so.. what's the deal with humans? (1 Viewer)

[kodoku]

solitude and togetherness, to be exact........ they always taught us...... "man is a social animal" and we all know that lasting loneliness can even damage our physical health, not only mental.. but even if you ignore this, I think every human has felt the pain of loneliness at least once, so we should all know very well.. still, I get confused sometimes.. I'm not sure I've seen too many functional relationships or happy people in general in my life.. it just seems to me sometimes that people can't bear to be alone, but we also can't stand being with someone else.. weird huh, sounds kinda cruel... but I'm thinking.. if you are a healthy person, someone with a healthy mind who has had good role models in life. Then you know how to react, you know what you want and you respect yourself as well as others.. so maybe things can work out for some people at times.. but generally speaking, I feel like most people in most types of relationships end up parting ways, sooner or later....

 

[YouNiceKeepGoin]

Everyone acts as if things will stay the same, that everyone will be together forever, like nothing will change, but once change hits people fight and separate when they should be staying together. It's sad, people are very hypocritical, whether they know it or not.
They speak of good things, and how happy things are but the reality is the opposite of what they say.

 

[kodoku]

Everyone acts as if things will stay the same, that everyone will be together forever, like nothing will change, but once change hits people fight and separate when they should be staying together. It's sad, people are very hypocritical, whether they know it or not.
They speak of good things, and how happy things are but the reality is the opposite of what they say.

idk what to tell ya.. not sure if I'm more scared of having to deal with life alone, not only emotionally but in all the other ways too if we're gonna be honest..... or of ending up in a relationship that will end up being bad even if it wasn't in the beginning........ well I'm pretty sure I'll never get to that point anyway but yeah, seems like there's no winning. Like how do people do this lol..

 

[YouNiceKeepGoin]

idk what to tell ya.. not sure if I'm more scared of having to deal with life alone, not only emotionally but in all the other ways too if we're gonna be honest..... or of ending up in a relationship that will end up being bad even if it wasn't in the beginning........ well I'm pretty sure I'll never get to that point anyway but yeah, seems like there's no winning. Like how do people do this lol..

Yeah, I'm scared to live alone, i don't want to do anything alone, but i have to, cause even though it's against what i want i know that i can't always have some one there for me.
Relationships are hard, in many ways, which now i know why i haven't been in one so long....cause i put my feelings aside and push through, that's why it's easy to be alone, even though someone may not want to.

 

[FaceMcShooty]

I'm equally happy living alone or with people

Loving that Donnie Darko gif

 

[kodoku]

Yeah, I'm scared to live alone, i don't want to do anything alone, but i have to, cause even though it's against what i want i know that i can't always have some one there for me.
Relationships are hard, in many ways, which now i know why i haven't been in one so long....cause i put my feelings aside and push through, that's why it's easy to be alone, even though someone may not want to.

I can understand that..... I've been living on my own for a few years now and I'm still scared all the time lol. But I'm not a typical case, so I'm sure you will do much better :) as for relationships, as long as you're okay with your current situation, I think it's fine. I've tried my best, but it never worked out, not even a little.. idk..

I'm equally happy living alone or with people

Loving that Donnie Darko gif

that's amazing for real and omg you know ittttt

 

[YouNiceKeepGoin]

I can understand that..... I've been living on my own for a few years now and I'm still scared all the time lol. But I'm not a typical case, so I'm sure you will do much better :) as for relationships, as long as you're okay with your current situation, I think it's fine. I've tried my best, but it never worked out, not even a little.. idk..

Yeah, I'm good with it, i'm used to it by now XD
I wish you the best!~

 

[FaceMcShooty]

that's amazing for real and omg you know ittttt

Yess! It's one of my all time favorite movies

 

[kodoku]

Yess! It's one of my all time favorite movies

yess it's so good. I used to rewatch it a lot, but now it's been some time heh

 

[jasque]

Well if both have problems, ig it's not that bad socializing then.

I prefer sleeping though.

Everyone acts as if things will stay the same, that everyone will be together forever, like nothing will change, but once change hits people fight and separate when they should be staying together. It's sad, people are very hypocritical, whether they know it or not.
They speak of good things, and how happy things are but the reality is the opposite of what they say.

If people could accept the end of things better, they wouldn't suffer that much.

 

[Mayday]

I think the issue with humans is that we tend to set our expectations too high. I saw a chart once that went something like this:

High expectations --> Bad outcome --> Very Negative
High expectations --> Good outcome --> Neutral Positive
Low expectations --> Bad outcome --> Neutral
Low expectations --> Good outcome --> Extremely Positive


It's all about expectations. Notice how none of the low expectations have a negative reaction.

 

[kodoku]

I think the issue with humans is that we tend to set our expectations too high. I saw a chart once that went something like this:

High expectations --> Bad outcome --> Very Negative
High expectations --> Good outcome --> Neutral Positive
Low expectations --> Bad outcome --> Neutral
Low expectations --> Good outcome --> Extremely Positive


It's all about expectations. Notice how none of the low expectations have a negative reaction.

I guess Bo Burnham was right

 

[yeji]

it's sadly true in a lot of cases. we can't change how others behave. we can just try to look out for ourselves.