Sensitive Living with an Abusive Asshole is Hard (2 Viewers)

[Lovely_Cornchips]

I'm so fucking frustrated because I feel like we're killing my cat. I've had her for 17/18 years-aka MOST of my life.
She is beyond sweet, super adorable, and just a chill fucking cat and we believe she has a brain tumor as she has minor seizures that aren't super noticeable unless you are paying attention. She also doesn't have much appetite either and is very skinny when she used to be a fairly plump cat. As you may've seen in previous posts, I was trying to get her to eat more by homemaking her food. She took to it for a day but then didn't care for it afterward.
So I decided to move her food bowl to a place that was AWAY from her litter box. And she, of course, began to eat literally EVERYTHING I put down for her.
But when my mother came back she said my dad wouldn't like that so I figured there wouldn't be an issue with putting it in my room instead of the hall.
So it was out of his sight and out of the public eye again.

Keep in mind I would put it next to the wall and put potty pads down so she wouldn't get any of the wet food onto the carpet.
It was working. She was eating everything and not making a mess or ruining anything.
Come to today where my dad is screaming and shouting at my mother because he figured out what we were doing.
I don't know if he just walked past my room and saw it but he flipped his shit. Started screaming that my mom and I don't care about the house, or don't care about anything at all. Because we don't care if shit gets ruined (but nothing was ruined). Started screaming about how he does not care if she is eating better, that he wants to get rid of her, toss her out on the street, and then stormed off and I could here him saying we were both dumbasses and more.

You know, because caring about a family pet and wanting her to eat well is somehow really awful.
But caring more about a damn carpet is somehow a holy angelic thing to do.
I'm on the brink of tears because I already lost my previous cat a couple of years ago and she was skinny and wouldn't eat.
(she had a tumor in her stomach and it had gotten to the point where she couldn't eat)
I don't want my current baby to fucking starve because we weren't doing what needed to be done.
I fucking hate this man with such a STRONG and visceral hatred.

I just wanted to vent about it somewhere because I'm fed up with this crap but I can't move out because I don't have the funds to do so and go back to school.
If I could you bet your ass I would take her with me and say fuck him.​

 

[SHlNEE]

I'm so fucking frustrated because I feel like we're killing my cat. I've had her for 17/18 years-aka MOST of my life.
She is beyond sweet, super adorable, and just a chill fucking cat and we believe she has a brain tumor as she has minor seizures that aren't super noticeable unless you are paying attention. She also doesn't have much appetite either and is very skinny when she used to be a fairly plump cat. As you may've seen in previous posts, I was trying to get her to eat more by homemaking her food. She took to it for a day but then didn't care for it afterward.
So I decided to move her food bowl to a place that was AWAY from her litter box. And she, of course, began to eat literally EVERYTHING I put down for her.
But when my mother came back she said my dad wouldn't like that so I figured there wouldn't be an issue with putting it in my room instead of the hall.
So it was out of his sight and out of the public eye again.

Keep in mind I would put it next to the wall and put potty pads down so she wouldn't get any of the wet food onto the carpet.
It was working. She was eating everything and not making a mess or ruining anything.
Come to today where my dad is screaming and shouting at my mother because he figured out what we were doing.
I don't know if he just walked past my room and saw it but he flipped his shit. Started screaming that my mom and I don't care about the house, or don't care about anything at all. Because we don't care if shit gets ruined (but nothing was ruined). Started screaming about how he does not care if she is eating better, that he wants to get rid of her, toss her out on the street, and then stormed off and I could here him saying we were both dumbasses and more.

You know, because caring about a family pet and wanting her to eat well is somehow really awful.
But caring more about a damn carpet is somehow a holy angelic thing to do.
I'm on the brink of tears because I already lost my previous cat a couple of years ago and she was skinny and wouldn't eat.
(she had a tumor in her stomach and it had gotten to the point where she couldn't eat)
I don't want my current baby to fucking starve because we weren't doing what needed to be done.
I fucking hate this man with such a STRONG and visceral hatred.

I just wanted to vent about it somewhere because I'm fed up with this crap but I can't move out because I don't have the funds to do so and go back to school.
If I could you bet your ass I would take her with me and say fuck him.​

Im sorry to hear this
Please stay strong and stick up for your cats health as much as possible
Sounds like all she got is you, thank you for being an animal lover

I hope she gonna be ok

 

[SHlNEE]

Also he is indeed a fkin asshole
Wow

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Im sorry to hear this
Please stay strong and stick up for your cats health as much as possible
Sounds like all she got is you, thank you for being an animal lover

I hope she gonna be ok

She's got me and my mom. Don't worry I'm going to try and see if I can sneakily feed her in my room.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Also he is indeed a fkin asshole
Wow

He is.

 

[SHlNEE]

He is.

Gurl stay strong and learn from his mistakes
Use him as example for the future of the kind of person you dont want to become

I wish you all the best

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Gurl stay strong and learn from his mistakes
Use him as example for the future of the kind of person you dont want to become

thanks and don't worry I have been striving for my entire life not to be like him

 

[kinnie]

Wow, what an ass. Sounds like he just wants to be in control. I mean really, it’s just cat food. It can easily be cleaned up. I mean I’d hate for you to accidentally spill some water. Ugh. I don’t think I would be able to be around someone like that. I’m kind of in the same boat as you are but with my mom because my biological sperm donor is a psychopath and a deadbeat so. I hope that he at least comes around and apologizes to ya’ll, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. :(

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Wow, what an ass. Sounds like he just wants to be in control. I mean really, it’s just cat food. It can easily be cleaned up. I mean I’d hate for you to accidentally spill some water. Ugh. I don’t think I would be able to be around someone like that. I’m kind of in the same boat as you are but with my mom because my biological sperm donor is a psychopath and a deadbeat so. I hope that he at least comes around and apologizes to ya’ll, I’m sorry you have to deal with that. :(

Thank you and yeah he's always been very quick to overreact to small things and be nasty over those small things too. Sorry about your situation as well.

 

[VillageIdiot]

That sounds like an aunt I had to live with in my high school years.
Always loud, always had something to be angry about. Would make mountains out of molehills or just make something entirely. Always gotta feel big by making you feel small and embarrassed

I'm always glad my mom kept my cat when I went to live in Ohio. Because I know if I brought her up, I'd come home from school and she'd have "run away"

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

That sounds like an aunt I had to live with in my high school years.
Always loud, always had something to be angry about. Would make mountains out of molehills or just make something entirely. Always gotta feel big by making you feel small and embarrassed

I'm always glad my mom kept my cat when I went to live in Ohio. Because I know if I brought her up, I'd come home from school and she'd have "run away"

I'm sorry you had to deal with that but I'm glad you didn't take your cat too-that would be beyond devestating.

 

[VillageIdiot]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that but I'm glad you didn't take your cat too-that would be beyond devestating.

Yeah.
Have you thought about getting a small rug or mat for you room? Might look a little better to have a cat bowl on

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

Yeah.
Have you thought about getting a small rug or mat for you room? Might look a little better to have a cat bowl on

I haven't thought about that but I may just do it to help with the mess and like you said make it look nicer.

 

[Myco]

He went off like that just because you moved a feeding bowl somewhere else but still provided everything so nothing got messy????
Idk what trauma he went through to think it's okay to scream and throw a tantrum like that for such a non-issue
Does he have OCD or is generally a neat-freak?

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

He went off like that just because you moved a feeding bowl somewhere else but still provided everything so nothing got messy????
Idk what trauma he went through to think it's okay to scream and throw a tantrum like that for such a non-issue
Does he have OCD or is generally a neat-freak?

No, he's just very materialistic and image-focused. HE once got pissed about bringing our dog's kennel into the new house because it was an eyesore. So we had to go out and buy her a big bed to replace her little haven.

 

[Myco]

No, he's just very materialistic and image-focused. HE once got pissed about bringing our dog's kennel into the new house because it was an eyesore. So we had to go out and buy her a big bed to replace her little haven.

oh wow i have no words for him

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

oh wow i have no words for him

Yeah no he's obsessed with items looking good and the house looking super nice and if something messes with his image of how the house should look he gets nasty.

 

[Myco]

Yeah no he's obsessed with items looking good and the house looking super nice and if something messes with his image of how the house should look he gets nasty.

that definitely sounds like some sort of OCD tho idk q.q

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

that definitely sounds like some sort of OCD tho idk q.q

Maybe? I know he probably has an anxiety issue too.

 

[Myco]

Maybe? I know he probably has an anxiety issue too.

but the way he sounds to me i doubt he'll ever freely get it checked out