Should i tell my crush I like him? (1 Viewer)

[frocho]

I really like this cute boy in my English and Science class but I don't know if I should tell him. In the past, I've been rejected about 20 times because I look ugly. I heard him say that he doesn't like anyone but I still want him to know. I'm 99.9% sure that I will get rejected but the relationship is going nowhere so if he rejects me, I will be sad and it will worsen my depression but I would be able to get over him faster. What should I do?

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

this is a rough situation. if he really likes no one then you already have your answer. on the more anxious side- if you confess he could end up sharing it which could also be embarrassing. but there are some pros to the situation like catharsis. i'd make my own list. but personally i wouldn't do it, but this is because i've bad experiences in school settings and thus do not trust anyone esp men LMAO

 

[frocho]

this is a rough situation. if he really likes no one then you already have your answer. on the more anxious side- if you confess he could end up sharing it which could also be embarrassing. but there are some pros to the situation like catharsis. i'd make my own list. but personally i wouldn't do it, but this is because i've bad experiences in school settings and thus do not trust anyone esp men LMAO

what does catharsis mean?

 

[chiefchilly1]

Ask at an appropriate time, some guys like girls confessing, you never really know until you do it.

 

[frocho]

Ask at an appropriate time, some guys like girls confessing, you never really know until you do it.

Ok. If I do choose to do it, should I give him the note myself?

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

what does catharsis mean?

the easiest way to explain it is emotional relief.

 

[chiefchilly1]

Ok. If I do choose to do it, should I give him the note myself?

I don’t really know I’m assuming you’re young so I guess so? You can always straight up say it

 

[frocho]

the easiest way to explain it is emotional relief.

Ah, ok. I just don't know if I should because I like really, really like him. He's super handsome, sweet, and has a good personality. Sadly, I'm the complete opposite of those things.

 

[frocho]

I don’t really know I’m assuming you’re young so I guess so? You can always straight up say it

Maybe. I only see him during Science class and English class so I'll probably give it to him during English class.

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

Ah, ok. I just don't know if I should because I like really, really like him. He's super handsome, sweet, and has a good personality. Sadly, I'm the complete opposite of those things.

are you sure you're the opposite of those things, or is that what society has led you to believe? almost everyone is lovable and deserving of love and i'm sure you're one of those people.

 

[frocho]

are you sure you're the opposite of those things, or is that what society has led you to believe? almost everyone is lovable and deserving of love and i'm sure you're one of those people.

I'm really not though. My parents have even said that I'm negative a lot but I think that's mostly because of my depression. My past friends also say that I'm pretty weird and toxic. I can't even count the amount of boys that have called me ugly since kindergarden.

 

[chiefchilly1]

Maybe. I only see him during Science class and English class so I'll probably give it to him during English class.

You’ll be fine, just remember whatever happens don’t blame yourself or the other person. Take the chance before eventually you don’t see him again

 

[frocho]

You’ll be fine, just remember whatever happens don’t blame yourself or the other person. Take the chance before eventually you don’t see him again

Ok, thanks for the advice!

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

I'm really not though. My parents have even said that I'm negative a lot but I think that's mostly because of my depression. My past friends also say that I'm pretty weird and toxic. I can't even count the amount of boys that have called me ugly since kindergarden.

it's really hard to break a part of a pattern of thinking instilled in us by parents, and i hope you grow to realize you're more than the "negativity" your parents claim you have, regardless of your depression. i can't speak to the being toxic, but there's nothing wrong with being weird as long as it doesn't hurt others.

and those boys calling you that is so cruel, that's absolutely not okay and just because they say it doesn't make it true.

 

[frocho]

it's really hard to break a part of a pattern of thinking instilled in us by parents, and i hope you grow to realize you're more than the "negativity" your parents claim you have, regardless of your depression. i can't speak to the being toxic, but there's nothing wrong with being weird as long as it doesn't hurt others.

and those boys calling you that is so cruel, that's absolutely not okay and just because they say it doesn't make it true.

I guess but I'm almost 99.9% sure that I am. It's fine though, I'll just be a cat lady when I'm older. I don't need any man although I do wish that I would have one.

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

I guess but I'm almost 99.9% sure that I am. It's fine though, I'll just be a cat lady when I'm older. I don't need any man although I do wish that I would have one.

confess if you feel like it'll bring you the most peace. better than looking back and regretting you didn't.

 

[frocho]

confess if you feel like it'll bring you the most peace. better than looking back and regretting you didn't.

Ok, I think that's what I'm going to do.

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

Ok, I think that's what I'm going to do.

best of luck. if you ever need anyone to vent to, i'm here.

 

[frocho]

best of luck. if you ever need anyone to vent to, i'm here.

I'm probably going to DM you very depressed on Monday if you don't mind since that is when I will see him again and he will most likely reject me so I'll probably be more depressed than normal. It'll eventually go away though. My depression will still be there sadly but I will at least be able to get over him.

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

I'm probably going to DM you very depressed on Monday if you don't mind since that is when I will see him again and he will most likely reject me so I'll probably be more depressed than normal. It'll eventually go away though. My depression will still be there sadly but I will at least be able to get over him.

i'm so sorry. and my dms are open anytime.