Question to the cis people of kpopsource (1 Viewer)

[maruberry]

Explain your gender.
I don't mean this in a standoffish way, but a genuinely curious way

It's interesting to me how... well thought out non-cis people have their gender and what it represents and everything. If anything it's a joke how we find gender is the littlest of things that don't REALLY matter in the grand scheme of things. Or even in the smaller scheme of things.

So indulge my curiosity plz
What is your gender?
What makes you feel woman or man?

 

[doll]

im a female because i dont feel like a male... i dont feel non-binary... or anything.
i dont wish to have different private parts yk

 

[maruberry]

im a female because i dont feel like a male... i dont feel non-binary... or anything.
i dont wish to have different private parts yk

Y'know... Honestly feel that

BUT ALSO

This used to be me...
I thought I didn't feel dysphoria, wasn't unhappy about the way I am... and tbh I am not THAT unhappy even these days
BUT one day it hit me that the thoughts of "I would really love if I was more male/less female" weren't exactly cis thoughts lmao

 

[doll]

Y'know... Honestly feel that

BUT ALSO

This used to be me...
I thought I didn't feel dysphoria, wasn't unhappy about the way I am... and tbh I am not THAT unhappy even these days
BUT one day it hit me that the thoughts of "I would really love if I was more male/less female" weren't exactly cis thoughts lmao

yes

 

[GodKingTeshub]

I'm a male but i dont really think about my gender
I just do what i like w/o getting stuck on defining identities
But what im into falls into more or less heterosexual male on the kinsley scale with no interest in hanging out with other males or watching them
I have also dated a lot of transwomen, exclusively east asian

 

[Abeamus]

I'll be honest that I don't really think about my gender because I don't see things as being gender exclusive as society would drive you to believe at times. Like guys wearing makeup or doing any type of skincare is made a big deal about because it's seen as a girl thing but in entertainment guys are expected to do that since they have to look good.

I'm just me and I don't have a strong desire to change my gender and just do what I want to do like I've grown my hair long before and also cut it back to short again while one of my managers told me she doesn't have the guts to cut her hair short however to me it's not a big deal.

So in the most unhelpful way possible probably I don't think about gender and just live the way I want to.

 

[maruberry]

I'll be honest that I don't really think about my gender because I don't see things as being gender exclusive as society would drive you to believe at times. Like guys wearing makeup or doing any type of skincare is made a big deal about because it's seen as a girl thing but in entertainment guys are expected to do that since they have to look good.

I'm just me and I don't have a strong desire to change my gender and just do what I want to do like I've grown my hair long before and also cut it back to short again while one of my managers told me she doesn't have the guts to cut her hair short however to me it's not a big deal.

So in the most unhelpful way possible probably I don't think about gender and just live the way I want to.

Which y'know... makes sense
I'd assume for you then, your gender matches up with what you were born as / are perceived as. Just living is just how it... goes... because everything as far as gender goes is as how it should be.

It's interesting, because like you said you don't think about it, bcs it's just something.... that is.
And like I agree with things not being gender exclusive, since all things gender ARE a social construct... but somehow my brain has decided that these socially constructed values are what I am.... But society itself doesn't perceive me as those things.

I think that is exactly the difference... You are already naturally perceived as the gender that you are, so whether you are feeling "boy clothing" or "girl clothing" doesn't actually matter, bcs you are still perceived as your own gender. Meanwhile for me, while I agree that things like "boy" or "girl" clothing don't actually exist and are just a social construct, since I am on the daily perceived as the gender I am not... these arbitary social constructs start mattering, since they are a way for society to view me as the gender that I am.

sorry if that makes absolutely no sense
I'm just in an introspective mood

 

[Ahsoka]

For me I don’t feel particularly masculine or feminine. It’s not a helpful answer but like a lot of people I think it’s just that I don’t feel strongly male or female, but also don’t feel uncomfortable by being considered female. I don’t know I just kind of vibe with how I am for some unexplainable reason.

 

[maruberry]

I don’t know I just kind of vibe with how I am for some unexplainable reason.

Jealousy

 

[maruberry]

For me I don’t feel particularly masculine or feminine. It’s not a helpful answer but like a lot of people I think it’s just that I don’t feel strongly male or female, but also don’t feel uncomfortable by being considered female. I don’t know I just kind of vibe with how I am for some unexplainable reason.

But also this is a thing why it took me so long to figure out I'm not cis... I feel like.... me...
There is nothing in me that is WRONG y'know

I'm just me... I feel like me
the way I am has always been me, it's not new it doesn't stick out... I just... am?

It took analyzing how OTHER people perceive me vs how I myself perceive myself to figure out that I'm non-binary.
+ Dungeons and dragons made me realize that I really loved being perceived as male

 

[Nezumi]

I never really thought about it that deeply. I just don’t feel like a woman I guess? It always just seemed so normal for me to be a male, but now that you ask those questions, i’m like, I can’t even answer those properly lol. I just don’t vibe with anything that’s feminine

But even if it’s a different topic, I think this goes the same for people whose sexuality is straight.
I’m not straight, so when I started looking to guys and started catching feelings for them, I also started thinking deeply about those things. Cuz it was a sudden change in my life and not “normal” for me at the time being all confused.

 

[Bopper]

Honestly, I’ve never wanted to be anything else other than female. That’s not a bad thing, I love being female whilst still having my mum who encouraged me to like what I wanted growing up. Gaming and sport was very much male orientated, but I soon realised me liking them wasn’t the problem, everybody else was just being sexist/felt threatened by the fact I did.

 

[alo]

hmm, well. i'm female, and i've always been vaguely uncomfortable with being perceived as male. like, when i was a little kid, i had short hair, and i hated people mistaking me for a boy because of that. i have questioned whether i'm non-binary or not, but then i realised that i do like being perceived as female. it feels right.

 

[cocomelon]

ill just keep it short and say i just love being a bisexual guy,

 

[SnowWhite]

Am not sure, I'm an ultra girly girl but idk how it really happened. Idk if it was stereotypes or did it come naturally? I think I would have more opportunities to question myself and my desires if I lived in a less conservative society. Then again, I look back at my childhood as young as kindergarten and how my parents dressed me and what toys they chose me, and they weren't the "ultra girly" type. You know how you enter a little girl's room and could immediately tell a princess sleeps and plays here? Mine was far from that. As I grew up and gained more control over the stuff which I owned I tended more to choose frilly skirts, barbie dolls, barbie animations and Disney princesses over other cartoons, and the color pink on almost everything. When I became a teenager it was all about makeup and fashion, I got my parents to buy me a huge pink vanity. Maybe I even wanted to rebel against the way which my parents were trying to raise me? I ended up very different than them both. I don't know how it began in all honesty.

 

[Soogi]

i sometimes have those thoughts that "life would be easier if i was a man" but despite that i never actually want to be a man, and i think for me personally its just that simple.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

I'm a woman because I just am. I'm masculine in a lot of aspects in a stereotypical way. I have broad shoulders, hate skirts and dresses, and love the color green. Love video games, and horror movies. I got tits and a period and a vagina. I don't really know much more and I can get pregnant. So I'm a woman. I don't know lol.

EDIT: I want to clarify just because this is the way I view myself that makes me feel like a woman that does not at all invalidate trans men or women who also have vaginas or who have penises or can get pregnant. I'm just also saying I personally feel this is why I feel like a woman or a female.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

hmm, well. i'm female, and i've always been vaguely uncomfortable with being perceived as male. like, when i was a little kid, i had short hair, and i hated people mistaking me for a boy because of that. i have questioned whether i'm non-binary or not, but then i realised that i do like being perceived as female. it feels right.

Oh, that makes a lot of sense-this right here. I got called a drag queen and other things when I was little because I look more masculine or I did...now I got tig ol bitties.

 

[dark_tranquility]

I like wearing female clothes which my family hates.
I am male, but strong urges in transvestite territory.

 

[Lovely_Cornchips]

I like wearing female clothes which my family hates.
I am male, but strong urges in transvestite territory.

Do you mind if I ask about your sexual orientation? I'm bi and would love for my boyfriend to dress more femininely from time to time. (If this question makes you uncomfortable feel free to ignore it.)