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[kodoku]

I'm always thinking.. a lot of people always think they're the victim and resent those who have hurt them, but don't recognize that they do the same to others....... so.. who are the poeple you have failed and in what way did you do it?

Spoiler: me

I failed my two friends I used to be really close to, I really messed up by being selfish and not realizing that I was. I really regret hurting them back then, even now that they're over it and moved on.. and I also failed myself many times by messing up and not doing the things I said I would..

 

[potato]

I failed a friend. I never saw anything wrong with her at all, nor did I think she was a dislikeable person - rather likeable actually. But my class was mean to her, they said some terrible things to her and I was a spectator. Although I wasn't directly involved with anything, the fact that I didn't talk to her or console her during those times makes me feel as if I failed her. I could have helped her. I could have eased her pain, even if it was just by a little bit.

Our class has done a complete 180 now. We all absolutely adore her. But failing her taught me that if a situation like that happens ever again in the future, I wouldn't be just a bystander. I would do my utmost best to help that person, even if it involves getting shunned myself.

 

[Belgizen]

I am really awkward when people talk about mental health stuff.
I was raised to not talk about it as it's "a cry for attention".
I try to be there for my (online) friends, but I notice that I don't do a good job comforting them in such a situation, especially when others are comforting them very well.
Once, I had someone even say how I was a bad friend cuz I didn't react the right way to their problems.
I still try but I've mentioned to some people I chat with that I am really awkward with it.

 

[wayvoutsold]

After making a friend very uncomfortable, she stopped talking to me entirely. I made a few attempts to talk to her again, but she was not responding. I do think that the situation could have been handled a lot better and I regret a lot of what I did.

 

[yeji]

I think it definitely goes both way. I definitely failed some friends. I might have not let them get closer to me. But they also didn’t try to reach out after school themselves

 

[raymondchouku]

When I was 15 I did a series of things that are not right: (1) Acted like an immature, ratchet, know it all that led to a fight that lost a friend; (2) Wasn't supportive to my gay friend in relation to him being gay... Its so clique that a gay male is unsupportive of another gay male... That really was probably projected by my own internalized homophobia at the time, but I digress.

 

[Deleted member 74]

My parents, and it's something I think they thankfully don't notice because I used to have arguments, especially with my Dad, and I'm sure they thought I was just in a bad mood. But I was trying to get several points across and realised that just because I feel a certain way, doesn't mean I have to make others feel that bad either. So I stopped and promised myself to never do that again.

 

[Wooyoungie]

Iskreno, sada mi od prve nitko ne pada na pamet... ali vjerujem da je bilo osoba koje je zadesila neka nepravda, a ja nisam reagirala i pomogla im, nego promatrala sa strane i zbog toga mi je zao :'(