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I am getting down on my hands and knees praying Saturday will be called off. The anxiety over it all is killing me. It’ll be worse when it comes around. I can’t deal with this anymore. I need to go back to therapy.
This isn’t just “nerves”. It’s bigger than ye think. I’m sick of feeling this way, and I’ve talked to ye looking for help. You’ve done nothing though. I can’t live my life like this.
 

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so... my boyfriend's dad hasn't been doing so well in his second battle against cancer. today out of the blue though, they had to take him to the emergency room where they tested him to check if the cancer had spread to his head... the results came back that it did.

he was already kind of against the idea of receiving treatment for his cancer (although he ended up choosing to get it) but now... we're basically just watching and waiting for his death. of course this is affecting my boyfriend, throwing him into a depressive state where he just doesn't want to do anything. i need some advice on how to help him cope. while i've had family members pass from cancer before, they were my non-immediate family rather than my closest.
I may be able to help because my grandmother has had cancer 4 times, and eventually to the point she had to have surgery on her breasts to remove it. She always told me what she enjoyed was just people being there for her, doing the things she likes, and even some small activities. I think that’s a good idea. It’s difficult to cope with such news at this and it left me distraught too. But what’s important is the time you spent with them while they go through treatment. Scrapbooks, drawing, watching movies, ordering some take out they enjoy, and even some craft activities. Coping is reassuring them that they have someone to lean on during this difficult time and that you’ll be here through the whole battle. There are some therapeutic activities and even the suggestion of therapy itself may help. Your boyfriend is just not used to waiting for things like this, and it really is hard, but I was always checking on my grandmother and she told me just being there for her was enough It’s best to have an optimistic approach to this while also absorbing how his father feelings during it. My grandmother is 76, and was first diagnosed with cancer at 36. The fact she was able to beat it so many times even with many medical issues was a feat, and her advice to me was to never just be scared of the worst outcome, but to be open to many while still spending time with her and others. Just be there for your boyfriend and also do the things he like to do while also doing the things the father loves as well. A support system is what cancer victims really do need, and their loved ones.
 
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This isn’t just “nerves”. It’s bigger than ye think. I’m sick of feeling this way, and I’ve talked to ye looking for help. You’ve done nothing though. I can’t live my life like this.
Hello, Sunsprout. You are entitled to your feelings, and it can never just be nerves. Just know if this something that truly harms your mental state, and well being. You should never feel you have to go to something, or forced to. I’ve had extreme stress when it came to attending events, and it left me feeling sick. I would take a hot soak, do something with my hair, and just kind of have a special day the day before, and even if I decided not to attend the event. If you are feeling this way then you should always call it off unless it’s something you feel you really have to do. Just remember to take a deep breathe, and list off all the things that make it where you need to go, and also list the cons and even say is this being fair to yourself if it’s putting heavy stress on you. Remember. You come first, and you’re still strong where you pick yourself first. I wish you luck. :pandalove:
 
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i cant carry the burden.. i know its my fault. i know why she did it, because of me.
but is it all my fault? was i the only one that brought her to that state? the state of mind she was in?
was it me, myself, and only me? was it only my fault? no one told me to say that, only my head. and only her, only her- she was the only reason that happened, right? not me, not my fault. she didnt have to, right? she could have held on, right? it wasnt my fault, but it was.
i told her it wouldnt work out and i knew what she had said about it before. but i didnt think she could actually do it
but i'll never know right? i'll never know what she did right? she'll never tell me. she'll never talk to me again right?
because it wasn't only me, it was everyone. but is it really everyone elses fault? in the end, it was me who cut her last string.
it was me.
 

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I hate feeling like I'm nothing but a piece of shit and a loser. Everyday is the same routine. I'll leave the house for maybe a half hour at most (if I decide to leave that day), and going anywhere half the time makes me too anxious and I can't stand it. Then I just come home, play games, sleep, and try to cure any boredom I feel most of the time. But I'm getting to where I just feel burnt out and almost nothing keeps interest right now.

I was doing so well until I finished college last year and then suddenly my anxiety and agoraphobia decided to worsen. I was able to go into bigger stores, and other places that used to make me super anxious. Just when I finally felt like I could actually work for once and make my own money, everything suddenly went to shit and for the past 7 months I feel so overwhelmed by leaving the house. I just wish I could go back to where I was, able to leave the house with little to no anxiety.

I just feel like a complete loser. I'm almost 26 and still have never been able to work, go out on dates, make friends, etc. I've missed out on so many things and I'm getting any younger here. I've missed on a lot teenage experiences and now most things you'd experience in your 20's. I'm just so frustrated with it all. It just makes me feel like a complete loser. I hate agoraphobia so much..
 
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if he doesnt come to school tomorrow.
if he doesnt respond to my texts tonight.
if he doesnt read my message tonight.
if he doesnt snap me back by the morning.
if he leaves me
 
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I really don't understand what's wrong with me? I feel fine then I feel guilty? I thought maybe a break would help but it's really not helping. I just thought I was making her miserable and that I truly don't deserve her. I just felt guilty because I feel like I'm not good enough for her, she is amazing I don't really think that I deserve her.
 
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i'd give anything to be asleep forever instead of being awake right now
 
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i feel like im nothing, hes the only thing keepin me at peace. hes not even my boyfriend.
my boyfriend doesnt talk to me anymore. my best friend doesnt either, just him. he cant leave, please
 

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I don't understand why you love me so much. Like I appreciate it, but why? I'm such a failure, I'm toxic, I'm a horrible person. What's so special about me? Cause I don't see it. Enough people hate me, wouldn't that be much easier? I'm sorry for being a constant disappointment. You deserve better than me but I don't want to lose you. Why am I like this?
 

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I don't understand why you love me so much. Like I appreciate it, but why? I'm such a failure, I'm toxic, I'm a horrible person. What's so special about me? Cause I don't see it. Enough people hate me, wouldn't that be much easier? I'm sorry for being a constant disappointment. You deserve better than me but I don't want to lose you. Why am I like this?
you arent toxic mahhi, you may have done sum not good things to make some people think you are.. but you said sorry and learned from your mistakes.
anyone would be lucky to have such a supportive friends like you, im sorry you feel this way.. fr this time
 

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you arent toxic mahhi, you may have done sum not good things to make some people think you are.. but you said sorry and learned from your mistakes.
anyone would be lucky to have such a supportive friends like you, im sorry you feel this way.. fr this time
Thank you xi, this honestly means a lot, you're a good friend :pepecry2:
Like I know you're right, I have apologized and meant it, and have learned. But it's like I' screaming out and the people I want to listen won't. I know I need to let them go, but I stuggle. And when someone sincere and true enters my life, I get so scared they'll leave. Everyone else has, what's different this time?
 

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Thank you xi, this honestly means a lot, you're a good friend :pepecry2:
Like I know you're right, I have apologized and meant it, and have learned. But it's like I' screaming out and the people I want to listen won't. I know I need to let them go, but I stuggle. And when someone sincere and true enters my life, I get so scared they'll leave. Everyone else has, what's different this time?
im sure cereal wont leave you,, and those other ppl? dont matter. they arent good ppl anyway, maybe they r- just 70% of their intentions rnt good..
 

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im sure cereal wont leave you,, and those other ppl? dont matter. they arent good ppl anyway, maybe they r- just 70% of their intentions rnt good..
She's a good one, I want to spend the rest of my life with her I swear. She's been there for me through thick and thin. She actually listens to my feelings and respects me as a person. Which is different considering my past (insert trauma here) but I appreciate it so much. And as for other people, part of me wishes I didn't open up to them cause now they know my insecurities and exactly what bothers me. If only time travel was possible. It's just hard to believe good things if most of what I've been told is bad: toxic, obsessive, stupid, worthless, property, waste of space.
 
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I'm so sick of myself, I was in the hallway walking by my crush and his friend didn't see me because he was on the other side and his friend said that my crush liked me- I was straight up blushing bro but then my crush pulled him aside and said "she is right there" then he shouted "that ugly person, why do you like her" I was about 2 cry, I ran 2 the bathroom, idk why but people commented on my appearance a lot 2 day which I really didn't like :/ also, there is this one person who I will tell them about something and then they have 2 do something 2 be even with me or something? It's not a contest, I put trust into that person and all they do is care abt themselves, I wish I could be a different person sometimes, maybe prettier and weighed a little less lmao, I hate it when people act like I haven't gone through some shit to, comparing trauma is stupid its not a contest to see who is more emotionally damaged?
 
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