Sensitive [TW: mention of sexual harassment] Thinking about when I was watching a music awards show and... (1 Viewer)

[RockyGoose]

Well... me and my family were watching my country's music awards show.
And then at one point, a female singer was performing, and she was wearing this outfit (there was also a keyboardist, who was wearing a see-through dress or something and wearing a bra underneath)

My mom then said something like "Women dress like that and then complain about sexual harassment" (or the word, she used was "sexchikane")

When my mother said that, it left a bad taste in my mouth, but I didn't tell her anything.


And unfortunately, she has said similar things before.


I feel like she is probably also going to say stuff like that, if we watch Eurovision together. (or at least, "she is wearing too revealing clothes")
I can't remember if she said stuff like that about Sissal's outfit too.


Well... I'm the kind of person, who dresses kinda modestly, but I don't go around shaming women for wearing revealing clothes.

 

[princesita]

I always find it sad when other women say that kind of thing. Women and girls of all ages get sexually harassed. It's never about what she's wearing, it's about the actions of the person doing the harassment.

 

[seungfloral]

Our moms and grandmas were raised like that. Feminism and sexual liberation is fairly new in many parts of the world. I'm sure it started as a way for the moms to protect their daughters, but some ppl still use it as a way to shame others into the same submission we were taught. "Be meek, modest and you'll get your prize".
Well here i am at 29, overweight, without a boyfriend but still get catcalled, molested and made jokes on my expense. I never dress in revealing outfits , EVER, still the way some of my coworkers talk about me seems AS IF i'm asking for it.
You can talk to her and explain ur take on it. Maybe she could understand it.

 

[Abeamus]

This argument hinges on the situation being that only people who dress in revealing clothes get assaulted but reality is that even children wearing normal kids clothes get assaulted so the argument instantly falls apart there.

 

[SnowWhite]

Less parents are actually opposite to what you described , most share the same thought. I remember following a feminism page which mostly educated teens and adviced not to bother much with parents because at that age the mindset probably wont change .