How did you react when people tell you to change? (1 Viewer)

[Administrator2]

And did it ever happen to you? That would automatically mean that something is wrong with you in the eyes of others, wouldn't it?

 

[GloriousHavoc]

Don't change, not even a bit. No compromises. Then they'll respect you more than they respect themselves.

 

[Mayday]

 

[Ahsoka]

I have very little self respect so I would probably try to do so and/or cut people put of my life because of my perceived weakness. Ive been trying to get better about those kinds of things though.

 

[Abeamus]

Assess their criticisms and come to the conclusion on whether I think it is justified and my actions were wrong and work on it or if I come to the conclusion that my actions were fine then just say oh well and move on.

 

[Hajima]

i take it as a feedback and try to improve myself.

 

[kodoku]

honestly, people make me feel like I need to change really often, but I know that it's all their own pettiness. It's never anything that I acually should change. Those things I'm already trying to anyway.. but they only tell me to change absurd things and try to make me into their clone which I refuse. However, there was a time when I was trying to change myself really hard to be good enough for others and all it did was make everything so much worse. I never should have wavered even once, always be true to yourself as long as you treat yourself and others well

 

[blurryface]

lets not talk about it

 

[Administrator2]

Don't change, not even a bit. No compromises. Then they'll respect you more than they respect themselves.

This is my current mindset. But compromises have to be made to a certain point apparently.

I have very little self respect so I would probably try to do so and/or cut people put of my life because of my perceived weakness. Ive been trying to get better about those kinds of things though.

But what if you don't think you're at fault. Also, you shoudl do something about self-respect. Others won't respect you if you don't respect yourself.

Assess their criticisms and come to the conclusion on whether I think it is justified and my actions were wrong and work on it or if I come to the conclusion that my actions were fine then just say oh well and move on.

This is very mature-minded. I came to conclusion my actions were fine, tbh.

i take it as a feedback and try to improve myself.

What if it's not posed as feedback but rather a demand?

honestly, people make me feel like I need to change really often, but I know that it's all their own pettiness. It's never anything that I acually should change. Those things I'm already trying to anyway.. but they only tell me to change absurd things and try to make me into their clone which I refuse. However, there was a time when I was trying to change myself really hard to be good enough for others and all it did was make everything so much worse. I never should have wavered even once, always be true to yourself as long as you treat yourself and others well

kodoku, brilliant as always.

lets not talk about it

Why not?

 

[Ahsoka]

But what if you don't think you're at fault. Also, you shoudl do something about self-respect. Others won't respect you if you don't respect yourself.

No idea I almost always blame myself no matter the situation. My parents have a tendency to blame everything on us so I'm just used to taking the blame for things. I know its bad, which is why I'm trying to work on it, its just hard when you've grown up a certain way and you want to change it.

 

[blurryface]

Why not?

im so dumb so im always changin when someone tells me change

 

[jasque]

Uh when I get told that, I think about the reasons why i act the way that "needs to be changed"

If I find the request unfair, I get angry and behave like a child for one or two days and realize there's nothing I can do

 

[Administrator2]

Uh when I get told that, I think about the reasons why i act the way that "needs to be changed"

If I find the request unfair, I get angry and behave like a child for one or two days and realize there's nothing I can do

Interesting approach. Might try it out.

 

[jasque]

Interesting approach. Might try it out.

It sucks not being able to skip that part, but I noticed most people do something like that lol

Adults whine a lot so I think it's possible to do it wisely

 

[yeji]

people always try to be that way to me, saying I need to change something, telling me I shouldn’t do something etc. At the end of the day you yourself needs to be comfortable and happy. There is no need to change anything if you don’t want to

 

[Mew]

huh, I don't I've ever been told that on a personality scale.
if someone did say it to me i probably wouldn't. It wouldn't make sense to change for someone if I didn't want to change myself.
beside obvious maybe health reasons and things that maybe more beneficial to me in the long run.
so id just continue as I am really.

 

[igloo]

idk i'm not often criticized by the people around me until i'm expressing my own self hatred and such. in many respects changing for me would be binary
either obviously worse or better

 

[Loki]

Well... Everytime people say I should change is because of their views... So as much as sometimes people say it with good intentions I really could not pay attention to it, because everytime I tried to change it only got worse for me, I had such a bad time trying to fit (into someone's else standard) and it didn't go well. My family is like... Nothing nice to say, it looks like we are totally different people, and I will never "change" to be more pleasent to them just because it's good for them? No, I will do what's good for me, always. And it took me a long time to realise that this is not a selfish act.

 

[Jimimis]

No sane person would ever tell me to change you can just feel the perfection radiating off me back me up @kuroyuri

 

[kuro]

No sane person would ever tell me to change you can just feel the perfection radiating off me back me up @kuroyuri

yes, I could never make my baby change
she's perfect and amazing just the way she is

anyone who tells her to change is out of their mind and needs to stfu and worship mimi