is it so hard (1 Viewer)

[burnenemy]

to say ;no'

most ppl prefer ignoring than saying 'no' zzz

of course ,i hate getting rejecting but being ignored is more hurtful for god 's sake- it is like they are saying that i am dead

i feel like a mega idiot

of course ,i feel hard to say no or make boundary but i am different? i have screwed family and i have like social anxiety- dont think everyone is like me

i am working on fixing this

 

[uran]

i agree it is always better to be straightforward and just say no. ignoring is rude

 

[athenaaa]

I have a lot of troubles saying no, just of things in the past that have happened when I said no

 

[daesuki]

aha, u see, my probem is i struggle with saying no....and i struggle with ignoring people so i say yes even if I don't want to

 

[burnenemy]

aha, u see, my probem is i struggle with saying no....and i struggle with ignoring people so i say yes even if I don't want to

so does it bring any huge prob

 

[burnenemy]

I have a lot of troubles saying no, just of things in the past that have happened when I said no

like getting harassed by men? but usually it is on internut lmao

 

[athenaaa]

like getting harassed by men? but usually it is on internut lmao

That’s one example yes, but it’s online and irl

 

[burnenemy]

i agree it is always better to be straightforward and just say no. ignoring is rude

yes although men tend to harass after saying no

imma try my best from toking alot with unattractive men

 

[burnenemy]

That’s one example yes, but it’s online and irl

but they will still harass u if u ignore them? no? lol

 

[athenaaa]

but they will still harass u if u ignore them? no? lol

Yes they will. I had a dude harrass me for nudes for over a year after saying no and then he would say I’m gonna kms if you don’t. The block button was finally used

 

[Tickita]

It's not hard for me to say no when it comes to guys

 

[burnenemy]

Yes they will. I had a dude harrass me for nudes for over a year after saying no and then he would say I’m gonna kms if you don’t. The block button was finally used

i ignored one dude .he keep stalking me and make various acc to stalk me

then i said 'no' .he still dont stop lmao

then i have to limit ppl from adding me and sending msg

i guess they are mostly mentally ill

better say no and quickly block

 

[burnenemy]

It's not hard for me to say no when it comes to guys

then how they react

 

[Tickita]

then how they react

Oh my goodness.

There was this one guy that came from the back of the bus to talk to me and thought the lame conversation would make me want to go out with him. After I said no he stared at me with disappointment until I got off at my stop.

Other guys just peacefully accept it and walk away.

 

[gongchan]

Please do not say the r slur, it is a derogatory term. You shouldn't be saying that unless you are neurodivergent and able to reclaim it.

 

[Mew]

I've always be able to say no but if the person isnt getting my straight forward response then Ignore them after.

 

[daesuki]

so does it bring any huge prob

yeah, I've agreed to things I don't like before

 

[scaramouche]

i had so many problems with not saying no and being more of a "yes-man" but i've slowly learned to change that bc now at a point where idgaf