Sensitive I just got broken up with and I'm happy as hell (1 Viewer)

[kisshuhua09baby]

TW: the third section can half count as ED discussion just
putting this bc I'm not sure

Yeah I have some explaining to do for this but I think even without saying you'll understand why
I REALLY shouldn't have been with her looking back
I'm just gonna list some incidents I took issue with that are ultimately part of the reason I have disdain for her

1. We were talking to eachother and joking about how we usually do and I said something along the lines of "I own you" (which for context she doesn't have an issue with me saying as a joke) and she replied back "You kinda sound like Valentino when you said that" I won't get into the deep depths of Valentino or hazbin hotel at all in this thread so if you don't know who he is just trust when I say that's NOT a compliment. I expressed being uncomfortable with her saying that and she quickly said sorry and that she wouldn't again. Come a few days later she made the same Valentino joke and when I told her again she acted like it wasn't a big deal and implied that she didn't know why I was upset when she did

2. She also has a close friend (who for, the purpose of this thread, I'll call Yellow) and in midsummer last year me and that friend spoke a bit and became friends. One day me, my gf, and yellow were in a gc talking about the lgbtq. I didn’t know I was added to the gc until I checked my discord later that day. They were speaking about trans athletes in sports teams. I can tell you with a straight face that I not only hate talking about this bc of the transphobia the discussion spurs but also because I think it’s pointless overall. I started telling them what I thought and they got upset. They then said some very transphobic things that I won’t repeat here because I’d feel utterly disgusted to say it even if I am just quoting someone. Adding on to this they always had really strong opinions on the lgbtq that I felt they specifically chose to tell me to antagonize me because they knew I was part of the community and this became even more apparent when I told my gf I wanted a bottom surgery procedure when I was older and she absolutely had a hysterical meltdown about it telling me I didn’t need it and that I could die. This really took a toll on me and made me question my identity even more.

3. This is more general than an isolated incident but she has a tendency to act high and mighty and never listen to what people try to tell her. She’ll tell me I need to change myself when I’ve made a lot of changes in the past months but she can’t even maintain a SMALL NEAR INSIGNIFICANT CHANGE for more than 1 DAY. I changed the way I talk the way I make jokes and purposely cut so many personality alterations just to make HER happy. And when she told me in detail about how her family constantly shamed her for how she looked and her parents barely allowed her to eat but certain foods in extremely small portions I built up resent for them because who are you to treat someone I love like that. So obviously I wouldn't talk very kindly of them when she brought them up but when I did she found issue with it. She'd defend these people with her life like they aren't the same ones treating her like shit. I was trying to tell her that so many times but to no avail

Overall, I’ll just say I’m happy to be free if anyone wants to know

 

[magali]

she sounds horrible, glad you could get rid of her in your life

 

[Selfmate]

never change who you are for a person...it's not worth it

besides it's probably best that you two are no longer together it seems you two were just incompatible

 

[kisshuhua09baby]

she sounds horrible, glad you could get rid of her in your life

Yeah she also brags a lot and makes it painfully obvious by prefixing it with "I hope this doesn't seem like bragging but..."

 

[MK3AM]

TW: the third section can half count as ED discussion just
putting this bc I'm not sure

Yeah I have some explaining to do for this but I think even without saying you'll understand why
I REALLY shouldn't have been with her looking back
I'm just gonna list some incidents I took issue with that are ultimately part of the reason I have disdain for her

1. We were talking to eachother and joking about how we usually do and I said something along the lines of "I own you" (which for context she doesn't have an issue with me saying as a joke) and she replied back "You kinda sound like Valentino when you said that" I won't get into the deep depths of Valentino or hazbin hotel at all in this thread so if you don't know who he is just trust when I say that's NOT a compliment. I expressed being uncomfortable with her saying that and she quickly said sorry and that she wouldn't again. Come a few days later she made the same Valentino joke and when I told her again she acted like it wasn't a big deal and implied that she didn't know why I was upset when she did

2. She also has a close friend (who for, the purpose of this thread, I'll call Yellow) and in midsummer last year me and that friend spoke a bit and became friends. One day me, my gf, and yellow were in a gc talking about the lgbtq. I didn’t know I was added to the gc until I checked my discord later that day. They were speaking about trans athletes in sports teams. I can tell you with a straight face that I not only hate talking about this bc of the transphobia the discussion spurs but also because I think it’s pointless overall. I started telling them what I thought and they got upset. They then said some very transphobic things that I won’t repeat here because I’d feel utterly disgusted to say it even if I am just quoting someone. Adding on to this they always had really strong opinions on the lgbtq that I felt they specifically chose to tell me to antagonize me because they knew I was part of the community and this became even more apparent when I told my gf I wanted a bottom surgery procedure when I was older and she absolutely had a hysterical meltdown about it telling me I didn’t need it and that I could die. This really took a toll on me and made me question my identity even more.

3. This is more general than an isolated incident but she has a tendency to act high and mighty and never listen to what people try to tell her. She’ll tell me I need to change myself when I’ve made a lot of changes in the past months but she can’t even maintain a SMALL NEAR INSIGNIFICANT CHANGE for more than 1 DAY. I changed the way I talk the way I make jokes and purposely cut so many personality alterations just to make HER happy. And when she told me in detail about how her family constantly shamed her for how she looked and her parents barely allowed her to eat but certain foods in extremely small portions I built up resent for them because who are you to treat someone I love like that. So obviously I wouldn't talk very kindly of them when she brought them up but when I did she found issue with it. She'd defend these people with her life like they aren't the same ones treating her like shit. I was trying to tell her that so many times but to no avail

Overall, I’ll just say I’m happy to be free if anyone wants to know

From reading this, it really did seem like a toxic relationship and I'm so glad that you're no longer in a relationship like that and you truly deserve better I hope you find someone who loves you, respects you and your boundaries and who you don't have to change for and can be yourself Do whatever makes you happy. <3