Why and how do you usually separate from people? (1 Viewer)

[kodoku]

throughout your life, what has been your most common reason for parting with others/what do you think caused most of your goodbyes?
and how do you separate from someone? do you tend to do it openly and directly, or do you kinda just silently let it die ...?

Spoiler: me

I think most of my relationships with others ended by us growing apart, either them or me stepping away and letting the other person realize it on their own... it's because I'm a coward, I know hehe. There were times when it was fine, but there were also times when my life was hanging by a thread yet there was no friend in sight.. but that's alright

 

[yeji]

I think we just naturally grew apart. It‘s not like bad feelings are involved. Just people being at different places in their life

 

[Ahsoka]

We usually just naturally grow apart, the only exceptions I can think of is one friend who betrayed us in high school and my grandmother, who I just avoided.

 

[Hajima]

We just stop talking 😂 I never say to anyone don't speak with me or let's end it.. It just happens naturally...
Usually lack of chimestry... It isn't there anymore so I stop caring and not keeping up with the person..

 

[mirella]

Sometimes my friends and I grow apart and are less close than we were, mainly because of differing interests. It feels mutual without any hard feelings. I think our friendship could be picked up again if we talked more.

Normally people break off their friendship with me, rather than the other way around lol.

 

[dokyeomon]

they end up moving to another country

 

[lexus]

We just grow apart and stop talking. At some point you realize that a relationship isn’t going to work so you stop putting effort into it.

 

[DrowningFishy]

Other then a few backstabs usually because of my depression I don't contact people for awhile. Then my anxiety keeps me from saying something when I decide to. Then I give up even trying to talk myself into it by pointing out the fact if they were actually my friend they would have reached out.

Edit: Though I am thinking a friendship is ending on my end because it seems I am placing all the effort as the other person does the ignoring. Don't want to give up on them but at this point it's like beating a dead horse.

 

[kodoku]

Other then a few backstabs usually because of my depression I don't contact people for awhile. Then my anxiety keeps me from saying something when I decide to. Then I give up even trying to talk myself into it by pointing out the fact if they were actually my friend they would have reached out.

aw you're not the only one like this, my friend <3

 

[DrowningFishy]

aw you're not the only one like this, my friend <3

It's a sucky way, means when it comes to every day life friends you don't have any. I do have one best friend I see maybe once every couple of years. He'll even poke me after a bit and ask if I am dead yet though. Most I have is internet friends which I recycle through I feel every few years. Hahaha no wonder I am still single.

 

[kodoku]

It's a sucky way, means when it comes to every day life friends you don't have any. I do have one best friend I see maybe once every couple of years. He'll even poke me after a bit and ask if I am dead yet though. Most I have is internet friends which I recycle through I feel every few years. Hahaha no wonder I am still single.

I'm sorry to hear that. I've dealt with the same stuff, so I know it's really difficult. People say just get out of the house, just smile and talk and blah blah, but it's not so easy when you're struggling with anxiety and similar things, I know. I do believe you will make friends sooner or later, one way or another though :)

 

[DrowningFishy]

I'm sorry to hear that. I've dealt with the same stuff, so I know it's really difficult. People say just get out of the house, just smile and talk and blah blah, but it's not so easy when you're struggling with anxiety and similar things, I know. I do believe you will make friends sooner or later, one way or another though :)

You're assuming I am young. XD I''m not young nor em I old but I am pretty much fine with the fact that I'll have no RL friends.

And they are right about getting out of the house, doing somethign that makes you uncomfortable. When you are younger that's the best thing you can do to help yourself move forward. Though I disagree with the fake smiling and just talk. Trying small talk while trapped in line is easier.

 

[kodoku]

You're assuming I am young. XD I''m not young nor em I old but I am pretty much fine with the fact that I'll have no RL friends.

And they are right about getting out of the house, doing somethign that makes you uncomfortable. When you are younger that's the best thing you can do to help yourself move forward. Though I disagree with the fake smiling and just talk. Trying small talk while trapped in line is easier.

oh sorry was I? I wasn't really thinking that, I just meant that these things usually happen with time, to most people. And okay hehe, as long as you are okay with it :)

You do have to push yourself sometimes and get out of your comfort zone yeah, but it's just much harder for people who have these type of problems, I think

 

[Poetry]

Lack of effort.

 

[Mayday]

I usually cut them off if they're toxic, a skill I'm super grateful to have. I just stop talking to them.
Most of them usually leave me though. I'm not good at keeping people close to me.

 

[Mew]

I wouldn't know I have yet to really end any friendship, im lucky in that respect.
Most people that I meet stay at an aquuitance level and never reach friend status, just because there's no connection to begin with so I can end something that never started.

 

[Wingfrost]

Just slowly growing apart as we got older and developed new interests.

 

[JoanaIsHere]

We naturally grow apart, but if it isn’t that I cut them off completely. Kinda petty, but I don’t like confrontation so I block & hope I don’t see them lol.

 

[jasque]

I just disappear for six months or more

Then we talk again out of nowhere if there's a reason