Sensitive my 'friend' and me argued today... (1 Viewer)

[Chan_tan]

im going to put this as sensitive just bc this mentions bullying and stuff

Ok so many of yall prob dont know this but i was horribly bullied for a looonngggg time, because of my appearance and interests. I was also horribly treated at home and my whole life in general was just horrible. Anyways, me and one of my friends got into an argument and she knows that i am really sensitive when it comes to people talking abt how i look. Anyways so we're fighting and i'm trying not to say anything abt looks or anything like that bc im not that type of person, but she goes and says "It's not my fault your fatass couldn't stop eating and decided to just randomly starve yourself. You don't know how hard it was being called your friend after all this. Do you really think you're all that? I was bullied and teased because of you. I'm the victim here. No wonder your parents hate you so much."
I get what she was saying, but ouch. I was called a 'attention-seeker' because i was always crying from all the bullying and being really insecure about my body and of course she was right because she was also beat up and called names. I honestly get how SHE'S the victim and not ME, because of course i had a choice to look how i do and she didn't have a choice whether or not to be my friend.



and a little apology for my 'friend'

I'm sorry i was starving myself trying to be like everyone else. I should've just stopped eating bc that's soooo easy. I'm sorry that by the time i was 7 i was deciding on whether or not i should stay alive or not. Please accept my apology, because i'm obviously in the wrong for not going up to heaven and telling god to change my body <3

 

[Day]

Drop them as a friend immediately. I'm sorry you had to experience a crazy person

 

[Selfmate]

I feel you my friend

I was bullied in primary (elementary) school as well and the worst feeling was when the people you believed were your friends turned on you because if they didn't they'd get bullied by association as well

my friend don't change who you are because of other people - I've said it before that no one can make you change you only you can do that...
I cannot say that your situation will be like mine but the bullying made be more resilient and "tougher" so to speak so I hope that everything works out well for you

 

[dark_tranquility]

Don't speak to them anymore. They aren't worth it.
I dropped like seven friends, because they get making fun of me.

 

[The_LastRomeo]

If your "friend" was truly your friend, they would've cried with you and stuck with you at all times
If she's so mad about that to the point she hurls hurtful things like that, drop her immediately

F her, f your parents, you are beautiful no matter what you think, don't starve yourself it'll only make you feel worse okay? Keep fighting and show her that you don't need her

 

[MK3AM]

im going to put this as sensitive just bc this mentions bullying and stuff

Ok so many of yall prob dont know this but i was horribly bullied for a looonngggg time, because of my appearance and interests. I was also horribly treated at home and my whole life in general was just horrible. Anyways, me and one of my friends got into an argument and she knows that i am really sensitive when it comes to people talking abt how i look. Anyways so we're fighting and i'm trying not to say anything abt looks or anything like that bc im not that type of person, but she goes and says "It's not my fault your fatass couldn't stop eating and decided to just randomly starve yourself. You don't know how hard it was being called your friend after all this. Do you really think you're all that? I was bullied and teased because of you. I'm the victim here. No wonder your parents hate you so much."
I get what she was saying, but ouch. I was called a 'attention-seeker' because i was always crying from all the bullying and being really insecure about my body and of course she was right because she was also beat up and called names. I honestly get how SHE'S the victim and not ME, because of course i had a choice to look how i do and she didn't have a choice whether or not to be my friend.



and a little apology for my 'friend'

I'm sorry i was starving myself trying to be like everyone else. I should've just stopped eating bc that's soooo easy. I'm sorry that by the time i was 7 i was deciding on whether or not i should stay alive or not. Please accept my apology, because i'm obviously in the wrong for not going up to heaven and telling god to change my body <3

no drop them right now this isn't right to talk about someones body and their life you that's just breaking trust she also needs to understand that she isn't the only victim you are also I truly hope you find someone that will treat you with the respect you deserve.

 

[Chan_tan]

I feel you my friend

I was bullied in primary (elementary) school as well and the worst feeling was when the people you believed were your friends turned on you because if they didn't they'd get bullied by association as well

my friend don't change who you are because of other people - I've said it before that no one can make you change you only you can do that...
I cannot say that your situation will be like mine but the bullying made be more resilient and "tougher" so to speak so I hope that everything works out well for you

It is the worst feeling. Esp when they were with you since day 1

I don't wan't to, but i also don't want to be bullied as much as my past self. Right now its just so hard for me to..i don't even know how to explain it. If i eat normally ill get bullied like how i was. If i don't i'll be made fun of because Im gonna be "looking for attention"

 

[Chan_tan]

Don't speak to them anymore. They aren't worth it.
I dropped like seven friends, because they get making fun of me.

I've dropped so much friends. I can't even count them. Worst part is, each time i leave one they shittalk behind my back and the rest of the group become faker than they we were before

 

[Chan_tan]

If your "friend" was truly your friend, they would've cried with you and stuck with you at all times
If she's so mad about that to the point she hurls hurtful things like that, drop her immediately

F her, f your parents, you are beautiful no matter what you think, don't starve yourself it'll only make you feel worse okay? Keep fighting and show her that you don't need her

I actually thought she was real though. She used to always stick with me. Idek what happened.

Thank youuu<3
one day i'll be able to show her i don't need her, at least i hope i will

 

[dark_tranquility]

I've dropped so much friends. I can't even count them. Worst part is, each time i leave one they shittalk behind my back and the rest of the group become faker than they we were before

That's cruel/I am sorry that happened to you.

 

[Selfmate]

It is the worst feeling. Esp when they were with you since day 1

I don't wan't to, but i also don't want to be bullied as much as my past self. Right now its just so hard for me to..i don't even know how to explain it. If i eat normally ill get bullied like how i was. If i don't i'll be made fun of because Im gonna be "looking for attention"

it's a hard decision to make my friend all I can say is that it gets better???

I won't tell you how to live your live (as if you'd even listen to me) just that eat healthy - that's a good suggestion no matter what stage of life you are at...

 

[Chan_tan]

it's a hard decision to make my friend all I can say is that it gets better???

I won't tell you how to live your live (as if you'd even listen to me) just that eat healthy - that's a good suggestion no matter what stage of life you are at...

I hope it does



Um excuse meeeee??? OFC i'd listen to you!

Im trying to eat healthy. Idk i go to eat healthy and then i eat too much and then too little and then it repeats and blahblah and its annoyingg.

 

[Selfmate]

I hope it does



Um excuse meeeee??? OFC i'd listen to you!

Im trying to eat healthy. Idk i go to eat healthy and then i eat too much and then too little and then it repeats and blahblah and its annoyingg.

hmm...you're gonna listen to me??? that's a first but I guess that's the new bangchan!!!

and hey keep your chin up my friend - life is full of ups and downs - and you're still in high school - things will get better as you meet people who like you for you no matter if you're fat / skinny or otherwise

 

[Chan_tan]

hmm...you're gonna listen to me??? that's a first but I guess that's the new bangchan!!!

and hey keep your chin up my friend - life is full of ups and downs - and you're still in high school - things will get better as you meet people who like you for you no matter if you're fat / skinny or otherwise

YES UR LIKE 40 YOUVE HAD ALOT OF EXPIRIENCE. or at least ill try. i kinda went back to, yknow, not doing too good.

i hate schoooolllllll. i wish i can just be homeschooleddd
ofc they will! (or at least i hope lol)

 

[Selfmate]

YES UR LIKE 40 YOUVE HAD ALOT OF EXPIRIENCE. or at least ill try. i kinda went back to, yknow, not doing too good.

i hate schoooolllllll. i wish i can just be homeschooleddd
ofc they will! (or at least i hope lol)

well that obviously depends on your parents availability to home school you - if they can't then you gotta make do with what you have

you're gonna relapse mate - that's going to happen to everybody - no one is perfect 100% of the time whether it's eating healthy or otherwise
the only thing you can do is try and remember eating healthy isn't 100% no junk food - some junk food is ok even within a healthy diet

 

[Chan_tan]

well that obviously depends on your parents availability to home school you - if they can't then you gotta make do with what you have

you're gonna relapse mate - that's going to happen to everybody - no one is perfect 100% of the time whether it's eating healthy or otherwise
the only thing you can do is try and remember eating healthy isn't 100% no junk food - some junk food is ok even within a healthy diet

Yeah it does. My parents wont let me bc one of my siblings are already homeschooled and they dont have time finding a school for me so i gotta stay in person ㅠㅠ

I know, i know. I wish i could just choose how i am yknow? Like one day i can just be like "POOF HEALTHY" and the next day im like "POOF JUNK FOOD :)"

 

[Selfmate]

Yeah it does. My parents wont let me bc one of my siblings are already homeschooled and they dont have time finding a school for me so i gotta stay in person ㅠㅠ

I know, i know. I wish i could just choose how i am yknow? Like one day i can just be like "POOF HEALTHY" and the next day im like "POOF JUNK FOOD :)"

hey it's not easy my friend - I remember when I was around your age and dealing with peer pressure and school and grades and girls and everything of that nature