My boyfriend broke up with me (1 Viewer)

[Areum]

I told this dude everything and I still love him. Apparently we had an "open relationship" w/o me knowing and he went out with another girl four times before thinking of telling me this morning. My best friend has been here this whole morning while I bawled my eyes out. He said that since he's a senior and graduating soon, he won't be able to see me as much. I even saw messages between him and my best friend saying that he can't see himself with me after graduating. Just last Friday he told me that he couldn't see himself with anyone but me and that he chose me for a reason. He made me feel loved and special in a way that no one else could. I gave him a part of me that will take a long time to build back up. I can't trust him anymore like I used to. I still love him very much and can't see myself with anyone else but him. I know he still cares for me bc of the way he cried before telling me; he also said that even though we aren't together anymore, he wouldn't continue to date the other girl (idk if I should believe that or not for now). This is my first time feeling this way for someone and it'll be my last for a while. He betrayed me and lied to me. My best friend told me that I could give him another chance after I graduate, but I'm not sure about that either. I still love him, but I don't want to hurt again like I do now. I cried for a whole hour and a half but I feel better now. I plan on talking to him soon when I accept the situation (maybe a couple weeks from now) and see if we can still be friends or if that would be too much of a burden on me because he knows I still love him. In the messages, he even said that I'm "head over heels in love" with him. I took that as he was getting annoyed with me or something like that. Last time I checked, when you're in a relationship, you're supposed to be honest with that other person and tell them what they need to know. Because hiding it from them is just going to hurt them even more. He waited until she found out about me before telling me. The fact that I trusted him with everything hurts like crap. I'm doubting if he meant it every time he said "I love you" because if you love a person, you give them a chance, tell them about your life, and tell them the truth even if it hurts them. If he would've told me before, I wouldn't be hurt like I am right now. I think I'm done with relationships for right now.

We've been talking for about 6 months and dating for almost 3. He did this right before we were about to make 3 months on February 8; 3 days before my birthday

 

[Willow]

Courage

 

[Willow]

Breaking up is never easy but sometimes it is the best thing … I hope you’ll recover soon

 

[athenaaa]

It’s perfectly okay to take time for yourself. You believed him and it didn’t end up working out. Try not to beat yourself up about it. And it sounds like you still have a good support system around you to help pick yourself back up. You’re so strong and this is another bump in the road. It’s going to be okay 💜

 

[Yili]

I'm so sorry Areum, you tried so hard to make the relationship work and did your part to show him love and appreciation and he didn't return it. It's not my business but to me he doesn't even deserve your friendship, sure exes can be friends but he lied to you and made you feel like this. Friends don't lie to each other either, if he at least saw you as someone he cared about he would've told you what was going on a long time ago instead of stringing you along.
Nonetheless besides this old girls opinion I'm here for you and anything you need, you're a great person who will find someone who makes you feel wonderful <3 You deserve all of the happiness in the world

 

[doll]

he doesnt matter boo
youre a baddie and he lost you!
i think he should have ASKED you, if it could be an open relationship

 

[Abeamus]

It sounds to me like you got a lucky escape in the end as if the relationship wasn't fairly easy in the first 3 months it likely would not have lasted regardless when the difficulty cranked up, it'll hurt now but considering you wanted something monogamous and he had other ideas then it'll be for the best that you try to move on and look for someone who is more interested in a monogamous relationship when you're ready

 

[honeyfornomoney]

I got dumped recently so I think I lowkey understand you. Idk, maybe I'm too old-fashioned, but I don't understand those open relationships (I don't judge tho). And he didn't even tell you... imo, if someone actually loves you and has feelings he wouldn't do this. He doesn't desrve you crying over him.

 

[Areum]

Courage

Breaking up is never easy but sometimes it is the best thing … I hope you’ll recover soon

It’s perfectly okay to take time for yourself. You believed him and it didn’t end up working out. Try not to beat yourself up about it. And it sounds like you still have a good support system around you to help pick yourself back up. You’re so strong and this is another bump in the road. It’s going to be okay 💜

I'm so sorry Areum, you tried so hard to make the relationship work and did your part to show him love and appreciation and he didn't return it. It's not my business but to me he doesn't even deserve your friendship, sure exes can be friends but he lied to you and made you feel like this. Friends don't lie to each other either, if he at least saw you as someone he cared about he would've told you what was going on a long time ago instead of stringing you along.
Nonetheless besides this old girls opinion I'm here for you and anything you need, you're a great person who will find someone who makes you feel wonderful <3 You deserve all of the happiness in the world

he doesnt matter boo
youre a baddie and he lost you!
i think he should have ASKED you, if it could be an open relationship

It sounds to me like you got a lucky escape in the end as if the relationship wasn't fairly easy in the first 3 months it likely would not have lasted regardless when the difficulty cranked up, it'll hurt now but considering you wanted something monogamous and he had other ideas then it'll be for the best that you try to move on and look for someone who is more interested in a monogamous relationship when you're ready

I got dumped recently so I think I lowkey understand you. Idk, maybe I'm too old-fashioned, but I don't understand those open relationships (I don't judge tho). And he didn't even tell you... imo, if someone actually loves you and has feelings he wouldn't do this. He doesn't desrve you crying over him.

Thanks for all the support; I really needed this

 

[yeji]

I definitely get your feeling and know those are valid. Things happen for a reason and I know you gor the strength to learn and grow from this. I am also sure that it might hurt now but you will better again.

 

[Areum]

I definitely get your feeling and know those are valid. Things happen for a reason and I know you gor the strength to learn and grow from this. I am also sure that it might hurt now but you will better again.

Thank you; I'm better now but I know it'll hurt for at least a few more days/couple of weeks; I'm trying

 

[Magician]

Take care Areum!
Not to tell you that he is seeing someone behind your back bc he thought you guys have an open relationship? That's something you discuss properly with your partner.
For me, it sounds like he didn’t want to be seen as a cheater and came up with this really poor excuse
And that he continues to lie and tells your friend that he can't imagine being with you after graduation and tells you the complete opposite?
He is one big red flag

Stay healthy and happy!

 

[Villains]

i’ve never been through something like that but i understand that it can be hard. if you need to talk, my dms are open. don’t stress out over him <3

 

[ADORA]

Where is he ima he doesn't deserve you sis

 

[Willow]

Thanks for all the support; I really needed this

You’re welcome ☺

 

[ahparkchaeyoung]

I told this dude everything and I still love him. Apparently we had an "open relationship" w/o me knowing and he went out with another girl four times before thinking of telling me this morning. My best friend has been here this whole morning while I bawled my eyes out. He said that since he's a senior and graduating soon, he won't be able to see me as much. I even saw messages between him and my best friend saying that he can't see himself with me after graduating. Just last Friday he told me that he couldn't see himself with anyone but me and that he chose me for a reason. He made me feel loved and special in a way that no one else could. I gave him a part of me that will take a long time to build back up. I can't trust him anymore like I used to. I still love him very much and can't see myself with anyone else but him. I know he still cares for me bc of the way he cried before telling me; he also said that even though we aren't together anymore, he wouldn't continue to date the other girl (idk if I should believe that or not for now). This is my first time feeling this way for someone and it'll be my last for a while. He betrayed me and lied to me. My best friend told me that I could give him another chance after I graduate, but I'm not sure about that either. I still love him, but I don't want to hurt again like I do now. I cried for a whole hour and a half but I feel better now. I plan on talking to him soon when I accept the situation (maybe a couple weeks from now) and see if we can still be friends or if that would be too much of a burden on me because he knows I still love him. In the messages, he even said that I'm "head over heels in love" with him. I took that as he was getting annoyed with me or something like that. Last time I checked, when you're in a relationship, you're supposed to be honest with that other person and tell them what they need to know. Because hiding it from them is just going to hurt them even more. He waited until she found out about me before telling me. The fact that I trusted him with everything hurts like crap. I'm doubting if he meant it every time he said "I love you" because if you love a person, you give them a chance, tell them about your life, and tell them the truth even if it hurts them. If he would've told me before, I wouldn't be hurt like I am right now. I think I'm done with relationships for right now.

We've been talking for about 6 months and dating for almost 3. He did this right before we were about to make 3 months on February 8; 3 days before my birthday

i'm so sorry :( excuse my language but he's a dickhead, and you don't deserve to be hurt like that. stay strong and i hope you will feel better soon <33

 

[Areum]

Take care Areum!
Not to tell you that he is seeing someone behind your back bc he thought you guys have an open relationship? That's something you discuss properly with your partner.
For me, it sounds like he didn’t want to be seen as a cheater and came up with this really poor excuse
And that he continues to lie and tells your friend that he can't imagine being with you after graduation and tells you the complete opposite?
He is one big red flag

Stay healthy and happy!

I thought he was a green light but apparently he's not

i’ve never been through something like that but i understand that it can be hard. if you need to talk, my dms are open. don’t stress out over him <3

Thank you; my head hurts from crying but I'll try to get better

Where is he ima he doesn't deserve you sis

In this case, I don't care if you beat him up so gladly, he's at the track

i'm so sorry :( excuse my language but he's a dickhead, and you don't deserve to be hurt like that. stay strong and i hope you will feel better soon <33

He's an idiot; I'm probably going to talk to him later after it stops hurting so much; Thank you

 

[Areum]

@danielchoibae @hoeforvicton

 

[ADORA]

I thought he was a green light but apparently he's not

Thank you; my head hurts from crying but I'll try to get better

In this case, I don't care if you beat him up so gladly, he's at the track

He's an idiot; I'm probably going to talk to him later after it stops hurting so much; Thank you

MOOMMMMM I GOTTA BEAT A BITCH UPPPPP

 

[ChiaraStar169]

Hey, remember when I told you that if he broke your heart, I'd break his face? So LEMME AT HIM!