"You have no life" (1 Viewer)

[kodoku]

Even though I don't recall someone saying these exact words me, I know a lot of people think this about me (my ex even told me I'm like a zombie because of this). But isn't this so ignorant and stupid? Why is the only aspect of life that matters having a social life? Because you need to prove that you're cool and have many (often fake) friends and go out a lot and bla bla? Sure, isolation is not good but why is spending time with yourself and reflecting on your life so bad and considered a waste of time? What about having a vivid inner life? Aren't mindfulness and emotion really important? If you don't know yourself at all, what meaning is there to your existence? idk just wanted to share these thoughts lol 😅

 

[honeyfornomoney]

Even though I don't recall someone saying these exact words me, I know a lot of people think this about me

mood lmao

 

[Ringwanderung]

i’m an indoors person, most of the time too lazy to go out (used to do swimming & aikido), but as long as you’re healthy and in control of your life i think you’re fine!

 

[colorfulteardrop]

The problem is the society and the way of thinking of the masses. "You need to have a social life", "You need to have a partner and a baby". Even small things like "You don't go alone to the cinema" or "You don't travel by yourself."

The community still are thinking this things. You have no life if you don't have friends or prefer to be alone. This status quo is still in the heads of mankind. Personally I find it annoying. I want to do the things that are good for me and not because it is approved by society. I love to stay home and just have time for myself. Sometimes it really tires me out to chat with my friends or family bc I need time for myself. I also love to meet them, but not everyday.

Never let other people tell you what it is good for you and what not. When others think that you don't have a decent life, then they clearly don't understand you

 

[kodoku]

i’m an indoors person, most of the time too lazy to go out (used to do swimming & aikido), but as long as you’re healthy and in control of your life i think you’re fine!

I'm as healthy as I manage to be and I still have people important to me that I meet, but I just don't need to post everything online and go out and get drunk every weekend, you know? It's just frustrating sometimes hehe and yes I function okay - I have a job and place and take care of myself and get things done :)

The problem is the society and the way of thinking of the masses. "You need to have a social life", "You need to have a partner and a baby". Even small things like "You don't go alone to the cinema" or "You don't travel by yourself."

The community still are thinking this things. You have no life if you don't have friends or prefer to be alone. This status quo is still in the heads of mankind. Personally I find it annoying. I want to do the things that are good for me and not because it is approved by society. I love to stay home and just have time for myself. Sometimes it really tires me out to chat with my friends or family bc I need time for myself. I also love to meet them, but not everyday.

Never let other people tell you what it is good for you and what not. When others think that you don't have a decent life, then they clearly don't understand you

exactly...... thanks for understanding <3

 

[colorfulteardrop]

I'm as healthy as I manage to be and I still have people important to me that I meet, but I just don't need to post everything online and go out and get drunk every weekend, you know? It's just frustrating sometimes hehe and yes I function okay - I have a job and place and take care of myself and get things done :)



exactly...... thanks for understanding <3

No problem! I really understand you. As @Darjeeling said: As long as you're healty it's totally okay!

 

[Deleted member 74]

I've been told that more times than I can count but I don't really mind, I find it tiring to be around too many people and part of what is considered a socially acceptable life here is to have many friends/party/drink/talk a lot, mainly small talk and gossip
Which isn't me at all, my head is too in the clouds and I'll take a good book over all that any day

 

[ripiasuju]

You have no life kodoku.

There now you can say someone said those exact words to you!

 

[kodoku]

You have no life kodoku.

There now you can say someone said those exact words to you!

why are you so mean to me!!!!!!!!!!

 

[ripiasuju]

why are you so mean to me!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sorryyyy you're too cute when madd.

and anyway as for the thread. I personally think people who rely partying and gatherings to feel complete have no life, so we all have different views on what we view as losers or people with no life, I wouldnt say someone who is by themselves majority of the time is a loser, however as you say isolation isnt good, its dangerous in fact, so I don't encourage it, but going out with friends all the time doesnt mean you have a life at all. we just need a good balance of association and independence.

Personally I dont like to hangout with people however I do love playing sports with people, if I'm invited for a rugby game or a basketball game I'm always keen lol but if its to a party no thanks. I also 'have no life' I suppose.

 

[kodoku]

I'm sorryyyy you're too cute when madd.

and anyway as for the thread. I personally think people who rely partying and gatherings to feel complete have no life, so we all have different views on what we view as losers or people with no life, I wouldnt say someone who is by themselves majority of the time is a loser, however as you say isolation isnt good, its dangerous in fact, so I don't encourage it, but going out with friends all the time doesnt mean you have a life at all. we just need a good balance of association and independence.

Personally I dont like to hangout with people however I do love playing sports with people, if I'm invited for a rugby game or a basketball game I'm always keen lol but if its to a party no thanks. I also 'have no life' I suppose.

Whhhha.. I'm kinda confused now!! How shameless! I can't even be mad now >_<

and yes exactly, isolation is ofc bad but I'm not isolated and like I said, I have people I met with in different ways than going out to drink or hook up, so people are annoying when they look down on me just because I'm not out all the time like them and actually spend time working on myself or at least trying to... and I like to have meaningful convos or joke around with people I know well and am comfortable with rather than just anyone

 

[ripiasuju]

Whhhha.. I'm kinda confused now!! How shameless! I can't even be mad now >_<

and yes exactly, isolation is ofc bad but I'm not isolated and like I said, I have people I met with in different ways than going out to drink or hook up, so people are annoying when they look down on me just because I'm not out all the time like them and actually spend time working on myself or at least trying to... and I like to have meaningful convos or joke around with people I know well and am comfortable with rather than just anyone

Lol I bet one day I'll truly annoy you, I want to see it anyway.

and thats good as long as you arent alone too much, you're no loser, also you have to spend time to perfect your talents, you know that thing THEY dont have. oops.

 

[kodoku]

Lol I bet one day I'll truly annoy you, I want to see it anyway.

and thats good as long as you arent alone too much, you're no loser, also you have to spend time to perfect your talents, you know that thing THEY dont have. oops.

HMPH

the truth has been spoken 😌

 

[Abeamus]

People who say this likely have an subconscious fear of missing out, not wanting to just stay at home because they are thinking about all the stuff they'd be missing even though they're missing out on stuff anyway by going out all the time, stuff that might lead to important character growth.

As for what I think about parties and stuff, my thought has always been that if you need to drink to have a good time then it says a lot more about you than people not going to parties says about them.

 

[jasque]

We only need experiences that will be useful.
Being alone is not the worst.

It can be quite productive.