Would you date someone who smokes? (1 Viewer)

[Ahsoka]

I should be more precise: I don't believe that the nicotine addiction is strong enough to avoid going cold turkey. On the contrary, if you believe there is a nicotine addiction at all, you will even amplify the feeling of being dependent on cigarettes. If you can't stop smoking permanently, you'll always have an excuse: "It didn't work because of my biochemistry!". Nicotine is addictive, but that effect is neglibible compared to the psychological effects of smoking.

Myth 4: Physical addiction to nicotine makes it hard to stop

What is responsible for the difficulty is the mental addiction which causes us to feel that we’re making a sacrifice,

allencarr.com.au

To be honest, I never thought about the physical addiction of nicotine after I read Allen's book. You might say that I ignored scientific facts. But it worked for me that way: after I stopped smoking, I had no withdrawals.

I don’t know the levels to which the physical vs mental difficulties are, I can’t really say much about that. I just didn’t believe that there wasn’t physical parts, which I thought is what you meant but now I see isn’t the case. It’s probably different for different people, but I don’t know how much it would be for the average heavy smoker or something.

 

[Pirioca]

I don’t know the levels to which the physical vs mental difficulties are, I can’t really say much about that. I just didn’t believe that there wasn’t physical parts, which I thought is what you meant but now I see isn’t the case. It’s probably different for different people, but I don’t know how much it would be for the average heavy smoker or something.

It depends on the individual situation for sure. Everyone's different and while the Carr technique does the trick for some, others might have more success with hypnosis or even nicotine patches. A light smoker will probably have less problems with the physical part of the nicotine, but there is still the mental part to master.

I highly appreciate your critical approach. Too many people believe everything they read somewhere without questioning. You reminded me to formulate more clearly in the future.

 

[MK3AM]

no if they plan on quitting then maybe honestly idk if I could be close to that person...

 

[lily]

No I hate the smell of smoke

 

[Deleted member 4423]

I couldn't do it. Cigarette/vape smoke is gross to me and I can't stand the smell. I definitely wouldn't want to kiss anyone who smokes or vapes so it would be a definite turn off for me if the person I was interested in was a smoker/vaper.

 

[x_x]

i have weak lungs so no

 

[seungfloral]

Thank you, but it's not that hard to quit if the method works for you. IMO the most important first step is to realize that there's no physical nicotine addiction. Every night when a smoker goes to sleep, he or she stops smoking for up to 8 or even more hours without withdrawals. If he/she tries that during the day - it will not work without willpower. Smoking is pure brainwashing and psychological dependancy.

I quit smoking thanks to Allen Carr. I didn't visit his seminar, I just read his book. It worked at the first attempt and I never looked back. 'Unkle Adams' talks about the book in the video below and also gives the advice to replace that addiction with another. Many people do this unwittingly, but they do it wrong: They stop smoking and start eating more instead.



Here's the audiobook:

Thats some good help, thank u for posting

 

[seungfloral]

Yeah, and went out with him during his smoke breaks which happened to be in the middle of cuddling

Ohhhhhhh that sucks

Not at all

I see

Big no, it’s just really gross to me

For me tok

I’d rather not if it was cigarettes. Vaping I don’t know.

I heard vaping is real bad too

Nope.

As everyone else i see xD

I don't think I could date someone who smokes cigarette. I'm fine with weed tho.

XD does it smell good?

No thanks.

Same

actually i don't mind to have friends who's smoking, but dating them? nah, thanks.

Yeah kissing them is ....

I do hate smoking, but I have date guys that smoked. They weren't like heavy smoker, but they sometime smoke.

Ahhh but they smoked outside right?

Smoking/vaping is an instant no for me.

Same

ew, no! I once rode with a smoking cab driver, and the whole vehicle smelled like rotten fish or something. I almost suffocated. (it wasn't an Uber, this was way before that)

XDDD my teacher was the same, when i rode his xar everything smelled like burnt smth

no if they plan on quitting then maybe honestly idk if I could be close to that person...

Yeah :/ sorry about that

No I hate the smell of smoke

Ohhh yeah , that lingers in the clothes

I couldn't do it. Cigarette/vape smoke is gross to me and I can't stand the smell. I definitely wouldn't want to kiss anyone who smokes or vapes so it would be a definite turn off for me if the person I was interested in was a smoker/vaper.

Yeah seems like most of us think that way

i have weak lungs so no

Oh no im so sorry


Man i didnt think this would be a 3 page thread xD

 

[dark_tranquility]

Not really. It depends on when and how they do it.

A heavy smoker no
mild good.

 

[Ahsoka]

Ohhhhhhh that sucks

I see

For me tok

I heard vaping is real bad too

As everyone else i see xD

XD does it smell good?

Same

Yeah kissing them is ....

Ahhh but they smoked outside right?

Same

XDDD my teacher was the same, when i rode his xar everything smelled like burnt smth

Yeah :/ sorry about that

Ohhh yeah , that lingers in the clothes

Yeah seems like most of us think that way

Oh no im so sorry


Man i didnt think this would be a 3 page thread xD

Vaping is bad for you sure but I don’t know if the smell from vaping is as bad as the smell from smoking and that’s really the only reason I would say no to smokers.

 

[Pirioca]

Vaping is bad for you sure but I don’t know if the smell from vaping is as bad as the smell from smoking and that’s really the only reason I would say no to smokers.

I have no interest in Vaping and I don't know anyone who vapes. I read somewhere that there are no long-term scientific studies about Vaping so far. But there are medics that assume it could be even more harmful than smoking.

 

[Ahsoka]

I have no interest in Vaping and I don't know anyone who vapes. I read somewhere that there are no long-term scientific studies about Vaping so far. But there are medics that assume it could be even more harmful than smoking.

Yeah, but to me I care about someone smoking because it would make it hard for me to be around them, because I hate the smoke smell so much. The health problems also don’t help, but so many things are bad for you and it’s not like I’d say no to someone with an unbalanced diet or who never exercises or whatever. It’s their choice after all.

 

[Pirioca]

Yeah, but to me I care about someone smoking because it would make it hard for me to be around them, because I hate the smoke smell so much. The health problems also don’t help, but so many things are bad for you and it’s not like I’d say no to someone with an unbalanced diet or who never exercises or whatever. It’s their choice after all.

It would be difficult for me to be with a girlfriend that smokes and destroys herself slowly. Imagine that you would be the person sitting on her deathbed - she dies because of lung cancer and you know that this probably wouldn't have happened if she'd never start smoking. Truly horrible!

 

[ichigohon]

Yeah, I used to say no, but having lived in the UK and Japan where smoking is quite common, I don't care anymore. I have a preference for people who don't smoke, but if you do it doesn't bother me as long as your let me bum a cigarette off you once or twice a year when I'm drunk and decide I want to smoke one.

Everyone has a vice and you've just got to let people have it. I drink an absurdly high amount of diet soda daily, but I don't smoke more than 5 cigarettes annually or drink heavily. As long as you smoke outside, don't litter, or smoke in the car I don't have a problem.

 

[Ahsoka]

It would be difficult for me to be with a girlfriend that smokes and destroys herself slowly. Imagine that you would be the person sitting on her deathbed - she dies because of lung cancer and you know that this probably wouldn't have happened if she'd never start smoking. Truly horrible!

It's obviously not a great situation, and one I wouldn't want to go through, but if I limited myself to people who exclusively lived fully healthy lifestyles I think I'd be left with not a whole lot of options of people to date. Some factors are bigger than others, but some are more socially acceptable I feel which is what really makes the difference with others, not just purely the harm they can do.

 

[athenaaa]

Ohhhhhhh that sucks

But yeah after that I’ve had a preference towards people who don’t smoke. I can’t stand the smell anymore, I became noseblind to it for a while as our old house smelled like smoke 24/7. Clean air really does make a difference and it makes me wonder the affects I would have from second hand smoke exposure

 

[eclipsoul]

no, it's gross

 

[kiki]

i honestly dont mind

very heavy smokers are a no but like 1 a day is fine

 

[Pirioca]

It's obviously not a great situation, and one I wouldn't want to go through, but if I limited myself to people who exclusively lived fully healthy lifestyles I think I'd be left with not a whole lot of options of people to date. Some factors are bigger than others, but some are more socially acceptable I feel which is what really makes the difference with others, not just purely the harm they can do.

Although I'd like to have a sporty girlfriend, it's no requirement for me. I just don't want to be with a woman who obviously ruins her health by smoking, drinking too much, or taking drugs. I wouldn't care if my girlfriend eats vegan food, but I wouldn't adjust my diet for her. I don't eat carbohydrates/refined sugar, pork, beef, anything with animal milk. And of course I eat vegetables and fruits, but I eat fish and poultry too.

Yeah, I used to say no, but having lived in the UK and Japan where smoking is quite common, I don't care anymore.

Interesting. I always thought Japanese people would live healthier than Western people, because there are lower cancer rates in Japan (AFAIK one of the lowest rates worldwide?). Another myth busted?

 

[Ahsoka]

Although I'd like to have a sporty girlfriend, it's no requirement for me. I just don't want to be with a woman who obviously ruins her health by smoking, drinking too much, and taking drugs. I wouldn't care if my girlfriend eats vegan food, but I wouldn't adjust my diet for her. I don't eat carbohydrates/refined sugar, pork, beef, anything with animal milk. And of course I eat vegetables and fruits, but I eat fish and poultry too.



Interesting. I always thought Japanese people would live healthier than Western people, because there are rather low cancer rates in Japan. Another myth busted?

Yeah realistically someone who eats perfectly healthy even might not be a good match to me because I don't cook exclusively the most ideal food possible (though I also don't cook a lot of food that's beyond unhealthy, it usually doesn't taste good anyways if so. More just that I don't cook with produce as much as it probably best). Smoking just happens to be something that isn't just bad for them, but bad for me and plain ruins my experience with them because of my hared of the smell.