yeah exactly!!! and on the other end some of moonbyul's solos genuinely sound like bg music (eclipse sounds like a typical 2018-19 bg song, touchin' and movin' sounds like the kind of sound a male dance-line member would go for their solos, is this love is basically plot twist). songs are shopped around to different artists all the time - don't call me by shinee was originally meant for boa. granted she was the one who rejected it and instead recced shinee for it, and the song went through a few modifications but my point still stands - she's the one who's done songs like moto, rock with u, and more recently forgive me.
i get it, some people may prefer hearing female or male voices in their music, some may prefer the aesthetics and fashion of girl or boy groups (cause lbr that's a huge part of kpop, kpop is as much of a visual experience as it is an auditory one), heck some may prefer to stan groups of the gender they're attracted to or the gender they're not attracted to (can't relate, i'm bi without much of a preference for any one gender in particular). fair enough, preferences are fine imo. the problem imo lies in people basing their entire identity as a kpop stan around the label of a "bg stan" or a "gg stan". you're just closing yourself off that way imo.
lmao it's okay that you ranted about this, maybe this is the time for this topic hahaha, but you've said almost everything i wanted to, and much better than i ever could. 9 times out of 10 criticism from non-kpop fans is definitely warranted