how long do you think you should date before getting married? (1 Viewer)

[GOJOSWIFE]

so there's this video by one of my faves, rebal:




and in the video he discusses a couple who is dating for 6 years but the mans won't tie the knot.


i think 6 years is a while. and imagine dating someone for 10 like ur basically married atp.

if my bf isn't on one knee by 2027 we're gonna have issues!!!

 

[athenaaa]

Idk, it really depends on each couple but ig 5 years or so is a good number

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

Idk, it really depends on each couple but ig 5 years or so is a good number

it is!!!

 

[Myth]

ohhh... I think that would vary from couple to couple ig.

Obviously doing it too soon like a week or so wouldn't be good, but I think whenever both parties feel comfortable tying the knot would be best in most cases.

(sorry that's a very wish washy answer, but yk, it's hard to put like exact numbers when situations and people vary...)

 

[athenaaa]

it is!!!

Cause you don't wanna rush into things but at the same time if it's too long, hurry up and tie the knot (if thats what the couple wants ofc)

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

ohhh... I think that would vary from couple to couple ig.

Obviously doing it too soon like a week or so wouldn't be good, but I think whenever both parties feel comfortable tying the knot would be best in most cases.

(sorry that's a very wish washy answer, but yk, it's hard to put like exact numbers when situations and people vary...)

A WEEK HELPPPP omg imagine getting married after a week of dating

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

Cause you don't wanna rush into things but at the same time if it's too long, hurry up and tie the knot (if thats what the couple wants ofc)

ur so real for this juney

 

[athenaaa]

ur so real for this juney

Thanks! Do you see urself getting married? Ik I want to

 

[Magician]

it always depends on the couple
i personally think marriage is not important and more of a hassle, so i have no problem to wait 10 years lol

 

[centen]

Marriage doesn't interest me. I guess, if I find someone I really love who it's very important to him or we need it for, idk, health insurance or something, I guess, but I'm not that inclined to sign a contract for funsies.

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

Thanks! Do you see urself getting married? Ik I want to

yes! my current partner is amazing and we have discussed living together

 

[athenaaa]

yes! my current partner is amazing and we have discussed living together

Awww thats great! Same with mine, except there’s a bit of a border issue to deal with first lol

 

[kiki]

2-5 unless you both have agreed to not get married

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

2-5 unless you both have agreed to not get married

PERIOD. AND AMAZING AESTHETIC

 

[Tickita]

There are different ways to do this, I think. If you know you don't want marriage, I think you should tell your partner in the beginning.

If you do, you should at least have a conversation about it by the 3rd year of dating. It's better than not saying anything and wondering if your partner wants to get married in the first place.

And then get married when it's right. There could be factors as to why people are waiting long. Finances, education, age, etc. As long as there is a seriousness about marriage, and the conversation and/or engagement has happened, I think the act should take place when both feel ready.

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

There are different ways to do this, I think. If you know you don't want marriage, I think you should tell your partner in the beginning.

If you do, you should at least have a conversation about it by the 3rd year of dating. It's better than not saying anything and wondering if your partner wants to get married in the first place.

And then get married when it's right. There could be factors as to why people are waiting long. Finances, education, age, etc. As long as there is a seriousness about marriage, and the conversation and/or engagement has happened, I think the act should take place when both feel ready.

i love u for this.

 

[ichigohon]

I've been in a lot of different bubbles, so I think whatever both partners feel comfortable with is completely fine. For example, I only date to marry and I'd feel completely comfortable getting married after less than a year with a future partner with no qualms.


This video is a good example of the Orthodox Jewish marriage bubble

 

[hxney_jun]

tbh time is a very subjective thing. but i think anything over like 8 ish months seems okay to me

 

[GOJOSWIFE]

I've been in a lot of different bubbles, so I think whatever both partners feel comfortable with is completely fine. For example, I only date to marry and I'd feel completely comfortable getting married after less than a year with a future partner with no qualms.


This video is a good example of the Orthodox Jewish marriage bubble

i only date to marry too. and tbh i agree with some of ur sentiment too LMAO sometimes you just know

 

[ichigohon]

i only date to marry too. and tbh i agree with some of ur sentiment too LMAO sometimes you just know

I think as long as you have a firm pre-nuptial agreement that basically states what your expectations are going into the marriage and what your expectations are if the marriage ends then you can avoid the nasty bits of divorce. I just think a lot of people date with their preferences and not their core values so 5-10 years into the marriage you realised you're sleeping next to a stranger and that build resentment.