yes it is. i feel that same struggle with hindi and bengali and sometimes english
like in hindi pronouns aren't necessarily gendered, but verbs, adjectives, etc are. and i didn't realise this until very recently. and i'm pretty sure msot speakers wouldn't have really noticed.
and much like french, in hindi there's grammatical gender for even inanimate objects. but bengali doesn't even have it, in fact, even verbs and adjectived aren't accorded to the gender of the noun (for example, in the sentence "that small girl went", "small" and "went" would have feminine endings in hindi, but in bengali there's only one form of "small" and "went" which aren't gendered. hopefully this makes sense idk). now ask me to explain that and i wouldn't
but it's different for languages you formally learn ofc