18+ I'm sick of having to deal with this each day (1 Viewer)

[Harmony_Starz]

Oh hun im so sorry i think you should talk with an adult about this and to make sure that you both arent in a room together alone...

All my other family members dont live with me :') my aunt and her family live in US, my other uncle lives in a whole other city and my grandma is bedridden and stays elsewhere as well, she cant do anything, my brother is an adult and stays at his college

 

[MK3AM]

All my other family members dont live with me :') my aunt and her family live in US, my other uncle lives in a whole other city and my grandma is bedridden and stays elsewhere as well, she cant do anything, my brother is an adult and stays at his college

i think the best next thing to do is to report him and gather evidence

 

[Harmony_Starz]

i think the best next thing to do is to report him and gather evidence

I might do the evidence part but prolly wont be telling anyone till later on

 

[Harmony_Starz]

But then the situation will probably not change. Don't think about the things that could be. Ask and see what happens. After your brother graduated college and got a job, he'll have a life on his own anyway. Maybe you can move somewhere else with your brother then. But how long will it take until the time has come?

Always explore all your options before making decisions. One option should be finding professional help now.

I might tell my cousin abt it, like next year in may or something when my brother graduates

 

[Horizonshard]

I might do the evidence part but prolly wont be telling anyone till later on

Please please tell someone in authority. Especially before he goes too far. There are some things that can't be taken back and stick with you forever.

I don't want anything bad to happen to you. Protect yourself.

 

[MK3AM]

I might do the evidence part but prolly wont be telling anyone till later on

I wouldnt wait if i were you if he is doing this to you he could be doing this to other children

 

[Harmony_Starz]

Please please tell someone. Especially before he goes too far. There are some things that can't be taken back and stick with you forever.

I don't want anything bad to happen to you. Protect yourself.

I mean its been like 1 and 1/2 months and basically the same stuff happens, nothing new and he doesnt seem to plan on ever going too far so I don't think anything bad might happen?

 

[Harmony_Starz]

I wouldnt wait if i were you if he is doing this to you he could be doing this to other children

Nah he never goes out of the house unless its to shop or get vegetables, he doesnt like interacting with anyone unless syrictly necessary

 

[MK3AM]

Nah he never goes out of the house unless its to shop or get vegetables, he doesnt like interacting with anyone unless syrictly necessary

on his phone/ laptop bc its not always irl it could be online aswell

 

[Horizonshard]

I mean its been like 1 and 1/2 months and basically the same stuff happens, nothing new and he doesnt seem to plan on ever going too far so I don't think anything bad might happen?

What he's already doing is over the line and bad enough. Don't give him the benefit of making that normal.

Protect yourself.

Please.

 

[Pirioca]

I might tell my cousin abt it, like next year in may or something when my brother graduates

Do you have options to protect yourself until then? For example locking the bathroom door and the door to your personal room/sleeping room?
Even if he's not going too far atm you should set clear limits. Never ever act like a victim.

 

[seungfloral]

Tell your brother, your aunt, an adult you can trust. This is not safe, you shouldn't wait until things are more dangerous. please reach out to the link they provided if it helps. BUT ASAP

 

[The_LastRomeo]

Harmony pls stop saying it’s fine, it’s NOT fine! This is super inappropriate for a 15 to witness, please harmony, I’m begging to get help.

 

[Jewel]

I agree with everyone saying to tell this to an adult you trust. Have them go to authorities if you can't. Please seek help, hoping the best for you!!!

 

[Selfmate]

I knew something was wrong the moment you said your uncle prevented you from going to normal school

this is horrible...

is there anybody you trust - you can stay with in your area???

 

[dark_tranquility]

This is rated 18 cuz it contains talk of topics above 18. Also trigger warning because this contains talk of pedophilic stuff.

Spoiler: What happened

So I am copy pasting stuff I had written before when this began, its from september 9th.


I am thinking that my uncle is a p3do, here is why I am thinking this:

1. even though I've been bathing by myself for over a year, he still asked twice recently if I needed 'help' with it and it was worded kinda weirdly.

2. he told me yesterday about how in his childhood people used flour to scrub their skin clean (thats so strange) and said I should try it, I said no and he said "its something you should experience", I said no again and he said "why? I could scrub your back" and just what the hell is with that? I've been bathing by myself for like 2-3 years already and im almost 15, its just weird to ask this.

3. recently he's been trying to sleep in the same bed as me saying that he just wants to spend more time with me and wants to talk, I didnt like it and said the bed was cramped (it was but my issue was with him not the bed) so I started making the bed on the floor and we've been sleeping there for 3 times now and this is fine with me except that he's annoyingly touchy. he says families should show affection and that others do a lot of kissing, hugging and cuddling so now at night he wraps his arm around my waist which is fine but last night his hand kept going over my breasts and near my private areas, I had a blanket tho but still i disliked it and his hand would not stay still, i hated it, i dont feel comfortable at all with that.

4. My uncle began telling me about 'birds and bees' and I said I knew that since 9 (it was like 7 actually but whatever, I lied) and he was surprised and we talked about it and afterwards he asked if I was comfortable with him touching me and I asked 'in what way?', he replied with 'what do you think?' And I said 'in general?', he said 's3xual' and i was like 'no' immediately. What 50+ year old thinks its okay to touch a 14 year old like that? I dont give a flying f/ck if we're related or close (we're barely close), that just makes it worse.

5. after that, He said that at night he watched porn (i knew that too, he was surprised) and that he j3rked off and asked if I watched and I said no and he asked if it interested me which again i said no to.

He then said I should m@st@rubate as 'its good' and I said that i just didnt want to and that i would rather wait till some more years and he kept being like 'life is short, you shouldn't waste time' like, who cares and why even are YOU talking to me about this??? This sh1t isnt that important nor even necessary but he kept asking. He did accept my decision tho. 😭😭😭😭 Hated this conversation to pieces.



On september 15th: (again copy pasted)

I talked to him soon 1 night and he said that inc3st between family members is okay as long as they consent, then he suggested us doing 'things' and I said no and thankfully he said it was fine but it made me so uncomfortable that he thought of doing such things with me

Then last night, we had a fun conversation and we decided to go to sleep and he was laying on his back and i was on my side facing him and I could see that he was j3rking off. Who the fuck does that? Like 1. He knew i wasnt asleep, it had only been like 3 minutes since we stopped talking, 2. I was literally facing him. 3. He wasn't even facing away while doing it. What bothers me is that since it was just a few minutes after talking with me, he could have been thinking of me while doing that 😭



Now:


This is now a daily goddamn occurence, every night, while we talk, he keeps on putting his arm around me and that hand goes lower than the waist and its just very sus and I have to keep changing positions and constantly think of it. Then after enough talking, I decide i wanna sleep and then like a minute after, he'll start j3rking off and often he watches p0rn on thr laptop, its on the table and thr chair is right next to the bed. He j3rks off during that and I hate it. Often he's also touching me at night, I keep waking up to his hands on my butt or somewhere they shouldnt be but if I said anything, he could say that he was simply putting his arm around me or some other completely stupid excuse.

I used to feel alone before and wished he would pay more attention to me but now I wish it was like before, it was far better than this. I wanna tell my cousin or my brother but I don't want to mess up the way life is. My brother is in college still and needs to get a job soon, its a very important time for him and I don't want to tell somebody because my uncle helps my brother with a lot of the stuff he is doing and I want my brother to have this help because he doesn't interact much with the other students or teachers and is kinda naive about the world. I don't want him to have to deal with everything by himself or be distracted by this.

report him he is sick and a dangerous person to be around ASAP

 

[jinlingsuncles]

This is rated 18 cuz it contains talk of topics above 18. Also trigger warning because this contains talk of pedophilic stuff.

Spoiler: What happened

So I am copy pasting stuff I had written before when this began, its from september 9th.


I am thinking that my uncle is a p3do, here is why I am thinking this:

1. even though I've been bathing by myself for over a year, he still asked twice recently if I needed 'help' with it and it was worded kinda weirdly.

2. he told me yesterday about how in his childhood people used flour to scrub their skin clean (thats so strange) and said I should try it, I said no and he said "its something you should experience", I said no again and he said "why? I could scrub your back" and just what the hell is with that? I've been bathing by myself for like 2-3 years already and im almost 15, its just weird to ask this.

3. recently he's been trying to sleep in the same bed as me saying that he just wants to spend more time with me and wants to talk, I didnt like it and said the bed was cramped (it was but my issue was with him not the bed) so I started making the bed on the floor and we've been sleeping there for 3 times now and this is fine with me except that he's annoyingly touchy. he says families should show affection and that others do a lot of kissing, hugging and cuddling so now at night he wraps his arm around my waist which is fine but last night his hand kept going over my breasts and near my private areas, I had a blanket tho but still i disliked it and his hand would not stay still, i hated it, i dont feel comfortable at all with that.

4. My uncle began telling me about 'birds and bees' and I said I knew that since 9 (it was like 7 actually but whatever, I lied) and he was surprised and we talked about it and afterwards he asked if I was comfortable with him touching me and I asked 'in what way?', he replied with 'what do you think?' And I said 'in general?', he said 's3xual' and i was like 'no' immediately. What 50+ year old thinks its okay to touch a 14 year old like that? I dont give a flying f/ck if we're related or close (we're barely close), that just makes it worse.

5. after that, He said that at night he watched porn (i knew that too, he was surprised) and that he j3rked off and asked if I watched and I said no and he asked if it interested me which again i said no to.

He then said I should m@st@rubate as 'its good' and I said that i just didnt want to and that i would rather wait till some more years and he kept being like 'life is short, you shouldn't waste time' like, who cares and why even are YOU talking to me about this??? This sh1t isnt that important nor even necessary but he kept asking. He did accept my decision tho. 😭😭😭😭 Hated this conversation to pieces.



On september 15th: (again copy pasted)

I talked to him soon 1 night and he said that inc3st between family members is okay as long as they consent, then he suggested us doing 'things' and I said no and thankfully he said it was fine but it made me so uncomfortable that he thought of doing such things with me

Then last night, we had a fun conversation and we decided to go to sleep and he was laying on his back and i was on my side facing him and I could see that he was j3rking off. Who the fuck does that? Like 1. He knew i wasnt asleep, it had only been like 3 minutes since we stopped talking, 2. I was literally facing him. 3. He wasn't even facing away while doing it. What bothers me is that since it was just a few minutes after talking with me, he could have been thinking of me while doing that 😭



Now:


This is now a daily goddamn occurence, every night, while we talk, he keeps on putting his arm around me and that hand goes lower than the waist and its just very sus and I have to keep changing positions and constantly think of it. Then after enough talking, I decide i wanna sleep and then like a minute after, he'll start j3rking off and often he watches p0rn on thr laptop, its on the table and thr chair is right next to the bed. He j3rks off during that and I hate it. Often he's also touching me at night, I keep waking up to his hands on my butt or somewhere they shouldnt be but if I said anything, he could say that he was simply putting his arm around me or some other completely stupid excuse.

I used to feel alone before and wished he would pay more attention to me but now I wish it was like before, it was far better than this. I wanna tell my cousin or my brother but I don't want to mess up the way life is. My brother is in college still and needs to get a job soon, its a very important time for him and I don't want to tell somebody because my uncle helps my brother with a lot of the stuff he is doing and I want my brother to have this help because he doesn't interact much with the other students or teachers and is kinda naive about the world. I don't want him to have to deal with everything by himself or be distracted by this.

sorry for the cussing but
i figured out the 'birds and bees' at age 14 (im 16 rn) and it is not a good thing mentally to know about this at age 7 im concerned (but im not blaming you or anything life happens)
also
how the f*ck did a conversation between an uncle and niece get to s3x and inc3st?? the audacity to straight up go 'yeah inc3st is fine' im shaking with anger and disgust rn
also
i know that places in india are different but maybe my family just shelters me cause although im in the us rn i grew up in india and my family probably wont mention s3x to me until im like 20 so im sad that you have to go through this 😓😓😓

 

[magali]

harmony :( i hope you're okay and safe now, i hadn't seen this thread before. what he did was disgusting and i'm sorry you had to go through that. is he away now?