

I wouldn't assume a vegan necessarily would act that way. If they tell me it makes them uncomfortable, I’m sure something can be worked out. If they glare at me all the time for my food and don’t try to be polite about it/don’t try to work it out, well they seem like people that aren’t worth it anyways.

 

[IGURO]

In my trio, both my best friends were vegans. We never had any issues with me getting food (both their boyfriends were meat lovers) and they actually stopped being vegans after years because they really wanted wings one night

oof okie well there r some rlly strict ones I'm scraed of

 

[athenaaa]

I would ask their comfort level beforehand. Internally I would still feel a little weird though, not because of anything that occurred but just my own brain

 

[ani07]

I`m vegan myself. so I can break the situation down for you, so you can understand it better, if that helps.

first of all, there is a difference between being vegan and having a plant based diet.
being vegan is a way of living. its an ethic choice, a way to live without hurting and exploitng animals the best you can. that also includes things like clothes for example, not only eating.
eating plant based is just a diet. most of the time for health or economical reasons. it has nothing to do with being vegan. tbh I dont like when ppl say 'I eat vegan', because you are either vegan or you are not. but thats another topic.

now back to the main topic. the problem is you assume it will be that way, but you dont know. if that person comes to a dinner, he/she will know that you guys are ordering animal products, so I dont think they will glare at you. and even if that happens its just a normal reaction and not to take too personal. its the same for my family btw as I`m the only vegan. I leave it without commenting on it even though I have my own thoughts on the matter. if you are unsure of what that person is thinking, you could just ask them in a friendly manner.

I just want you to understand why that person might glare at you guys. there is sth called the 'vegan trauma' (not really, but its best to describe it that way). if you become vegan, its like you are suddenly opening your eyes and see the true harsh and voilent world and how it is treating animals, and next to you there are 'zombies' that dont want to wake up and open their eyes and you are just like wtf why is no one seeing it how I see it? its a mix of desperation, sadness and helplessness.

so when you become vegan you are in this desperate state for a while. after some time there are different ways to handle it. some vegans become activists, because they cant handle that feeling and want ppl to change asap and some become understanding about the situation, because you cant change ppl suddenly and it takes time for ppl to understand your views. because everyone is living in this bubble and some dont want to see it because its more comfortable for them.

personally, I just get over it quickly. I think my family knows I would argument them into hell if they talked to me about veganism, so they do it behind my back.

 

[ani07]

ps: if it makes you feel uncomfortable (for me) its a sign that you actually understand veganism, but you are still not at a point to change. but thats just my intake on what u wrote above

 

[IGURO]

I would ask their comfort level beforehand. Internally I would still feel a little weird though, not because of anything that occurred but just my own brain

yeah I overthink a lot negl

 

[IGURO]

I`m vegan myself. so I can break the situation down for you, so you can understand it better, if that helps.

first of all, there is a difference between being vegan and having a plant based diet.
being vegan is a way of living. its an ethic choice, a way to live without hurting and exploitng animals the best you can. that also includes things like clothes for example, not only eating.
eating plant based is just a diet. most of the time for health or economical reasons. it has nothing to do with being vegan. tbh I dont like when ppl say 'I eat vegan', because you are either vegan or you are not. but thats another topic.

now back to the main topic. the problem is you assume it will be that way, but you dont know. if that person comes to a dinner, he/she will know that you guys are ordering animal products, so I dont think they will glare at you. and even if that happens its just a normal reaction and not to take too personal. its the same for my family btw as I`m the only vegan. I leave it without commenting on it even though I have my own thoughts on the matter. if you are unsure of what that person is thinking, you could just ask them in a friendly manner.

I just want you to understand why that person might glare at you guys. there is sth called the 'vegan trauma' (not really, but its best to describe it that way). if you become vegan, its like you are suddenly opening your eyes and see the true harsh and voilent world and how it is treating animals, and next to you there are 'zombies' that dont want to wake up and open their eyes and you are just like wtf why is no one seeing it how I see it? its a mix of desperation, sadness and helplessness.

so when you become vegan you are in this desperate state for a while. after some time there are different ways to handle it. some vegans become activists, because they cant handle that feeling and want ppl to change asap and some become understanding about the situation, because you cant change ppl suddenly and it takes time for ppl to understand your views. because everyone is living in this bubble and some dont want to see it because its more comfortable for them.

personally, I just get over it quickly. I think my family knows I would argument them into hell if they talked to me about veganism, so they do it behind my back.

no no NO I was just making a scenario. it's just I just overthink things like that and sometimes I think there's smth wrong with me if I'm being glared at. i didn't mean to make it seem like all vegans are like this, just there COULD be some strict vegans who can't even stand being around you if your eating meat in there presence, yknow? i was just making a possible situation and I'm sorry if I offended you. i understand what your saying tho

 

[ani07]

no no NO I was just making a scenario. it's just I just overthink things like that and sometimes I think there's smth wrong with me if I'm being glared at. i didn't mean to make it seem like all vegans are like this, just there COULD be some strict vegans who can't even stand being around you if your eating meat in there presence, yknow? i was just making a possible situation and I'm sorry if I offended you. i understand what your saying tho

you are overthinking again. I`m not offended by anything.

I just wanted to explain from the vegan perspective, IF you ever are in that kind of situation. so you can understand their side + handle the situation better. because its better to go into a situation with more information, u know?

I know some vegans are strict, but they are for a reason. and I wanted to tell u the reason, so u dont feel so scared facing them. in the end its all about understanding the other person.

I`m a strict vegan when it comes to myself, but I do know that I cant change ppl if they dont want to.

and btw. such stricts vegans that cant handle being in the same room as none vegans break contact most of the time or dont come to begin with.
so I dont think you will be in that situation any time soon.

 

[IGURO]

you are overthinking again. I`m not offended by anything.

I just wanted to explain from the vegan perspective, IF you ever are in that kind of situation. so you can understand their side + handle the situation better. because its better to go into a situation with more information, u know?

I know some vegans are strict, but they are for a reason. and I wanted to tell u the reason, so u dont feel so scared facing them. in the end its all about understanding the other person.

I`m a strict vegan when it comes to myself, but I do know that I cant change ppl if they dont want to.

and btw. such stricts vegans that cant handle being in the same room as none vegans break contact most of the time or dont come to begin with.
so I dont think you will be in that situation any time soon.

okay sorry for overthinking again

 

[ani07]

okay sorry for overthinking again

no need to apologize. its okay to be worried about those things. I can understand actually, because some vegans are .... loud.
just remember - vegans are just humans fighting for animal rights. nothing scary about us

 

[IGURO]

no need to apologize. its okay to be worried about those things. I can understand actually, because some vegans are .... loud.
just remember - vegans are just humans fighting for animal rights. nothing scary about us

okie

 

[eclipsoul]

as a vegan, i'm so sorry if you ever had any bad experience with other vegans i personally admit that it's not very pleasant for me to eat out with someone who's heavily into meat dishes as one of the reasons i became vegan is my disgust for meat, but as someone who lives among people who eat it on a daily basis, if i couldn't be friends with meat eaters then i'd have no friends so i just mind my own business and hope for others to do the same thing.