Does anyone else only seek out relationships just to spite their bullies? (1 Viewer)

[matteoCFO]

I am 17, half-Mexican, and have high-functioning autism, I am intelligent and know three languages but mostly study my second well but also want to learn my third and study abroad for all these languages and know programming, I’ve also been working out for 3 months and eating healthy.

To be honest, I’m really strong and know Krav Maga and have been going to classes for it and I am trying to learn more Spanish and focus on my languages and what I’m doing.

But at the same time, I always get bullies
Online saying how None of those things will matter as long as I don’t have a relationship or girlfriend, which puts a lot of pressure on me and the reason why I seek random people out to date and have relationships with them.

This one bully had bullied me for months and then they said how me not having a relationship means I don’t have any worth and that unless I get one, none of my accomplishments or being stronger than them or having muscles or a six pack matter more than them.

I want to focus on studying my languages abroad and just focus on getting into information technology but I guess none of those things matter unless I supposedly get a relationship which isn’t even one of my main priorities and sometimes I feel it isn’t even possible because I have autism which means I have trouble with social skills and interpreting the world through a neurotypical point of view.

So basically, I only seek a relationship because I am forced to do so by bullies online, not because I actually want to, I know when I do get a relationship, they will fail to make fun of me anymore, that’s really only my whole purpose with it tbh.

 

[athenaaa]

You should not seek out relationships because someone else wants you to. You should only do it if you want to, and if you don’t want to, that’s totally okay. It just leaves the other person sad if they found out you weren’t really interested in them

 

[izcream]

its your own life, you have control over it, not your bullies so why are you letting them determine how valid your accomplishments are? you do you. please don't get into a relationship just to get back at your bullies, its not worth it. besides, harassing people and forcing them to get into a relationship with you is just wrong on so many levels, especially when it involves a minor