I’m stuck in a living situation I really want out of (rant) (1 Viewer)

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I don’t bring up much of my personal life on here because I hate to bother people with the problems of my life, but I need to vent.
:uwu:
I’ve made a few comments about my mom’s husband and how he and I don’t get along and that I do everything I can to avoid him. I’m not rude to him at all, I know avoiding him might seem rude to some but it’s either that or I have to deal with a stressful situation like I did today (I’ll get to that soon).

Why do we not get along? So many reasons :soob:
He’s done some things that I won’t get into detail with, but that entire fiasco (Happened about 9 years ago I think) completely opened up my eyes about what kind of person he is and because of the things that my mom and I went through because of the situation I haven’t cared enough to keep a good relationship with him. He’s the same person as he was 9 years ago, if he tried to work on himself and put in the effort, sure I’d consider it but the longer he continues to be a very unpleasant person, I don’t want anything to do with him. Hopefully you all see where I’m coming from.

Some other things he’s done is make racist remarks about Hispanics (I’m half Hispanic)
Any time I (or my mom) ask him to do something like take out the trash or even just making conversation, if we say it in a wrong way to him he’ll get extremely angry.
Last year when I had to euthanize my cat who’s like my child he pretended nothing happened and expected my mom and I to not be grieving her loss. A few months later my bird died and he thought I was overreacting because I was crying over losing a parakeet.

I know I didn’t have to list all of that, but I just wanted you all to try to understand my pov.

So, what happened today? I was out in the living room, my mom had asked him to give our dogs water outside because their water had frozen. He came inside with their bowl and one of the chickens water bowls that had also frozen. I asked him if he could put it back outside because it’s gross and I didn’t want him filling it up in our sink. And because he’s the most mature 50 year old dude he storms out of the house, throws the bowl outside and starts slamming doors, throwing more things around. This is what happens 80% of the time I talk to him…
But then 10 minutes after this outburst, he acts as if nothing happened and expects my mom and I to do the same, but also making it clear that in his eyes I was in the wrong for asking him to put a gross chicken bowl back outside.
:jisoosmh:
I had to leave the house for a few hours to compose myself because I couldn’t stop crying because I was so frustrated by the fact that I can’t get out of this living situation. I’m unable to move out for multiple reasons so I really can’t do anything. I’m completely stuck in a mentally exhausting situation and it feels incredibly unfair.

Rant over, I shall bring you lighter threads hopefully tomorrow
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i know there's not much we can do for you but please don't feel pressured to stay cheerful! we care about u and want you to be able to be your true self and have your true feelings. i'm so sorry that this is happening to you and you don't deserve it. we are all here for you !!!
 
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I'm sorry you have to go through that I get you I have a brother whos the exact same I really hope things get better eventually and theres a solution <3
 
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umm...what is your mother doing about all of this?
does she not see the way he treats you and her?

it seems like your stepfather is very much an AH but it seems he's always been an AH

the real question is why isn't your mother doing more to protect you (aka her child) from all this abuse?
 
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That sucks,

I wish you could move out from there.
People who are like that scum of the earth,
 
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this hun, I unfortunately related to some of the things you said :pepecry2: If only I could kidnap you and protect you forever :catcry:
I’d happily be kidnapped by you :sanapray:You’d have to kidnap my cats and chickens too.
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I’m so sorry to hear that this is happening to you Wing. :( I’m glad that you were able to share about all of these things with us. I’m also not in a good current living situation either so I understand how you feel. You are strong and amazing, don’t forget that. ❤
 
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I am so sorry to read about your living situation.
I can imagine how you feel and please use this place to rant out your frustrations!
Keeping it all to yourself is not good and if you don't have someone irl to vent to, this is a great spot.

From what I've read, your mom seems to be aware how much of a bad person he is and is aware of his issues with containing his anger.
Is there a specific reason why they stay together?
You are her child. It is her job to keep you safe and in a stable home.
I hope you can talk to her about how you feel and hope she'll realize that she needs to prioritize her own kid over a man.
 
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