before you take someone's opinion to heart, ask yourself if you even like how they think, if the way they think even aligns with you as a person, if they demonstrated an ability to understand you, because sometimes we really do tie ourselves in knots over opinions that we don't even value the thinking process behind. step back and assess how people make you feel, rather than how you make them feel. notice if they appear condescending or project their insecurities onto you or if they engage in attempts to put you down to make themselves feel superior. while they might have reasons behind their actions you can empathize with and understand from an observant perspective, it doesn't mean you are required to allow it in your life. what's not healthy for you isn't meant for you. see yourself as a person you want only the best for, and things around you will change, and you'll quickly realize who finds your boundaries unpleasant. this makes life easier for you, not harder.