so much for negotiating username changes - I'm now using this thread to call out people who fail to inform selfie about their username changes (4 Viewers)

Selfmate · 24 August 2026

Yelena_Belova said:
I just finished watching the entire show, and you're right, it's really good. I liked it way more than I expected to. Kate is really funny, and I like how nice she is. I hope we get to see more of her, especially with Yelena. I think I still prefer Yelena more overall as a character and find her slightly funnier, but it's close, and their dynamic is awesome. My ranking between the three is:

Hawkeye = Thunderbolts* >>>>>>>>>>> Brand New Day

I enjoyed both Hawkeye and Thunderbolts* about equally, but for different reasons. I wasn't a fan of Brand New Day at all, but I can see why other people liked it, and it wasn't bad, just not for me.

hawkeye is on par with thiunderbolts?????
hmmmm...I didn't mind thunderbolts but to say it was on par with hawkeye is certainly a statement...
I didn't think it was as bad as other people claimed it to be

BND fits nicely between those two for but I'm really glad you enjoyed hawkeye since it showed us kate bishop and her relationship with Yelena is great

Yelena_Belova · 24 August 2026

Selfmate said:
hawkeye is on par with thiunderbolts?????
hmmmm...I didn't mind thunderbolts but to say it was on par with hawkeye is certainly a statement...
I didn't think it was as bad as other people claimed it to be

BND fits nicely between those two for but I'm really glad you enjoyed hawkeye since it showed us kate bishop and her relationship with Yelena is great

It is, and I agree with that, but I also have a bit of a personal connection to Thunderbolts*, so that's why I'm so biased. Funny story, I wasn't planning on watching it initially as I had never even heard of Yelena or most of the other Thunderbolts* before it came out, and the trailers didn't win me over back then. But, I was bored and had unlimited free movie tickets back then, and it didn't seem like a bad thing to watch, and I guess I didn't feel like watching something else.

So, I went into it and watched it and loved it a lot. Loved it so much I watched it four more times in theatres (only because of my unlimited free tickets, if I had to actually pay for the tickets, I probably would have only watched it in theatres once, twice at the most). Why I loved it so much is that I related a lot to Yelena, despite our very different fields of work and backgrounds. The movie came out in early May, and since January of the same year, I had been feeling the same way she felt throughout the beginning of the movie: empty inside, like a void, not feeling satisfied or happy (but not exactly the same, as at least I felt I had direction in my life and knew for sure what I wanted to do years in the future). Plus, we both tried throwing ourselves into our work, hoping it would help, but it didn't.

From last January until last April, I didn't think much of what I was going through. It did suck, but I couldn't think of why I would be feeling that way. My life hadn't gotten substantially worse than it was. I chalked it up to just getting older though. I did hear people say that most people sort of mellow out as they mature, so I assumed that is what was happening and it wasn't a big deal or a cause for concern, despite how much it was affecting me. Things that used to make me happy wouldn't make me as happy as they once did, I got less excited and happy for things, that sort of stuff. It was also a bit harder to pinpoint as the changes happened gradually, not overnight. Last January was the first time I consciously noticed the shift happening though.

So, when I watched Thunderbolts*, I related to Yelena and she hit a bit close to home for me, but in a good way. For the first couple of days after I watched Thunderbolts*, I assumed it was because of how nice she is to Bob, how funny I found her, that I find her cute, ect. After I reflected on the movie a bit more, I realized how much I related to her on a deeper level. Even though I didn't think much of the signs in myself, it was obvious to me that they were trying to show Yelena was depressed, even if they didn't openly say the word. Then I made the connection: "If I relate to how Yelena is feeling, and she seems a bit depressed, am I depressed too?" An important clarification: while I did make the connection, I never tried to diagnose myself or claim to anyone else that I was/might be depressed.

A while later, went to therapy, did some tests administered by those therapists, and found out that I am depressed after all (along with anxiety, but I had known about my anxiety for years, so that wasn't surprising to me). I have an extremely mild/small form of depression, especially when compared to people that have it much more severely than me, but it's enough for tesrs to say I have it to some degree. I am feeling better, but I'm far from out of the woods yet, so to speak.

One of the reasons why Thunderbolts* means so much to me is that it helped me recognize something that was wrong with me long before I would have on my own. If I hadn't seen it, I might still to this day think that nothing was wrong and everything was all normal; that I was just "growing up" and everyone was like that. I used to think I would never be the type to get depression because I used to be so full of life and passion. I still am on good days, but it's much less frequent. It's also hard for me to tell where the line is between "depression" and "maturing" when it comes to myself, but I think it's a combination of both in my situation.

Also, I know there are a ton of movies that deal with mental health, and probably a lot of them that even do it better. However, in my situation, it ended up being a case of the right movie, with the right characters, at the right moment in my life. This probably ended up being overly long, but I figured I should explain why I like Thunderbolts* so much. Not in an attempt to defend my answer, but to clarify it and hopefully it makes more sense.

If not for my connection to Thunderbolts*, then I think I might prefer Hawkeye over it, but Brand New Day would still easily be in third place for me.

Selfmate · 24 August 2026

Yelena_Belova said:
It is, and I agree with that, but I also have a bit of a personal connection to Thunderbolts*, so that's why I'm so biased. Funny story, I wasn't planning on watching it initially as I had never even heard of Yelena or most of the other Thunderbolts* before it came out, and the trailers didn't win me over back then. But, I was bored and had unlimited free movie tickets back then, and it didn't seem like a bad thing to watch, and I guess I didn't feel like watching something else.

So, I went into it and watched it and loved it a lot. Loved it so much I watched it four more times in theatres (only because of my unlimited free tickets, if I had to actually pay for the tickets, I probably would have only watched it in theatres once, twice at the most). Why I loved it so much is that I related a lot to Yelena, despite our very different fields of work and backgrounds. The movie came out in early May, and since January of the same year, I had been feeling the same way she felt throughout the beginning of the movie: empty inside, like a void, not feeling satisfied or happy (but not exactly the same, as at least I felt I had direction in my life and knew for sure what I wanted to do years in the future). Plus, we both tried throwing ourselves into our work, hoping it would help, but it didn't.

From last January until last April, I didn't think much of what I was going through. It did suck, but I couldn't think of why I would be feeling that way. My life hadn't gotten substantially worse than it was. I chalked it up to just getting older though. I did hear people say that most people sort of mellow out as they mature, so I assumed that is what was happening and it wasn't a big deal or a cause for concern, despite how much it was affecting me. Things that used to make me happy wouldn't make me as happy as they once did, I got less excited and happy for things, that sort of stuff. It was also a bit harder to pinpoint as the changes happened gradually, not overnight. Last January was the first time I consciously noticed the shift happening though.

So, when I watched Thunderbolts*, I related to Yelena and she hit a bit close to home for me, but in a good way. For the first couple of days after I watched Thunderbolts*, I assumed it was because of how nice she is to Bob, how funny I found her, that I find her cute, ect. After I reflected on the movie a bit more, I realized how much I related to her on a deeper level. Even though I didn't think much of the signs in myself, it was obvious to me that they were trying to show Yelena was depressed, even if they didn't openly say the word. Then I made the connection: "If I relate to how Yelena is feeling, and she seems a bit depressed, am I depressed too?" An important clarification: while I did make the connection, I never tried to diagnose myself or claim to anyone else that I was/might be depressed.

A while later, went to therapy, did some tests administered by those therapists, and found out that I am depressed after all (along with anxiety, but I had known about my anxiety for years, so that wasn't surprising to me). I have an extremely mild/small form of depression, especially when compared to people that have it much more severely than me, but it's enough for tesrs to say I have it to some degree. I am feeling better, but I'm far from out of the woods yet, so to speak.

One of the reasons why Thunderbolts* means so much to me is that it helped me recognize something that was wrong with me long before I would have on my own. If I hadn't seen it, I might still to this day think that nothing was wrong and everything was all normal; that I was just "growing up" and everyone was like that. I used to think I would never be the type to get depression because I used to be so full of life and passion. I still am on good days, but it's much less frequent. It's also hard for me to tell where the line is between "depression" and "maturing" when it comes to myself, but I think it's a combination of both in my situation.

Also, I know there are a ton of movies that deal with mental health, and probably a lot of them that even do it better. However, in my situation, it ended up being a case of the right movie, with the right characters, at the right moment in my life. This probably ended up being overly long, but I figured I should explain why I like Thunderbolts* so much. Not in an attempt to defend my answer, but to clarify it and hopefully it makes more sense.

If not for my connection to Thunderbolts*, then I think I might prefer Hawkeye over it, but Brand New Day would still easily be in third place for me.

interesting my friend
thanks for sharing that

btw you have seen black widow right? the movie where they introduced yelena?

there's no need to defend one's answer since I was just going to make fun of you (in jest) for thinking Thunderbolts > BND and Hawkeye but obviously your personal connection to Yelena is notable and thus I can understand why you prefer her so

Yelena_Belova · 24 August 2026

Selfmate said:
interesting my friend
thanks for sharing that

btw you have seen black widow right? the movie where they introduced yelena?

there's no need to defend one's answer since I was just going to make fun of you (in jest) for thinking Thunderbolts > BND and Hawkeye but obviously your personal connection to Yelena is notable and thus I can understand why you prefer her so

Not yet, but now I might need to if it's good. I kept on hearing mixed at best reviews from it, so it's another one where I watched the funny clips of Yelena in it off of YouTube, but not the full movie.

Selfmate · 25 August 2026

Yelena_Belova said:
Not yet, but now I might need to if it's good. I kept on hearing mixed at best reviews from it, so it's another one where I watched the funny clips of Yelena in it off of YouTube, but not the full movie.

thunderbolts also had mixed reviews when it released so take reviews with a grain of salt

Selfmate · 25 August 2026

@centen

it would seem that our friend @Snailmin @SnailsAtSchool discovered an interesting loophole - that correct technically she hasn't changed her username per se but rather is using an alternative account (for school purposes which is understandable)

so I do really like loopholes but I also do not like username changes and technically since Ms Snail has not changed her username per se there is no crime in this instance but we will keep an extra eye on her moving forward

centen · 25 August 2026

Selfmate said:
@centen

it would seem that our friend @Snailmin @SnailsAtSchool discovered an interesting loophole - that correct technically she hasn't changed her username per se but rather is using an alternative account (for school purposes which is understandable)

so I do really like loopholes but I also do not like username changes and technically since Ms Snail has not changed her username per se there is no crime in this instance but we will keep an extra eye on her moving forward

That seems like a gracious and forgiving approach that I'm sure our friend Snail will appreciate.

Selfmate · 25 August 2026

centen said:
That seems like a gracious and forgiving approach that I'm sure our friend Snail will appreciate.

yes everyone knows I'm Lord Selfmate the MERCIFUL however in this instance the rules be the rules and as such no rules have been broken and I'm merely the Username Tsar not a tyrant

Yelena_Belova · 25 August 2026

Selfmate said:
thunderbolts also had mixed reviews when it released so take reviews with a grain of salt

That is a fair point.

Snailmin · 25 August 2026

Selfmate said:
but we will keep an extra eye on her moving forward

This is inappropriate to say to a teenage girl when you’re probably 40/50+ it’s not okay. You haven’t made this forum, you’re just a part of it, and that’s why you can’t “keep an eye on her” and tell people to tell when they change their username. Don’t keep an eye on me please, it’s inappropriate behavior.
But I appreciate your apology about the username confusion.

Selfmate · 25 August 2026

Snailmin said:
This is inappropriate to say to a teenage girl when you’re probably 40/50+ it’s not okay. You haven’t made this forum, you’re just a part of it, and that’s why you can’t “keep an eye on her” and tell people to tell when they change their username. Don’t keep an eye on me please, it’s inappropriate behavior.
But I appreciate your apology about the username confusion.

with all due respect my friend keeping an eye on someone has no inappropriate connotations - I've never been accused of anything inappropriate or untoward.

this entire thread is a running joke that most of the forum has partaken in and obviously you seem to have an issue with it so noted - I'll keep all future interactions with you at a minimum