life is just a boring (1 Viewer)

[burnenemy]

journey to please ppl whether intentionally or unintentionally

u gotta please ppl to get a lover and friend or connection

u gotta please your boss to get a job

u gotta please your teachers so that they dont screw u

u gotta please your kids

u gotta please moderators before they ban u

and so on

and i just dont have such skill besides attracting men because i am not good in communicating ,i dont like humans ,i dont like to tell white lies / sugar coating etc lmao

i dont really wish to please ppl but i am working on communicating / expressing myself well for a better life

 

[Mew]

Coincidently pleasing people, is not the same as trying to intentionally please people.

The former is not in your control rather just people liking you for your natural being as they should, people like different things sometimes these things coinside naturally and sometimes it doesn't.

There are plenty of people that don't tell lies or sugarcoat, they have friends, jobs and such.
It seems the issue is society, rules and social skills for you, rather than pleasing people thats just more of simplication of something much more complex. Basic social skiIls is something that you need to survive but something you veer away from for comfortability sake, it's a catch 22 in your case.

As for work you should be somewhat good at a job generally or your a waste of time and can be a danger to others depending on the job. Doesn't makes sense to do a job that you aren't skilled in, it just sets you up for dissappointment.

 

[burnenemy]

Coincidently pleasing people, is not the same as trying to intentionally please people.

The former is not in your control rather just people liking you for your natural being as they should, people like different things sometimes these things coinside naturally and sometimes it doesn't.

There are plenty of people that don't tell lies or sugarcoat, they have friends, jobs and such.
It seems the issue is society, rules and social skills for you, rather than pleasing people thats just more of simplication of something much more complex. Basic social skiIls is something that you need to survive but something you veer away from for comfortability sake, it's a catch 22 in your case.

As for work you should be somewhat good at a job generally or your a waste of time and can be a danger to others depending on the job. Doesn't makes sense to do a job that you aren't skilled in, it just sets you up for dissappointment.

nobody cares whether u do your job well or not if they dont like u

 

[burnenemy]

Coincidently pleasing people, is not the same as trying to intentionally please people.

The former is not in your control rather just people liking you for your natural being as they should, people like different things sometimes these things coinside naturally and sometimes it doesn't.

There are plenty of people that don't tell lies or sugarcoat, they have friends, jobs and such.
It seems the issue is society, rules and social skills for you, rather than pleasing people thats just more of simplication of something much more complex. Basic social skiIls is something that you need to survive but something you veer away from for comfortability sake, it's a catch 22 in your case.

As for work you should be somewhat good at a job generally or your a waste of time and can be a danger to others depending on the job. Doesn't makes sense to do a job that you aren't skilled in, it just sets you up for dissappointment.

it is still abt pleasing others which is lame

why must have friend

humans are annoying ,noisy and unattractive

 

[Mew]

it is still abt pleasing others which is lame

why must have friend

humans are annoying ,noisy and unattractive

You don't have to if you don't want to, it's more about exchange of efforts to survive, you can do you job without being friends with anyone, the jobs is to facilitate your financial needs not necessarily emotional ones.
Friendships should develop naturally, not be forced.. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. No need to over complicate it really.
Some please others in order please themselves, the generally route in order to please oneself will always indirectly involve pleasing someone else.

Unless your born with necessary skill to feed, cloth yourself, make electricity heating without really on someones company or technology etc without anyone, than you can trully please and depend on yourself, but most people if not all (besides tribes) can't, most are in the same boat but in a different battle.

 

[burnenemy]

You don't have to if you don't want to, it's more about exchange of efforts to survive, you can do you job without being friends with anyone, the jobs is to facilitate your financial needs not necessarily emotional ones.
Friendships should develop naturally, not be forced.. If it happens it happens, if it doesn't it doesn't. No need to over complicate it really.
Some please others in order please themselves, the generally route in order to please oneself will always indirectly involve pleasing someone else.

Unless your born with necessary skill to feed, cloth yourself, make electricity heating without really on someones company or technology etc without anyone, than you can trully please and depend on yourself, but most people if not all (besides tribes) can't, most are in the same boat but in a different battle.

i didnt say that i need help tho

 

[Mew]

Never said you did, Im being hyperthetical. You free to say whatever you want within reason, I'm free to reply if I choose. Simple exchange of words nothing more nothing less. Just felt conversing... Plus I made the thread longer too lol

 

[Day]

You should exist to please yourself and no one else

 

[burnenemy]

You should exist to please yourself and no one else

not if u wanna be rich and marry someone excellent

i was hella ugly and everyone treated me like mega garbage

it just improved when i stop being ugly