Men of KPS, a question (1 Viewer)

[trulychoi]

When you take a nice lady out on a date (or if you've never been on a date just imagine) and the check comes, do you let her pay for it? Split the check? Or cover the whole thing? Personally I've seen this new generation take to splitting the check because "something something FEMINISM something something EQUALITY something" or because they don't want the guy to think that just because he paid for the meal that means he's entitled to some lil desert after, if you catch my drift. However I've only seen this idea from the lady's perspective and hardly ever hearing anything from the man. So what do you all think?

Also if you say you don't really care I'm just gonna assume you'd like it better if you two split the check/let her pay for it.

 

[RandAlThor]

I do not think i have ever gone out with a girl and not been prepared to pay.
If they make it clear they would like to split then that is fine, but i would never as the inviter expect them to pay for a 1 on 1 event.

 

[Jimimis]

@guys you will never get me or any other self respecting woman to split the check

 

[Myco]

Whoever is the inviter should pay, at least for the first date, the ones after just split it

 

[Abeamus]

It really just depends on the situation for me as I don't think you should ever ask to go on a date if you know that you can't at least split the price however if you're getting asked and you make it clear that you cannot pay however the person asking you persists then I think in that scenario the person who asked should just pay for it and apart from that it'd just be preferences which this goes for any relationship.

 

[Administrator2]

Boy better be ready to pay the bill for me

 

[trulychoi]

I do not think i have ever gone out with a girl and not been prepared to pay.
If they make it clear they would like to split then that is fine, but i would never as the inviter expect them to pay for a 1 on 1 event.

YOU'RE A GUY?!??!!?!?!?!?!??!?!!?

 

[trulychoi]

@guys you will never get me or any other self respecting woman to split the check

PERIOD.

Like I just don't understand that mentality. That's like inviting someone over to your house for dinner and then thinking that they should cook half the damn dinner so it's """fair"""". Why even invite me if I'm gonna have to make my own meal?? I swear this new type of equality just benefits broke bois.

 

[SHlNEE]

why only men? there is probably lesbian etc fans here too you know

i don't mind sharing or taking turns

 

[Jimimis]

PERIOD.

Like I just don't understand that mentality. That's like inviting someone over to your house for dinner and then thinking that they should cook half the damn dinner so it's """fair"""". Why even invite me if I'm gonna have to make my own meal?? I swear this new type of equality just benefits broke bois.

Men expect their gf to be cooking and cleaning, so why am I as his maid expected to pay half on top of that??? This libfem idea of strong independent woman who do 50/50 is such a joke

 

[trulychoi]

Men expect their gf to be cooking and cleaning, so why am I as his maid expected to pay half on top of that??? This libfem idea of strong independent woman who do 50/50 is such a joke

Fucking preach!! Not only are you his maid who pays for half of the outings HE wants to take you on, but you also have to keep in mind how much money you already spend on yourself. Mf if I wanted to pay for my own meals, makeup, clothes, hair, hobbies, and bills all whilst cooking and cleaning and getting some d then I would just stay single and download Tinder. The least you can do if you expect me to be cooking and cleaning is to pay for dates or pick up a damn bill. 'Cause like hell am I gonna spend my money on food for two damn people and all you're gonna do is sit there and not open that mf wallet.

 

[trulychoi]

why only men? there is probably lesbian etc fans here too you know

i don't mind sharing or taking turns

Because I enjoy irritating men

 

[Jimimis]

Fucking preach!! Not only are you his maid who pays for half of the outings HE wants to take you on, but you also have to keep in mind how much money you already spend on yourself. Mf if I wanted to pay for my own meals, makeup, clothes, hair, hobbies, and bills all whilst cooking and cleaning and getting some d then I would just stay single and download Tinder. The least you can do if you expect me to be cooking and cleaning is to pay for dates or pick up a damn bill. 'Cause like hell am I gonna spend my money on food for two damn people and all you're gonna do is sit there and not open that mf wallet.

Do you know the FDS subreddit ? I feel you would like it

 

[hamz9_9]

a) if i am the one taking her out...then i should be the one covering bill ...if she insist on splitting then we split otherwise ill happy cover the bill...
b)however if she gonna take me out then i think she should cover ...if she wanna split then we split...but she should cover otherwise in this case..

 

[bulletproof]

I am a woman so idk if my opinion counts but yeah, for let's say first date, the inviter should pay. BUT there is also another option when let's say he pays for cinema tickets, I get the snacks or... he pays the restaurant, I pay the cinema tickets. It also depends if the 2 are working.

 

[Suzy]

@guys you will never get me or any other self respecting woman to split the check

Wow this is the exact opposite of me. I have too much pride to let anyone pay for me or take care of me. To me paying for myself is my form of self respect.

Also, I saw your second comment about women being expected to cook and clean and I think that's a good point actually. If she's taking care of the house and family then 100% the man should take care of the bills. But again, this will depend on the situation of the couple. If one is working and the other is taking care of the home and family, then obviously the one who is working will have to pay for it. But if they're both helping out with house duties and both earning money, then I don't see why the woman also can't help with the bills. Honestly, I would never marry a man who is not willing to help out with the house duties, especially since I plan to have a career of my own. But I also wouldn't expect him to be the only one paying for the bills. That's my basic level standards for a husband and anyone who expects me to do everything for them can just move back in with their mothers. I'm not dealing with that.

 

[bulletproof]

Wow this is the exact opposite of me. I have too much pride to let anyone pay for me or take care of me. To me paying for myself is my form of self respect.

Also, I saw your second comment about women being expected to cook and clean and I think that's a good point actually. If she's taking care of the house and family then 100% the man should take care of the bills. But again, this will depend on the situation of the couple. If one is working and the other is taking care of the home and family, then obviously the one who is working will have to pay for it. But if they're both helping out with house duties and both earning money, then I don't see why the woman also can't help with the bills. Honestly, I would never marry a man who is not willing to help out with the house duties, especially since I plan to have a career of my own. But I also wouldn't expect him to be the only one paying for the bills. That's my basic level standards for a husband and anyone who expects me to do everything for them can just move back in with their mothers. I'm not dealing with that.

I 100% agree. Nobody is a maid

 

[Jimimis]

Wow this is the exact opposite of me. I have too much pride to let anyone pay for me or take care of me. To me paying for my self is my form of self respect.

Also, I saw your second comment about women being expected to cook and clean and I think that's a good point actually. If she's taking care of the house and family then 100% the man should take care of the bills. But again, this will depend on the situation of the couple. If one is working and the other is taking care of the home and family, then obviously the one who is working will have to pay for it. But if they're both helping out with house duties and both earning money, then I don't see why the woman also can't help with the bills. Honestly, I would never marry a man who is not willing to help out with the house duties, especially since I plan to have a career of my own. But I also wouldn't expect him to be the only one paying for the bills. That's my basic level standards for a husband and anyone who expects me to do everything for them can just move back in with their mothers. I'm not dealing with that.

Him paying is my self respect. He’s paying me for my time, why am I supposed to be free? Arent i worth something???
“Hey dude sorry for bothering you tonight, here’s fifty bucks to compensate you”

yeah same I’d never marry a dude who doesn’t also cook/clean but face it the wife will always do more. You see the absolute squalor most guys live in? And I don’t mean the dude pays 100% of everything, sure sometimes I’d pay for dinner but only after bf gf is established. If on the first few dates he at any time expects me to foot the bill hes wasting his time

 

[Emanresu]

This is where my traditional side comes out.

I see it as my role to pay. I want to.

If they insist that splitting is something important to them, then I'm open to that.

But I always go forward with the intention to pay unless they clearly object.

I'm progressive as it comes to domestic responsibility, and see that as a shared commitment between both individuals. In a long term relationship or marriage: I'll cook and clean and take care of the kids, share financial commitments, etc.. That's my shared responsibility as part of the relationship.

But I still hold on to more traditional views as it comes to dating. I want to court my partner and they deserve to be courted.

 

[Suzy]

Him paying is my self respect. He’s paying me for my time, why am I supposed to be free? Arent i worth something???
“Hey dude sorry for bothering you tonight, here’s fifty bucks to compensate you”

yeah same I’d never marry a dude who doesn’t also cook/clean but face it the wife will always do more. You see the absolute squalor most guys live in? And I don’t mean the dude pays 100% of everything, sure sometimes I’d pay for dinner but only after bf gf is established. If on the first few dates he at any time expects me to foot the bill hes wasting his time

That's an interesting perspective and I never thought of it that way. Like I said, my pride is just too strong and having someone else pay for me makes me feel uncomfortable. I probably won't ever see the person again if they end up continuously paying for me. I'm perfectly capable of paying for myself so I don't need someone else to keep taking the bill. The first date I can get past but after that, I'll pay for myself. I think it also has to do with the fact that I don't actually plan on having a serious relationship with anyone who asks me out so when they do pay, it makes me feel guilty? Well I have never felt guilt but it's awkward lol