loneliness, solitude & just being alone .. (1 Viewer)

[kodoku]

How often do you feel lonely and why? what kind of loneliness is yours?
What was the time in your life you felt most alone in your heart?
How much time do you spend alone and are you comfortable being on your own?
let's talk :)

Spoiler: me

I kinda feel like I was always alone (that's why my username/fav word is kodoku which means solitude).. it's gotten much better after living in isolation and spending years completely emotionally alone and trapped within my own body though. I don't feel nearly as alone these days hehe. At times, I feel like being with others and that togetherness are an illusion and that every being is actually on this earth on its own.. humans are also creatures that seem unable to understand or even just accept each other, we can't stand being with each other and we can't stand being alone.. it's really weird to me, like some kind of curse.. but I'm not claiming that's true just because I'm personally not that connected and close to someone else, ofc. I think I felt an infinite and hopeless loneliness for a long time as a child/teen, but somehow, as years went by, I was able to form relationships and somewhat overcome it. I like being alone, I think it's necessary to reflect and think and feel things, to take in what's happening within you and around you, to be honest with yourself.. but being alone too much is ofc not healthy either. I do hope to see a strong bond be created between me and someone else, being really close and together a lot, sharing life and everything in it. I want to know what that's like, not being alone, you know.. hehe

 

[mirella]

I like being alone and spending time with myself, though I also enjoy talking to and hanging out with others. Usually I don't crave one or the other and am content in either situation, so I don't feel lonely often unless I am being left out.

 

[dark_tranquility]

I don't get lonely. Only one in my family who doesn't.
I have enough distractions in my life not to feel such a feeling.

I spend a lot of time by myself. (though I used to years ago, before I had friends)
I do still, just in healthier terms.

 

[Suzy]

I realised just the other day that outside of my family, I don't have any a single person that I'm close with. I realised then just how lonely I really am but I don't really mind honestly. I feel like some times it's nice to have someone else to talk to but I generally just enjoy being alone and not being around others. I feel mentally exhausted by communicating with others. I was literally just looking up houses in quiet and remote areas in my country because I want to move out of the city. I just really love peace and quiet and solitude is something I enjoy.

 

[jasque]

I felt lonely for one day after some years.

I cured it watching Gyuri vlives.

 

[yeji]

I always thought that I need someone else to live with me which is why I wanted to have a roommate. I felt the loneliness most back then. I didn’t get along with her and it was literally pissing me of how much advantage she took of me. I really just felt lonely. I am glad I have my own apartment now. I may be alone like that but I feel more at ease and happier.

 

[ontheblueside]

I feel like loneliness doesn't really bother me anymore, in fact I feel quite relaxed and relieved when I'm alone sometimes but it does depend on the situation. I can't sit and just be alone for an entire day but I do appreciate a few hours to myself, I'd probably go insane if I sat at home by myself all the time though. I used to be bothered by loneliness because I was never used to it, I always had a few friends and I'd be upset if I had to go a day without seeing or speaking to them and I'd be devastated every time we would argue because I felt like I'd lost my only way of not being alone? Since I no longer speak to these people anymore due to us arguing and moving on, I don't really depend on people and social interaction anymore. I just kind of do my own thing and I feel much more independent and capable