Is it rude to comment on someone’s weight loss? (1 Viewer)

[lexus]

I was just watching a video and I read a comment where someone said they noticed that the person in the video lost weight and that they looked good. They didn’t body shame her or call her fat, and whatnot. But there were replies to this comment saying that it was rude to comment on someone’s weight whether they lost or gained.
In my experience, I don’t recall getting offended when someone would tell me that I’ve “gotten so skinny” or whatever. But, I don’t like it when someone (mainly my grandmother) say I’m getting too thin. My grandma would actually complain about it and she even assumed that I wasn’t eating. To this day I’m still told that “need” to gain weight, but I just try to brush it off now.

But anywho, what’s your opinion on complementing someone’s weight loss? Do you think it’s offensive or do you think it’s okay to compliment on?

 

[lexus]

Fine. Let me flop ig

 

[daesuki]

i think if you phrase it all right and its relevant to the topic then its all right. idk if that makes sense

 

[daesuki]

Fine. Let me flop ig

i just commented too late

 

[lexus]

i just commented too late

It’s okay. You helped me flop a little less

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

I think it's fine but also I know people love censorship and as a result, it's normalized to get upset over everything nowadays even if it's not a big deal. The only time I could see it being offensive is if someone is trying to gain weight not lose OR if they are recovering from an ED and saying that could trigger them or spur them on instead of helping them get healthier.

 

[Day]

It's a double-edged sword. For me, I've always been thin but there was a point when I was in high school that I weighed myself and decided it was "too much". So I went on a 500 calorie diet for a week and a half and my mom made a comment of "you look so skinny" and made me think "ah, it must be working." It made me want to continue the behavior. I think you should only comment on it if you know how the person thinks. For example, someone who's vocal about wanting to lose weight to become healthier or gain more muscle - definitely okay to congratulate them. But for my mom to comment on my weight, it encouraged me to keep counting calories and watching what I eat in a day.

As long as you phrase it in a way that doesn't seem like a praise, it should be fine? Asking questions like "are you losing weight?" might be better than to directly comment on it.

 

[Panda]

Personally, I wouldn't really mention it unless I knew that a person was actively trying to lose weight and was open about that. Otherwise, I just wouldn't say something

 

[LeeHoseok]

The issue is, you never know if someone is sensitive about their weight, has a health condition, eating disorder, etc. It's not really anyone's place to comment on someone else's weight and it often does more harm than good. Just don't. It's not about censorship, it's about breaking people of the habit of commenting on a stranger's body. Self-image is a big part of confidence, if you don't know someone personally, it's not your place to say anything.

 

[ChiaraStar169]

I echo the others, Lex (btw is your name Alexus or just Lexus? lol). It can come off as rude if you don't know if she's tryna lose weight or not. Pretty risky move.

 

[Tickita]

If they didn't bring it up nor asked you what you thought of their weight loss, it could be.

 

[princesita]

To me, yes. It makes someone think about what they look like. That could make them look at things about themselves they don't like or they think could be fixed. It's just not a good idea to comment about someone's weight whether good or bad. When u praise someone for being skinny, it makes them think they need to be skinny to be beauty. Or if u shame someone for being overweight, they'll feel like they need to start eating less to be skinny and feel beautiful. Just not a good idea because u never know what they could be insecure about, what their mental state is like, or how they will react to ur comments.

 

[QueenB]

I never comment on it unless someone is telling me that they are losing weight and are happy with the weight they lost. Otherwise I do find it rude or something you shouldn't comment on because you don't know what people are going through health-wise. Also, with Youtubers and stuff these people are not your friends or someone you know so its just weird to comment on their weight or appearance like you personally know them.

 

[Handcrafted]

I don’t see why it would be an issue tbh I think people just look for anything to get them mad

 

[Michael]

The only times when I was bothered by a comment on my weight has been on times when I gained weight, and I was feeling physically bad because of it, and yet people kept saying I looked better.

 

[bulletproof]

mmm if I know that person is trying to lose/gain weight then yeah, I might compliment them, I don't think saying that they made a progress is rude

As for myself, I don't really get offended anyway, I was sometimes skinnier than I wanted to be, but it didn't bother me when people told me that I lost weight. Or when I started to go to the gym, it was a compliment when people started to notice without me pointing that I'm making a progress

 

[Mangoey]

I think it depends on who the person who lost weight is, who's commenting on their weight loss and the tone of voice they use.

Like if I had previously told my friends that I was planning on losing weight or something and then they nicely commented on it, I would be pretty happy about it. But as an asian person, I've had so many of my parents' friends offer unwarranted comments on my looks and body - either positively or negatively (usually negatively lol) - in a very condescending tone and it always bothers me just a little.

 

[lexus]

I think it depends on who the person who lost weight is, who's commenting on their weight loss and the tone of voice they use.

Like if I had previously told my friends that I was planning on losing weight or something and then they nicely commented on it, I would be pretty happy about it. But as an asian person, I've had so many of my parents' friends offer unwarranted comments on my looks and body - either positively or negatively (usually negatively lol) - in a very condescending tone and it always bothers me just a little.

Smart thinking my small fruit

 

[Michael]

I was just watching a video and I read a comment where someone said they noticed that the person in the video lost weight and that they looked good. They didn’t body shame her or call her fat, and whatnot. But there were replies to this comment saying that it was rude to comment on someone’s weight whether they lost or gained.

It seems to me all this is the result of having people from all over the world being brought together and bringing their own regional concepts of what's respectful and what's rude. Apparently, people in general (exceptions exist) think their regional way of thinking is the correct one.