Are you the kind of person who... (1 Viewer)

[NASA]

Prefers to look for mainly the good in people, even though you risk befriending people who maybe aren't good for you, because you don't want to see that side of them and try your best to ignore it so you can focus on the good things?

Or

Prefers to see mainly the bad in people, guarding yourself from the people who aren't good for you, even though it will cause issues with making friends, as well as maybe negatively effecting the existing friendships if you have trouble trusting their good intentions at face value?

Of course this question is a bit black and white for a topic that almost no one is going to be exactly one sided on since we've all got a little bit of each and some may be right in the middle too, so this is for the sake of turning something that's a little more complicated into something we can sorta understand. Just answer with the one you lean more towards.

So which one do you relate with more? What positives do you think outweigh the negative side of that type of thinking? Or do you think the positives aren't worth it and you would rather see it the other way?

Spoiler

This thread came about because I think i'm the kind of person who tries their best to see good in people, and that has gotten me in trouble before because i've had quite a few friendships that were not good for me at all that I stayed in for wayyy too long, even once with a 'bff' because I only wanted to believe in the good in them. I'm a little more guarded now but i'm still leaning more towards seeing the good and i'd rather stay that way even if it gets me hurt sometimes, I think i'd get really depressed if I guarded myself too much. I'd rather be positive and get hurt sometimes than just see negativity. So i'm curious as to how other people think about this?

 

[multifanboy]

Prefers to look for mainly the good in people, even though you risk befriending people who maybe aren't good for you, because you don't want to see that side of them and try your best to ignore it so you can focus on the good things?

yes

 

[lexus]

I guess I'm both? I think it's fine to look for the good in people, but it's important to not let it hide the fact that people can have bad qualities, too. Sometimes we get caught up with how "good" we think someone is and we end up ignoring their bad qualities, therefore we risk having a toxic relationship with them.

 

[jasque]

Depends, some people that are seen as bad fascinate me.

Other ones I just see as very dumb people that I'd prefer didn't exist.

 

[maruberry]

I'm kind of a mix.

I believe most people are idiots, but that doesn't mean they don't have any good parts to them. Idiots can be very loveable.

 

[NASA]

lol that's cute
if we are talking about that sort of thing then I guess more open

I veiwed the question differently initially so I said guarded, but I guess maybe looking at I like this maybe I should change my answer

I tried to simplify the question as much as possible but it can still be viewed differently ig, but most of the reason why I made the thread in the first place was to see how other people think about this topic so i'm not disappointed

 

[dooh]

irl mostly

Prefers to see mainly the bad in people, guarding yourself from the people who aren't good for you, even though it will cause issues with making friends, as well as maybe negatively effecting the existing friendships if you have trouble trusting their good intentions at face value?

 

[TaeKpop]

Prefers to look for mainly the good in people, even though you risk befriending people who maybe aren't good for you, because you don't want to see that side of them and try your best to ignore it so you can focus on the good things?

that me but if you mess around with me.

You know what i mean.​

 

[Abeamus]

I prefer to see the good in people however I can switch to bad if a person shows me red flags as those are usually a sign someone is trying something they shouldn't.

 

[yeji]

I usually see mostly the good in people. Ot takes alot for me to start to see the bad in someone

 

[Willow]

I usually see mostly the good in people. Ot takes alot for me to start to see the bad in someone

SAME goyo is my role model

 

[yeji]

SAME goyo is my role model

you are so adorable

 

[Willow]

you are so adorable

we have lots in common You are the most adorable one ever

 

[Deleted member 74]

I used to be the kind of person who saw the good in people no matter what. Now, if the bad in a person is too much, we naturally end up drifting apart or disagreements happen. Even if I see the good in a person or know a person is good, I'll still create some kind of gap between us because getting close to people is a waste of time on their part and my part. I always hurt the good people in my life, even if I don't intend to, much to my frustration. It probably says a lot about me :')

 

[jasque]

It depends.

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You said one time that I fascinate you tho...

I'll fight the ones that say you're bad

 

[jasque]

I will fight the ones that say you are bad too~

what if I'm Michael Jacksun' Bad?

 

[dark_tranquility]

I often see the good in people, but years ago I went down a dark path and befriended all these terrible people, just to have someone to talk to. It was poor decision making from me and yeah never again. I am not so gullible now to believe anyone who says they are nice, but aren't so.

 

[LucieBear]

I mainly see the good in people which has got me in a lot of bad places and have been used countless times. I've forgiven people way too easily and got myself hurt again.

I have managed to cut a few people off because they were effecting my mental health too much.