Sensitive the pain... (1 Viewer)

[frocho]

(This happened on Friday but I just wanted to post about it to make sure that I'm not wrong to feel this way)
We were having a valentines dance at school and my friend (she's moving away soon) got asked to go to the dance with her crush and she said yes so she was dancing with him. I don't have any interest in her crush but I can't help but feel jealous. There were a couple of dances before that one but I just always stand in the corner and I watch people happily dancing with their partners and I keep thinking "Why can't I have that?". I've tried asking some people but I always get rejected. I know it's wrong to feel jealous but my friend is always the popular one and I'm the one that no one likes. Even her friends don't like hanging out with me because I'm "too weird" they say. I'm sorry for posting negative things about my life all the time but this is really the only place I can talk about it. Is it wrong that I feel jealous?

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

it's not wrong that you feel jealous. in fact i felt this way for many of my highschool years and even towards my sister who had found love before me. i promise you're going to find someone. really really good things, real things, take time. and it's hard to live through, especially alone but it's the truth. i believe in you.

 

[frocho]

it's not wrong that you feel jealous. in fact i felt this way for many of my highschool years and even towards my sister who had found love before me. i promise you're going to find someone. really really good things, real things, take time. and it's hard to live through, especially alone but it's the truth. i believe in you.

i'm just curious, did you find someone if you don't mind me asking?

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

i'm just curious, did you find someone if you don't mind me asking?

i did. and it took one of my boyfriends passing away, internet creeps/groomers, and liars on dating apps to finally find someone i've been really loving since december.

i promise it'll happen for you

 

[Jewel]

I honestly get what you are going through. I've only ever had 2 serious relationships one being long distance. It didn't end well as we both parted ways but for the better. I spent A LOT of times on dating apps looking for people who'd take any interest in me. Met a few that ended up in me being ghosted or things similar. I finally found my current best friend on one of those apps. Of course, I wanted more than to just be friends, but he and I get each other so I'm happy as long as he's in my life. Almost two whole years together this March. He means the world to me and I count it as a win in love and in life general. Because I'm happy with him and I love him. I'm pretty sure I'm special to him aswell considering many things. Anyways, the point is it can take a LONG time to get that person that makes you happy and feel whole.

 

[Selfmate]

it's fine to feel jealous but remember you're still in high school - you'll mostly go through tonnes of relationships before finding the right someone...
as long as you don't do anything about that jealousy then it's fine

reminds me of this quote

"finding someone you love (or like) is not hard, finding someone who loves (or likes) you is the hardest"