I think I’m just being dramatic but... (1 Viewer)

Wingfrost · 29 April 2020

I’m a little annoyed because of my neighbors. Before I explain please understand that I always try to be nice, and because of that I haven’t talked to them about this and probably won’t. So this is basically just me ranting because of the situation... So to actually explain, my family had some new neighbors move in a few months ago, our old neighbors were very disrespectful (looking over our fence, playing loud music until 2 in the morning constantly, and being mean to our dogs) So we hoped these neighbors would be better... They’re not horrible but, we’ve seen their kids poke their heads into our yard since they have a few loose boards on their fence, my mom talked to their parents about it and everyone went on their merry ways. But recently they built this kids play thing right next to the fence that separates our yard from theirs and the play thing (idk what to call lol) is taller than the fence so the kids can now basically look into our yard. Idk why they built it on that side of the fence they have a huge yard where they could have put it somewhere else. I know I’m complaining and I really don’t mean to be rude towards them, but I’m a person that likes privacy when being out in my yard to relax and it’s uncomfortable to be stared at by people when trying to do so...

I know I’m probably being dramatic, selfish and rude but I just sort of needed to vent, I have no bad feelings towards my neighbors, they seem nice and that’s why my family hasn’t said anything to them, it will just be something we have to get used to I suppose.

DrowningFishy · 29 April 2020

Wingfrost said:
I’m a little annoyed because of my neighbors. Before I explain please understand that I always try to be nice, and because of that I haven’t talked to them about this and probably won’t. So this is basically just me ranting because of the situation... So to actually explain, my family had some new neighbors move in a few months ago, our old neighbors were very disrespectful (looking over our fence, playing loud music until 2 in the morning constantly, and being mean to our dogs) So we hoped these neighbors would be better... They’re not horrible but, we’ve seen their kids poke their heads into our yard since they have a few loose boards on their fence, my mom talked to their parents about it and everyone went on their merry ways. But recently they built this kids play thing right next to the fence that separates our yard from theirs and the play thing (idk what to call lol) is taller than the fence so the kids can now basically look into our yard. Idk why they built it on that side of the fence they have a huge yard where they could have put it somewhere else. I know I’m complaining and I really don’t mean to be rude towards them, but I’m a person that likes privacy when being out in my yard to relax and it’s uncomfortable to be stared at by people when trying to do so...

I know I’m probably being dramatic, selfish and rude but I just sort of needed to vent, I have no bad feelings towards my neighbors, they seem nice and that’s why my family hasn’t said anything to them, it will just be something we have to get used to I suppose.

your not being dramatic or rude. Your neighbor is being rude and disrespectful. Anything that towers over a fence should be furthest from the neighbors unless it cannot be helped. This is a matter of privacy and noise in the case of kidlets. If there are loose boards then a discussion should be made who should slam in a few nails or screws. Generally the side that's flat has that responsibility.

If it was me I'd be petty and do things in the back hard prefectly legal to upset the kids, like watching horror movies, and be like what it's my PRIVATE backyard.

maruberry · 29 April 2020

Wingfrost said:
I’m a little annoyed because of my neighbors. Before I explain please understand that I always try to be nice, and because of that I haven’t talked to them about this and probably won’t. So this is basically just me ranting because of the situation... So to actually explain, my family had some new neighbors move in a few months ago, our old neighbors were very disrespectful (looking over our fence, playing loud music until 2 in the morning constantly, and being mean to our dogs) So we hoped these neighbors would be better... They’re not horrible but, we’ve seen their kids poke their heads into our yard since they have a few loose boards on their fence, my mom talked to their parents about it and everyone went on their merry ways. But recently they built this kids play thing right next to the fence that separates our yard from theirs and the play thing (idk what to call lol) is taller than the fence so the kids can now basically look into our yard. Idk why they built it on that side of the fence they have a huge yard where they could have put it somewhere else. I know I’m complaining and I really don’t mean to be rude towards them, but I’m a person that likes privacy when being out in my yard to relax and it’s uncomfortable to be stared at by people when trying to do so...

I know I’m probably being dramatic, selfish and rude but I just sort of needed to vent, I have no bad feelings towards my neighbors, they seem nice and that’s why my family hasn’t said anything to them, it will just be something we have to get used to I suppose.

I think you are being a BIT dramatic, but not OVERLY so.
Your family should try to talk these things out with the neighbours bcs afterall, you do deserve privacy in your back yard! Holding grudges and bad feelings over these things that could be solved with a 10 minute conversation is not good.

But if they refuse is when you have the right to get petty imo.

maruberry · 29 April 2020

DrowningFishy said:
If it was me I'd be petty and do things in the back hard prefectly legal to upset the kids, like watching horror movies, and be like what it's my PRIVATE backyard.

I think bcs it doesn't look like the neighbours are doing anything on purpose you should try talking it out first and only do this if the neighbours refuse.

Why fuck up your relationship with your neighbours if you could in theory fix this with a conversation.

Wingfrost · 29 April 2020

DrowningFishy said:
your not being dramatic or rude. Your neighbor is being rude and disrespectful. Anything that towers over a fence should be furthest from the neighbors unless it cannot be helped. This is a matter of privacy and noise in the case of kidlets. If there are loose boards then a discussion should be made who should slam in a few nails or screws. Generally the side that's flat has that responsibility.

If it was me I'd be petty and do things in the back hard prefectly legal to upset the kids, like watching horror movies, and be like what it's my PRIVATE backyard.

maruif said:
I think you are being a BIT dramatic, but not OVERLY so.
Your family should try to talk these things out with the neighbours bcs afterall, you do deserve privacy in your back yard! Holding grudges and bad feelings over these things that could be solved with a 10 minute conversation is not good.

But if they refuse is when you have the right to get petty imo.

I just feel like it would be a lot to ask of them, it’s a huge thing they just built and I would feel rude to make them think they need to move it away from the fence. I don’t want them to be upset with us.

maruberry · 29 April 2020

Wingfrost said:
I just feel like it would be a lot to ask of them, it’s a huge thing they just built and I would feel rude to make them think they need to move it away from the fence. I don’t want them to be upset with us.

But this way you are upset with them, which they most likely don't want either. Maybe you can talk and somehow reach a compromise!

Wingfrost · 29 April 2020

maruif said:
But this way you are upset with them, which they most likely don't want either. Maybe you can talk and somehow reach a compromise!

I see your point, I’ll see if I can talk to them the next time I see them.

DrowningFishy · 29 April 2020

Wingfrost said:
I just feel like it would be a lot to ask of them, it’s a huge thing they just built and I would feel rude to make them think they need to move it away from the fence. I don’t want them to be upset with us.

This is common manners they missed out on. If they don't know what that it wasn't the best place to put it then I don't know what to say but good luck to you. Backyards are supposed to be private. Anything that violates that privacy shouldnt be done, or at least ssked ig it was ok. And any parent know their kidlets can be loud.

Mayday · 29 April 2020

I feel like you aren't being irrational at all. It's a very valid thing to be upset for, especially when there are screaming children so close to you. By not telling them you're honestly just penting up anger for whatever they do next.