Are racial preferences racist? (1 Viewer)

[trulychoi]

Honestly I think they can be, but not inherently; to have a preference one would have to like something else more than the other, but still be willing to go with the other option. So for example, if I prefer mint chocolate ice cream to regular chocolate ice cream obviously I'm going to go for mint choco at every ice cream parlor I go to, but I would be willing to eat regular chocolate ice cream if mint wasn't there. I see it the same way with people. It's okay to prefer one race over another because it still means that you would date any other race. That's why I don't believe having a racial preference automatically means a person is racist- however I do acknowledge that sometimes it can stem from racist beliefs. I think where most people get in such a huff is when someone completely discriminates against a whole race based off some stereotypes (ex. "I would never date an asian guy because they all have little pee pees and are awkward, feminine, nerds!"), and I understand how that can hurt, but honestly?? Who gives a damn lol. I also don't understand getting upset over someone YOU wouldn't even date if they didn't have those ideas.

I know this is kind of an unpopular opinion, but if anything it's best to focus on the people who like you rather than the ones who don't. At least that's just the way I see it.

and please be respectful toward each other I don't want this thread to get locked, i just got back

 

[Hajima]

Wow wow wow hold on woke Johnny needs to speak with you in private

 

[Jimimis]

i like men who look like women am i sexist?

 

[daesuki]

Honestly, I don't think it is racist. It's okay to have a racial preference, just as long as it's not for prejudice or racist reasons. It's okay to find one race more attractive than another, it's okay to want to date one race over another.

Preferring one race to another isn't racist as long as you don't think that one race is far superior or better than another. It's like how I prefer tall nose bridges to short ones, but I don't hate all short nose bridges, it's just my preference

I know this is kind of an unpopular opinion, but if anything it's best to focus on the people who like you rather than the ones who don't. At least that's just the way I see it.

Is this an unpopular opinion??

 

[Jimimis]

Is this an unpopular opinion??

ig sometimes on the internet what seems unpopular isn't irl. like maybe if you spent ur whole life online you'd think half the world is a kpop stan but in actuality no

 

[daesuki]

ig sometimes on the internet what seems unpopular isn't irl. like maybe if you spent ur whole life online you'd think half the world is a kpop stan but in actuality no

True, i suppose online and offline have very different opinions esp since online you can get out of a situation a lot faster

 

[SHlNEE]

i recently stated to people in real life i would prefer working with certain type of kids (kids similar to how i was back in the day, also has to do with background etc)
BUT i would not shy away and belittle anyone if i do have to work with other certain type of kids because i want to help everybody that needs the help and deserves it, i will not treat them like they are less

i know that sounds racist but i know in my heart i am not being racist
i just have a preference like you say
so i agree with you it does not have to mean it is racist

also, my mom can be racist sometimes for real
and i always tell her.... that she has to remind herself that people who are from the same background as us CAN ALSO be that way
not just those other type of people
she always thinks the worst of certain type of people and it bugs me sometimes i have to remind her anybody can be that way
no matter your background or colour
if you would ask her , most bad people and criminal people would be of colour or turkish etc
forgetting there is plenty of white people who are bad and criminal too

 

[trulychoi]

Is this an unpopular opinion??

From what I've seen it is. There are youtuber videos, IG posts, twitter threads, and probably even podcast episodes dedicated to how it's racist to have a dating race preference and I honestly used to think so too until I realized I had one myself lol.

 

[Willow]

I have a preference too

 

[trulychoi]

turkish

WHY DOES EVERYONE IN EUROPE HATE TURKISH PEOPLE LMAO!! Like,,, I've noticed it for years now and maybe it's because I'm an ignorant American but what did these people do to you guys besides have a funny name?

edit: omg i meant 'hate' not 'have', sorry turks

 

[trulychoi]

Wow wow wow hold on woke Johnny needs to speak with you in private

WHAT DID I DO WOKE JOHNNY

i like men who look like women am i sexist?

yes

 

[Jimimis]

yes

hooray success

 

[trulychoi]

hooray success

PROUD OF BEING SEXIST????????????? MODS!!! MODSSSS!!!

 

[SHlNEE]

WHY DOES EVERYONE IN EUROPE HATE TURKISH PEOPLE LMAO!! Like,,, I've noticed it for years now and maybe it's because I'm an ignorant American but what did these people do to you guys besides have a funny name?

edit: omg i meant 'hate' not 'have', sorry turks

i work in a part of a big city right now where turkish people are everywhere, A LOT of them
and they are all well known for shady bussiness, not rumors, facts so i guess that is what my mother is basing her opinion on
what can i say... they do sometimes give themselves a bad name for doing bad things more often than not
don't ask me the whole history behind it though, i do not keep busy with how what when

but like i said, everyone, even white people in that hood where i work can also be bad people
so yeah but the turkish people do rule the places, so again, guess that is why my mom thinks like this

 

[Hajima]

i like men who look like women am i sexist?

But Jimin looks nothing like a woman

 

[honeyfornomoney]

WHY DOES EVERYONE IN EUROPE HATE TURKISH PEOPLE LMAO!!

Basically, all Balkan people are... well, trashy. (I'm turkish/bulgarian and I have the right to say it :P)

Anyway, I don't think it's racist to have a preference.

 

[Jimimis]

But Jimin looks nothing like a woman

there is no limit to the exceptions i will make for that man

 

[trulychoi]

Basically, all Balkan people are... well, trashy. (I'm turkish/bulgarian and I have the right to say it :P)

Anyway, I don't think it's racist to have a preference.

i work in a part of a big city right now where turkish people are everywhere, A LOT of them
and they are all well known for shady bussiness, not rumors, facts so i guess that is what my mother is basing her opinion on
what can i say... they do sometimes give themselves a bad name for doing bad things more often than not
don't ask me the whole history behind it though, i do not keep busy with how what when

but like i said, everyone, even white people in that hood where i work can also be bad people
so yeah but the turkish people do rule the places, so again, guess that is why my mom thinks like this

So what I'm getting is...Turkish people have a reputation for being untrustworthy and participating in criminal activity within Europe? And that's why a lot of Europeans don't like them?

I never would've thought that tbh lol. I just figured it had something to do with European history.

 

[uhgr8]

I think having a preference is innocent enough. I think one of the things that stings a little that people don't realize is just how many ppl put ">insert race here< don't interact" in their bios lol. Like ew.. that's beyond just having a preference. I definitely have a preference, but if I met someone who I click with perfectly I'm not gonna send them packing because of their skin color.

 

[Wicked]

I don't think it's inherently racist? Though, it certainly can be when you start throwing in some certain situations and commentary that are... iffy.

Like, for me, it was never intentional. It started when I was a child and it was just 100% pure innocent attraction. I always for some reason crushed on the Asian boys in elementary school age or whatever and there was no intention behind that. It just simply happened. It was a natural thing?

However, I'm still attracted to other races for sure- especially when they hit the certain features I'm into. I recall being into geeky looking scrawny Elijah Wood-esque (hay frodo whaddup) guys for a hot minute in high school lol. And I think that's just it: I'm naturally into men who have smaller builds, etc. and, surprise, asians typically have that more commonly than not. Bulky/muscular/bearded/etc. does nothing for me and I was never into the Brad Pitt type that others of my age seemed to have been (I'll pass, thanks).

I hope that made sense idk.