This is the same with like self-deprecating humor and like "arrogant humor" or wtv (idk what it's called but you know like when someone compliments you and you're just like I know, and smirk to be cheeky, or like someone acting like they're the smartest, prettiest, etc.)
Like self-deprecating humor is funny when it's a joke and not like they actually feel horrible about that about themselves, or it's funny when they legitimately messed up or whatever but can laugh at themselves and grow/move on and so joke about it, and like that "arrogant humor" or whatever isn't funny if they're actually arrogant or narcissistic and look down on others
Cuz I like to use both at times but it's only funny when it's a joke
Like there can be good jokes like that
Same with the dramatic, I don't like to whine, but sometimes for fun ya know