How important are secrets to you? (1 Viewer)

[Myco]

I mean I can keep secrets, I wouldn't build my whole life around it tho so i guess not that important for myself?

 

[OnlyCalB]

Do you trust someone enough to divulge something you hold dear, and wish them to not tell anyone else, for whatever reason?
Not really. If I have something that I don't want anyone to know, it's probably going to the grave with me. The only person in my life I trust enough to tell a heavy secret is my mom and, well, not everything is appropriate to come from a daughter to a mother xD

Does someone trust you enough that they've told you something they hold close to their chest?
I've always been quiet, so my friends often used me as a soundboard and a secret keeper. I did not like being told secrets. Secrets are a burden sometimes. Secrets can make you look at people differently. Secrets told by people who don't actually want accountability are the worst.

Have you ever revealed someone else's secret, when you weren't supposed to, for whatever reason? If so, why?
Yes. To my mom. In high school, my friend thought she was pregnant but could not buy her own test. I had my mom buy it. So, while I didn't divulge the entirety of what my friend had been up to, the implication was enough.

Has someone revealed your secret that you told them not to tell anyone?
How did you feel after you found out?
Nope because I don't share 'em. Well, my mom tells all my business to all her sisters, but other than that xD

Secrets can be a burden indeed. Hopefully your friends tell you secrets because they simply trust you, not to burden you just to share accountability :).

Revealing a part of your friend's secret in order to help them is more than understandable :).

 

[OnlyCalB]

I mean I can keep secrets, I wouldn't build my whole life around it tho so i guess not that important for myself?

Fair enough. Sometimes it's best not to burden yourself with such things as at times, secrets can feel like weight lol.

 

[OnlyCalB]

I don't open up to many people and for that reason if I get told to keep something a secret then I will as it should be up to that person if they want their information shared and who to.

Indeed. Secrets have responsibility and it's on behalf of someone that trusts you. :)

 

[Jimimis]

My sisters love to lie about me and one of the things they spread was that I can’t keep secrets. And so I was never included into anything

I have exactly two secrets in my life that I think I’d rather die than have get out

 

[OnlyCalB]

My sisters love to lie about me and one of the things they spread was that I can’t keep secrets. And so I was never included into anything

I have exactly two secrets in my life that I think I’d rather die than have get out

Siblings are often the ones to reveal your secrets before anyone else. It's almost strange isn't it that that is the case?

 

[Tickita]

Secrets are important to keep, but I think I wouldn't leave it at "Okay, I'll keep it". If your secret is something that has major consequences, I'd ask you if you know the risks. If I see that you're being negatively affected by your secret, I'd ask you if you'd like to talk to someone -- of course, still not being forceful or revealing it to anyone or trying to solve it, just caring about you.

I have been told a secret, but I've never revealed any. I haven't told anyone a secret.

 

[Jimimis]

Siblings are often the ones to reveal your secrets before anyone else. It's almost strange isn't it that that is the case?

Got so lucky wow

 

[OnlyCalB]

Got so lucky wow

Hopefully one day your siblings can learn to show you more respect. :)

 

[OnlyCalB]

Secrets are important to keep, but I think I wouldn't leave it at "Okay, I'll keep it". If your secret is something that has major consequences, I'd ask you if you know the risks. If I see that you're being negatively affected by your secret, I'd ask you if you'd like to talk to someone -- of course, still not being forceful or revealing it to anyone or trying to solve it, just caring about you.

I have been told a secret, but I've never revealed any. I haven't told anyone a secret.

This is true. Some secrets actually come from a place of desperation. So if someone tells you a secret yet it's obvious they need help or something, it's best to encourage them to get the help they need etc.

 

[Jimimis]

Hopefully one day your siblings can learn to show you more respect. :)

hah i wish

 

[OnlyCalB]

hah i wish

Are you the oldest or youngest? I guess if you are younger then achieving respect will be more difficult lol.

 

[Jimimis]

Are you the oldest or youngest? I guess if you are younger then achieving respect will be more difficult lol.

I'm the oldest very pathetic

 

[OnlyCalB]

I'm the oldest very pathetic

I'm rooting for you to gain the respect your siblings should show you!

 

[Jimimis]

I'm rooting for you to gain the respect your siblings should show you!

even kps shows me no respect!!!!

 

[OnlyCalB]

even kps shows me no respect!!!!

How so?

 

[Jimimis]

How so?

no one cares about my threads!

 

[OnlyCalB]

no one cares about my threads!

Do you tag anyone for your threads?

 

[Jimimis]

Do you tag anyone for your threads?

TOO MUCH WORK

 

[OnlyCalB]

TOO MUCH WORK

I don't often make these random threads to be honest. But I quickly found out that if you don't tag people, then there won't be too many people that interact with it. So I made a small tag list of people I interact with most on this forum and all of a sudden the thread picked up. :)

So I'm definitely going to make a tag list of "friends" so that I can use it for these kinds of threads I make.

You should do the same, you'd be surprised by how much it works. Also include those people that you do actually see interact with your threads, even if you haven't tagged them :).