they are not UGLY
they are someone who YOU not find attractive
period
or else, with your theory, a fak ton of people could also call you ugly, nothing more nothing less, since everyone cannot be attracted to every single human on the planet, you be fine with that? that must give you a boost of self esteem for sure
ANYWAYS
are you saying you would be dating an attractive man even though beforehand, before the date even starts, you get a huge vibe he is an asshole
because of the way he says things and acts around you before the date
you still be dating him?
well i think what you're talking about is the difference between a general standard of beauty and personal taste. i see a lot of men that i think are smoking hot that do not rank high on the general standard of male attractiveness. they are two different scales
for me, if i say a man is ugly i mean he's below a 5 on the general standard of male attractiveness. now, what can put a man there? typically men below a 5 are shorter than average, rounder than average, feminine qualities, poor facial symmetry, weak jaw, receded chin, thin hair or no hair, bad teeth, bad skin, unflattering nose. So I'm not saying everyone will find that man ugly. many would still date him, but most women would pass.
people can call me ugly and i wont even fight them. i feel that i am far more attractive to myself and maybe i only find myself pretty because i'm so used to my face and because i interpret my face while knowing my personality as well. so i may see certain features like my horrible ass nose and think 'this nose is why my sense of smell is so accurate. the big ass nostrils be helping a bitch out" or i may feel its why i sing so well. so i may feel fondness about my honker but others may feel grossed out. thats really not about me, thats about them and their taste. my self esteem isnt about how men view me, its about how i view me. if i look in the mirror and i'm ok with it or i see at least something i like, i'll feel fine. thats my definition of self esteem.
on the general standard of female attractiveness i dont rank very high. i'm a 6 and thats after a LOT of effort. before i put on makeup and dress up i'm deadass a 3. i just try to keep that secret! But i'm not entirely without good physical features. i have pretty eyes, long legs, proportionate weight, small waist. if a man thinks i'm ugly i'm not gonna die over it. i'm gonna understand why he thinks that, but also understand that i'm not a swamp monster by ANY means. and where one man wont, another one will.
if you put me next to a female idol i look SO ugly. but if you just look at me by myself you wouldnt be repulsed. so that's the life of being a 6. you're not in the trash but a good handful of men still wont tap you.
will i date an attractive man that's an asshole? absolutely. i like mean people. i think its funny, and it can also be interesting to see how they view the world and interact with people. as long as they're not mean to ME, we'll be cool. but also most mean people are just putting on a front. underneath that there is a soft cuddly baby. so if some mega hottie wants to date me but he's a douche i'm gonna give him some dates and try to coax out the inner baby. make him go all soft on me. i've done it before. i have a knack for talking to people on a deep level. because they feel they can trust me, they show me sides they dont show others. so i wont reject a hot man until i've seen the side that no one else has seen. then i'll determine if he's trash or not