people deserve closure (1 Viewer)

[kodoku]

I've been thinking about it a lot and I think it's such an important thing. I always found it hard to move on but people have also lead me on and not given me honest answers. It's really a bad thing to do. I get it..... it's scary and unpleasant, and you just don't care anymore.....but please be strong, be brave and tell the truth (in a respectful way ofc). It's very hard never knowing why something ended or someone walked away from you :/

what are your thoughts on this? are you perhaps currently dealing with the same thing? feel free to share........

 

[Mew]

Closure is important as it puts people's mind at ease. It gives a reason for the divide between two people. Alot of people do linger on previous relationships, and have self doubt or hold grudges which affect new relationships which in turn cast a negative outlook destroying new relationships.
Closure is important for self reflection especially since most people say it always the other person who's at fault but sometimes it can be ultimately you, then other people tend not to want to hurt the people their distancing from even more, by stating exactly where the fault lies.

Closure only works if your willing to be 100% honest with someone about your faults and theirs. Alot of people perfer the quick escape and perfer not to hurt someone more even though they've already hurt someone by breaking of the relationship.
relationship in this context I mean both romantic and platonic friendship relationships.

 

[kuro]

i 100% agree, closure on tough situations is very important to me. i can only imagine living with the guilt of not coming clean to someone else, or not getting the full details from someone about a past relationship

 

[dark_tranquility]

I've never gotten the closure I really wanted and it sort of bugs me, but I have to let it go one day.
From parents and ex friends.

In terms of other people, I usually avoid doing that and just slip out of their lives quietly.

Usually if I told them how I was really feeling, this is to folks of my past.
It would just cause drama and tension that is unwanted.

A lot of people can't handle the truth about themselves, when it's in a negative light.

 

[jasque]

Depends, sometimes it's not worth the trouble.

In the case of romantic relationships i think it's fair though, ending it by text or something is inhuman.

 

[yeji]

closure and honesty is important. moving on is so much harder if someone is trying to play you or isn’t giving you answers that you should be getting. sadly humans tend to be egotistical and think of what servers them more without looking at the people besides them.

 

[kodoku]

Depends, sometimes it's not worth the trouble.

In the case of romantic relationships i think it's fair though, ending it by text or something is inhuman.

At this point, I'd appreciate at least a text