My past week feels like a Kdrama (2 Viewers)

[seungfloral]

So, just as a clarification i'm horrible at dating, only talked to some guys before and went to a few dates and i'm 27...

The past week i was randomly called by a guy that lives in the same town as I do and i went on a date with him, cause i'm lonely af and why not? He was kind, bought me flowers and we ate pizza, but it was idk... meh. Honestly i wouldn't have given a second thought if my parents wouldn't be gushing about him as if he was the best thing since sliced bread. They told me they really hoped smth would work out between us, cause they don't wanna see me lonely and they gonna die soon... (kinda made me really sad and depressed hearing them think this negatively) so i kinda began continuing to get to know the guy. BUT i had a on and off guy who texted me for 2 years , but we never went on dates or exchanged numbers, he just texted me good morning and good night every other day, so i had to call quits on him cause i don't wanna message two guys.

Just as i was feeling guilty for basically blocking the 2 year old message friend and continuing to text this new guy that i barely like an old friend from college messages me asking if i'm available... he has become a surgeon and has an estate and such... and i had a crush on him in the past... He asked me if we could text eachother or if i'm serious about someone... So now i had to tell him i'm seeing someone currently. And then he began to boast about his estate and how pretty it is,,,,etc.

I know it's not a big deal, but for me. Not being in a serious relationship in years it's so hard to just jump through all these things... Sometimes i just think i'm dumb and should be alone cause i have no clue how the dating scene works...

 

[Pirioca]

Not being in a serious relationship in years it's so hard to just jump through all these things... Sometimes i just think i'm dumb and should be alone cause i have no clue how the dating scene works...

Nope! Nope! And ... nope!

Look at it this way: if you start a bit later, you has had less bad experiences. Because of that you are also more unprejudiced. If you assume that you have any weakness, think about how you could make it to your individual strength.

 

[seungfloral]

Nope! Nope! And ... nope!

Look at it this way: if you start a bit later, you has had less bad experiences. Because of that you are also more unprejudiced. If you assume that you have any weakness, think about how you could make it to your individual strength.

i never actually thought about it this way, thanks for bringing a positive light to my problem :)

 

[Selfmate]

do whatever makes you happy and comfortable...

communication is key my friend

and remember dating is merely dating it's not a ball and chain so to speak...a date is for the purpose of getting to know one another and seeing if there's chemistry/attraction etc etc

there's nothing wrong with dating multiple people at once as long as one isn't exclusive yet

 

[seungfloral]

do whatever makes you happy and comfortable...

communication is key my friend

and remember dating is merely dating it's not a ball and chain so to speak...a date is for the purpose of getting to know one another and seeing if there's chemistry/attraction etc etc

there's nothing wrong with dating multiple people at once as long as one isn't exclusive yet

True, i just didn't want to seem like a two timer... I heard online that some men get offended if a woman talks to more men than one at once...
Idk, see i have no experience. But i'll take it slow tbh

 

[Selfmate]

True, i just didn't want to seem like a two timer... I heard online that some men get offended if a woman talks to more men than one at once...
Idk, see i have no experience. But i'll take it slow tbh

whilst that might be true my friend, in which case as a dude dump their ass lol

because unless there was some sort of discussion about exclusivity then it's free reign and if certain people get offended by the notion that "dating is the period of getting to know a person without any form of restrictions" then that person is insecure about themselves and probably wouldn't make the best partner...

 

[seungfloral]

whilst that might be true my friend, in which case as a dude dump their ass lol

because unless there was some sort of discussion about exclusivity then it's free reign and if certain people get offended by the notion that "dating is the period of getting to know a person without any form of restrictions" then that person is insecure about themselves and probably wouldn't make the best partner...

Thank you for the advice, for sure we are only talking now. But yeah i will make a definite decision if it seems we don't click.

 

[Selfmate]

Thank you for the advice, for sure we are only talking now. But yeah i will make a definite decision if it seems we don't click.

good luck my friend and I hope everything works out for you