Official LGBTIQ+ Support Thread (3 Viewers)

[sooya_]

hehe

 

[sooya_]

sad reality

 

[sooya_]

sad reality

 

[BlingyBlinger]

I've got an official appointment with a therapist to talk about hrt!

 

[snsd2beg]

I've got an official appointment with a therapist to talk about hrt!

Congrats! I hope all goes well.

 

[sooya_]

My mom told me to sit up straight when she was doing my hair...

yeah, no thank u

 

[sooya_]

pendogender :o I realized that's me

 

[sooya_]

idk if I'm faking being a girl. I mean, I feel no connection to " me" being a girl. I do claim the labels Demigirl and lesbian because of my one headmates but that isn't, like, " me"
like the " body's-me"
my headmates have their own identities and such, but is that " me?"
Me and my headmates are very interesting things

 

[snsd2beg]

Bigenderism is weird because no matter what body I could be born into, no matter what I could choose to do or not do to my body, no matter what labels or pronouns I could use, no one would ever acknowledge me fully nor would I ever be fully comfortable with myself. And I have to accept that. There is no other option. At least, not in my lifetime.

 

[HugeBakkaeMotae]

Bigenderism is weird because no matter what body I could be born into, no matter what I could choose to do or not do to my body, no matter what labels or pronouns I could use, no one would ever acknowledge me fully nor would I ever be fully comfortable with myself. And I have to accept that. There is no other option. At least, not in my lifetime.

People can only aknowledge what you're willing to share, perhaps you shouldn't care so much about defining or labeling yourself and just be you. You don't have to be gay or straight, man or woman, just be you. Modern society is obsessed with labels and you can't fit in without them but that isn't right, we're each individuals and that's the beauty of life.

I don't have any answers but I feel your pain and I want you to know that I accept you as long as what you choose is true. Don't try to fit in, just be happy.

 

[Hanniequokka]

i just love my gf so much

 

[snsd2beg]

People can only aknowledge what you're willing to share, perhaps you shouldn't care so much about defining or labeling yourself and just be you. You don't have to be gay or straight, man or woman, just be you. Modern society is obsessed with labels and you can't fit in without them but that isn't right, we're each individuals and that's the beauty of life.

I don't have any answers but I feel your pain and I want you to know that I accept you as long as what you choose is true. Don't try to fit in, just be happy.

It's not the labels I have issue with. It's comforting for me to find terms and experiences that resonate with me as it reminds me that I'm not alone in what I feel and helps me learn about myself and others. I've collected many labels for myself that I don't share with anyone. I just like having them.
My problem is I am not seen nor respected by people. I cannot be open about myself without being dismissed or demonized. I was going to make this more in-depth, but it veers off topic. I will simply say that unfortunately, the sentiment runs deeper than just my gender or whatnot.

 

[HugeBakkaeMotae]

It's not the labels I have issue with. It's comforting for me to find terms and experiences that resonate with me as it reminds me that I'm not alone in what I feel and helps me learn about myself and others. I've collected many labels for myself that I don't share with anyone. I just like having them.
My problem is I am not seen nor respected by people. I cannot be open about myself without being dismissed or demonized. I was going to make this more in-depth, but it veers off topic. I will simply say that unfortunately, the sentiment runs deeper than just my gender or whatnot.

That's fair. I've never put much emphasis on fitting in so I never liked to be constricted by labels. I feel that people are always in flux so attemping to categorize them is akin to shackling oneself in a desire to belong and prevent ones natural evolution and growth.

If it's something comforting to you then I won't argue the point and you're probably doing the right thing for you, I just like to provide a different perspective and you can choose to do with it as you will whether that's dismissing it entirely or considering it food for thought. It's impossible for me to give perfect advice without completely knowing your situation, even if you told it to me I probably wouldn't be able to - but if I can put you one step closer towards finding the answers on your own by providing you with thoughts I've accomplished what I set out to do.

I think we all want to be seen and it's become increasingly hard in the way that the world is developing, Up to a certain degree I don't think it's even possible to be seen the way that we want to be, nobody will ever be able to see and accept all of you and that's why it's much more important to focus on accepting yourself, which is why I suggested not to limit yourself with labels.

Maybe you're talking in a more literal sense and it's the people around you that aren't accepting you in which case all I can say is that sometimes it's better to just cut people out, life is too short to spend all that time convincing people who don't have your best interest at heart - even if it's people close to you. I spent half my life trying to fix my relationship with someone who was close to me and finally giving up turned my whole life around - if I had known how much happier I'd be without that toxicity in my life I'd have done it so much earlier.

In either case I hope you figure it out and get your answers whether I was helpful or not.

 

[dark_tranquility]

apparently being bi sexual isnt real by my family decision

 

[BlingyBlinger]

Well now I have the resources for top surgery but looking at the state of the US it's a stupid decision At least I'll have it if things ever get safe again? Also got a referral to unpack said fears of the state of the US which will be nice because I sure can't talk to my parents about it

 

[dark_tranquility]

Well now I have the resources for top surgery but looking at the state of the US it's a stupid decision At least I'll have it if things ever get safe again? Also got a referral to unpack said fears of the state of the US which will be nice because I sure can't talk to my parents about it

wishing you the best outcome

 

[BlingyBlinger]

wishing you the best outcome

Thank you

 

[dark_tranquility]

Thank you

You are very welcome

 

[x_x]

im particularly filled with a lot of anger right now and i have no where's else to vent into a void other than this place, just ignore me for a second i gotta get this out and ill go back in my deactivation dungeon thank you

Spoiler

an interaction i had two days ago has suddenly plagued my mind right now, and i know they had good intentions, it was a pretty sweet message. i guess, i think. but its the assumption of something that i am not that's just suddenly eating me alive. something that is just blatantly listed on my profile that was ignored and they went off of an assumption that they THOUGHT was there. and it's just bringing back every. little. interaction. of misgendering. i would LOVE to think im finally in a spot with friends and a general perception online of people seeing me and referring to me AS AND WHO I AM, but when "slips" happen, it's like the truth comes out. people arent seeing me for who i am. they're putting up with it. and not to say they dont respect me, or dont believe me. that's not really it. but there will always be a wall between who i am and what the world has put me in. visually and apparently the way i carry myself online because i can straight up have my identity plastered on a bio and someone will still think and assume it said something else. peoples perception and assumptions on other people is a straight up scam, regretfully its a natural human thing to do. but i have to remind myself that is it NOT MY FAULT how other people see me. it genuinely makes me feel so utterly disgusted with myself, that i cant be the way i am without someone else thinking im something else. it makes me so sick that i want to throw up, genuinely right now i feel so ill over it. its the way ive become so much more comfortable with myself than ever before that i can live confidently in my identity now that when these small moments happen they hit HARDER. its like oh........ oh so all my hardwork in self confidence in gender identity has been for nothing and my existence is pointless and undeserving because what does it matter if i cant be perceived the way that i actually am, and that my self being is just predetermined by others perception and assumptions. that is not fair!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! who has the right to decide who YOU are other than YOURSELF. when i was younger, i was bit of a pushover. i was scared to be quite honest. deadnaming. misgendering. was always followed with an "i forgot sorry :(" over a decade ago i believed that, you know. but over time i realized, you dont just "forget" someones identity. especially if you're a "friend", you just dont care. there's no real way to even sugar coat that. even if you make a slip. you dont perceive them in that way, and you probably cant. its not something i can subject myself to tolerating anymore. when can i live a day while i dont have to worry about others perception of me and they see me for who i am. when can i live a day i can see myself in the mirror. i hate this life! i hate what its given me! i hate that i have to live in this body that looks nothing like what i am! i hate human-to-human perception! i hate self perception! i hate assumptions! i hate gender normativity and stereotyping that creates this most mudane, pointless, and useless assumptions and arguments over identities in the first place! i hate that people have to "prove" their own identities to the world for others to be satisified! IMAGINE a world where someone can say "im this!" and people believe them, and most importantly, ACTUALLY PERCIEVE THEM THAT WAY. i just cant wrap my head around why thats NOT THE NORM. and whats worse, this can not be a case of "who cares what other people think of me, i know what i am" BECAUSE THIS VERY MUCH A CASE OF NEEDED TO CARE. its not like people thinking you're weird for a media you enjoy or whatever. this is your IDENTITY. and if you cant be seen for your IDENTITY, that's your entire self BEING. it genuinely feels like whats the fucking point if i cant even exists as who i am. it makes you feel so miserable. it genuinely feels like there's only two options you can choose from: you either have to hide yourself or deal with people not truly seeing you as you are (doesnt matter if they're against you or with you). there is NO winning. IM SICK OF GETTING SICK OVER THIS JUST LET ME LIVE MY LIFE WITHOUT HAVING TO WORRY ABOUT THIS SHIT. WHAT DO I HAVE TO PROVE OTHER THAN BEING MYSELF. WHY IS THERE SOMETHING I HAVE TO PROVE IN THE FIRST PLACE. so sorry that my physical biology and genetics decided to do this to me, my cells should have done a better job in the womb, what was i thinking back then smfh. I NEED TO START SWINGING I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE. I HAVENT FOUGHT MY ENTIRE LIFE FOR MOMENTS LIKE THIS TO STILL BE HAPPENING. MY INDENTITY IS NOT THE CHOICE OF HOW OTHERS PERCEIVE ME. WHEN DO I FINALLY GET TO WIN. DO I EVER GET TO WIN.

 

[snsd2beg]

Holy shit I saw something life changing today (my family actually trying to respect me)